 carmium
Female, 50-59, Canada
 4017 Posts
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Friday, August 31, 2012 2:21:01 PM
First off: I'm not a doctor, but I've had some experience with TG people during my hospital clinic rotations, 'kay?
Comment: If your boy wears dresses, plays house and Barbies, and wants you to call him Monica, chances are pretty good he's transgendered. Deal with it as you think best for him/her. Many today would treat such a child as a girl. But making Dad into a neither/nor figure by dressing him in women's clothes is only going to create confusion for the kid and is not going to help the situation. It only blurs gender lines for the child, who should be taught that being either male or female is okay and acceptable. If they want to be progressive and helpful, they might let him/her grow longer hair so as to fit in better in public. |
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 panth753
Female, 18-29, Midwest US
8124 Posts
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Thursday, August 30, 2012 10:46:29 AM
Good for him. |
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 OldOllie
Male, 50-59, Midwest US
8710 Posts
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Thursday, August 30, 2012 9:11:49 AM
@Listypoos I'll refrain from insults, because you might not be a native English speaker. However, I would recommend you learn how to use a dictionary before you embarrass yourself this way again. |
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 Misfit-Mutt
Female, 18-29, Midwest US
292 Posts
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Thursday, August 30, 2012 8:40:05 AM
This is a good story. It takes a real man to step out of his personal comfort zone to support his child in his or her harmless wants. Too many men are too afraid to do anything remotely feminine. Why? Because a lot of men are afraid to be like women, because of our society's misogynistic view of what and who women are. For a civilized society, I don't see many that are really civil.
Why shouldn't he support his son? Because of what people think? People are full of excrement. At least the ones who form most of their opinions on what the mass of our culture supposedly thinks. The democracy is a little more than frightening. (I say we burn them to death because they're witches!) I can't wait to not be around people for a while. |
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 AvatarJohn
Male, 30-39, Southern US
475 Posts
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Thursday, August 30, 2012 6:49:55 AM
Really, Listypoos? 20% of the population is transvestites? The U.S. has 62,000,000 transvestites? Or is that just based on the skewed, bizarre, morally bankrupt society that you live in across the pond over there?
Bottom line: This guy is a bad parent. He needs to not ever procreate ever again so he can't ruin any more lives with his insanity. |
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 Listypoos
Male, 30-39, Europe
1472 Posts
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Thursday, August 30, 2012 4:50:05 AM
"Actually, we didn't have any transvestites in my kindergarten class"
If you had more than 10 kids there, then chances are you had at least 2... |
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OldOllie
Male, 50-59, Midwest US
8710 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 10:47:30 PM
I'm surprised you can remember that far back OldOllie...
Actually, we didn't have any transvestites in my kindergarten class. At any rate, we probably wouldn't have beaten them -- just made fun of them till they ran away crying. |
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 RoboPatton
Male, 30-39, Western US
1947 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 10:34:55 PM
Alt title:
"dad helps weird kid by drawing tons of attention to him" |
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 imnakdjumpme
Male, 18-29, Western US
595 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 4:14:52 PM
spanerbulb, so is it irresponsible to play chess with your child and support them joining a math or science club?
Make sure they dont take dance or sing or make arts & crafts too.
Any form of expression that doesnt involve sports or toy army men should be avoided. |
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 spanerbulb
Male, 30-39, Europe
889 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 1:58:13 PM
Silly and irresponsible, we can all probably agree that in a perfect world it shouldn't matter that his boy wears a dress but unfortunately in reality the boy faces the real possibility of being the subject of rather a lot of bullying. |
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 MattPrince
Male, 40-49, Europe
2221 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 11:23:14 AM
I'm surprised you can remember that far back OldOllie... |
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OldOllie
Male, 50-59, Midwest US
8710 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 10:35:53 AM
I think he's setting him up for the day he starts school when the other boys will beat the gay out of him. |
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 SarahofBorg
Female, 18-29, Eastern US
3526 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 9:47:01 AM
When I was five my mom had to teach me not to wear a patterned top with a patterned bottom. Kids that young don't have fashion sense.
Anyway if the boy wants to wear a dress I don't care, but I also don't see how the dad is helping. |
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 greenbasterd
Male, 18-29, Canada
2125 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 9:38:04 AM
LOL ya when i was 2 i prolly tried putting on a dress to. then my parents told me that boys don't wear dresses so i took it off and wore some pants.
this kids dad said oh ill wear one to... IDIOT.. the kid aint a cross dresser, hes a 2 year old.. the dad is the cross dresser, using his kid to hide his gayness. |
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imnakdjumpme
Male, 18-29, Western US
595 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 8:39:56 AM
My daughter likes wearing pants so i thought i should probably put some pants on too...
I understand if you demand that your kid dresses a certain way at 5 years old, but dont tell someone its wrong if you think its odd if another parent allows their child to wear what they like, or to dress a certain way for fear of bullying.
5 year olds are definately already developing their own fashion tastes and this is not inappropiate or indecent, so kudos to the dad to support his child and teaching him that it would be the bully that is wrong. i just hope the father gives the son a disclaimer that this will almost surely draw someone to pick on him. |
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Listypoos
Male, 30-39, Europe
1472 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 8:10:44 AM
" and it appears that in my "out of bed for 15 minutes and about to head to work" mental state I somewhat muddied my point."
Fairy nuff.... that's usually how my entire day goes. |
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 Quackor
Male, 18-29, S. America
2665 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 8:00:14 AM
dickheads will most likely pick on him whether he is wearing a dress or be a common kid with pants, they are dickheads |
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 Swash
Male, 30-39, Australia
224 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 7:12:36 AM
@ Listypoos - where in my post did I say the kid was homosexual? In the interest of not ranting for pages I deleted a bunch of stuff about how children shouldn't have a sexual identity before I posted and it appears that in my "out of bed for 15 minutes and about to head to work" mental state I somewhat muddied my point.
I stated I have no problem with homosexuality to qualify that my point of view is not coming from that point of view but from the pure behavioural angle. |
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 Gerry1of1
Male, 50-59, Western US
25554 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 7:11:45 AM
@ Mysterycat00 - but did your dad dress up with long hair & skirt to encourage you?
That's what's in question here - not the kids behavior, the adults. |
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 patchgrabber
Male, 30-39, Canada
5252 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 7:04:52 AM
I had thought that around age 4 is when children start recognizing discrete differences in gender, but I could be misremembering. |
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Mysterycat00
Male, 30-39, Eastern US
75 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 5:47:12 AM
When I was 5 (I'm male) I wore a towel around my waist like a "dress" and a scarf on my head for "long hair" because I have a sister and I thought it was cool that she could swish her hair around and I thought it was cool to swish a "dress" back and forth. By age 6 that phase was long gone and I never in my entire life have had the desire to wear a dress or have long hair or look in any way feminine! LOL! So I agree with what a lot of people are saying. The things you do at age 5 do not define the rest of your life! |
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Listypoos
Male, 30-39, Europe
1472 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 3:43:54 AM
Fair play really.... yeah he's gonna get picked on at times, but as long as his dad is also teaching him how to deal with the dickheads when it happens I don't see how this is a parenting fail.
Besides, if he gets a bloodied nose he could totally carry it off in that dress.... he'd have to watch out if he was wearing green though, then it would clash.
@Swash - where in the story does it say the 5yr old kid is homosexual? It says he likes dresses... nothing else. I take it you've not heard the stats that suggest most crossdressers are stright? Would you think your girlfriend had suddenly turned lesbian if she liked wearing your shirt round the house? |
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 5Cats
Male, 40-49, Canada
16886 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 3:28:39 AM
Yeah, because a 5 year old child KNOWS what the rest of his life will entail...
"I wanna be a cowboy! Just like Woody!!" Yup! |
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 Metalcraze
Male, 18-29, Southern US
100 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 2:48:53 AM
Poor kid is going to get owned in school,I hope he survives. |
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 robosnitz
Male, 40-49, Eastern US
2752 Posts
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Wednesday, August 29, 2012 2:15:03 AM
Gerry1of1 is OBVIOUSLY anti-gay. [Ahem.] |
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