First off sorry to hear about your dad, it sounds like it took it's toll on the whole family.
Second off, i never said to "just move on" i said you need to deal with it, as that is up to you, the reason why some people can handle it is becuase they do something differnt. They found a way to get it out of their system (which means other people can too). if you think it`s a dickish move to point out to someone that they can do something about whatever it is that is bothering them. Then i`m happy to be the biggest prick you ever saw. Judging by your reaction and the words you used, (which is all i got so excuse me if i got it wrong) you are now defending/protecting your dad, and angry at people who don`t acknowledge his pain. i hope you realise what that is doing to you and that you ask yourself. is this my burden to bare? or does this belong with my dad. You have your life to live, i hope any of this make sense to you.
Friday, July 5, 2013 7:58:10 PM
I thought she was really tired and starting to fall asleep. What I found selfish actually, was the bunch of people that didn't give a tiny little sh`it when she was wobbling at the edge of the pavement but were oh so worried when she fell. Only one person actually cared, but he was too late too.
Friday, July 5, 2013 2:26:07 PM
@MrOrange,while it is true a lot of people in the "rescue occupations" CAN just put these things behind them and move on, this is certainly NOT true for all of them. People deal with trauma differently. Some can move on, some "get stuck" and need help to get them through. Telling someone it's his own fault he`s getting nightmares or even PTSD is a dickish move. It won`t help them in the slightest. While in the end it might be what needs to happen, telling someone that is only going to make them feel guilty about feeling bad, get even more depressed, get even more stressed over being depressed, get even more nightmares due to increased stress, etc, etc.
My father did a stint on a road accident investigation team. He wasn`t properly counseled through some of the more serious crap he encountered. This led to a very severe case of PTSD, a burnout, suicidal thoughts and nearly the end of his marriage.
i wasn't aware of it being a competition? But if you want to look at it that way. I`m not the person who lets other people`s actions affect his live and cry woo is me. And you can read that just the way you want too.