Monday, March 25, 2013 6:56:23 AM
I don't understand why women don`t leave their abusive spouses, it took my mom 18 yrs. to leave my sick fu*ck of a father. It does happen on both sides though, one of my brother-in-laws dad was abused by his wife for their entire marriage (he never left, right up to his actually natural death). It happens, it sucks, but don`t blame the victim even if they are way too scared to save themselves (male OR female). The abuser makes sure they do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING they can to keep the victim there and under their thumb. Sad to say, but it works. Please don`t blame the victim.
I am glad to hear you are ok now. You hit the nail right on the head except for one thing I have seen very strong willed women who have ended up in the same situation as you, after years of the mental abuse, where the self esteem is worn down systematically by the abuser. It is the exact same process brainwashers use
Saturday, March 23, 2013 9:01:31 AM
Anyone who asks " Why didn't she just leave?" obviously does not know the cycle of abuse. The relationship starts fantastically it`s all love and hugs and kisses, then it starts simply, " You are useless, you are good for nothing , you are stupid" The abuser will always start with breaking you down mentally, then will start isolating you from all your friends and family, then may hit you , apologize and swear it will never happen again and you believe him because you need to, remember, he is now your only support now, and it won`t ( for a while ). Then it starts getting worse and at this point you believe it`s completely your fault. Then when you finally seek help you have finally reached the end of the rope ....quite literally. Fighting for your survival.
Saturday, March 23, 2013 3:07:52 AM
When I lived in a dorm, I was awake at an ungodly hour when I heard a ruckus outside my door; I looked out the peephole and saw a guy push a girl into the wall, she fell and hit her head, not enough to cause bleeding mind you. I slammed open the door, scaring him, but allowing her to retreat to safety. I stared him down for a minute or two before he slunk away in the opposite direction.
I later talked to her and told her if she needed help, to come seek me out, but she never did, but I hadn't seen the guy, or heard any disturbance ever again.