Saturday, June 2, 2012 6:52:56 AM
(... Continued) Our society - (near) universally) - works to protect females as "the weaker sex." And, physically, that's generally true. But, I don`t see how that`s true or relevant in cases where there`s no alleged physical assault.
Yes, boys are congratulated by their peers for sleeping with an older woman - perhaps, especially a teacher. But, again - if anything, that implies that a boy is subject to additional emotional pressures that are external to their own innate desires and a majority woman should be treated more harshly (than a man) for exploiting (or even subjecting herself to) these weaknesses.
Again, I don`t really buy that these situations should be treated any differently - but, if they are, it should go counter to what most here on IAB are arguing, in my opinion.
Saturday, June 2, 2012 6:47:52 AM
Overall, I agree with MacGuffin here. I believe that differentiating between 'man-girl` and `woman-boy` relationships (at this age) is based on an irrational bias.
Some here - including, most recently, LordJim below - argue that this is an inherent fantasy for boys of this age - and, by implication - not for girls of this age. If that`s the case, I`d say that`s an argument for why `woman-boy` relationships should be treated MORE strictly; fantasies on the part of the younger party not only don`t justify the relationship - they are support for the notion that the boys are more vulnerable (emotionally) to seduction and manipulation by the older party.
That`s not to suggest that I think they really should be treated more harshly - but, if it goes one direction vs. the other, I`d say that`s the direction it should go (based on that argument).
Saturday, June 2, 2012 6:24:00 AM
IIRC, for most teenage boys sex with an attractive older female is a common and powerful fantasy. Never happened to me, but it did for two friends and they have never expressed a scintilla of regret.
But she was a teacher and there are rules, one of which is you don't get to shag the students. Most schools are quite strict about that, except perhaps parochial schools.
Saturday, June 2, 2012 5:36:19 AM
Since several of you have expressed the view that girls are far more vulnerable than boys at age 16, perhaps some of you can explain what it is that's so different for them? Are girls just so mentally deficient that they can`t enter into `consensual` relationships with older people at that age, but boys can, do you think? I know it can`t be their physical strength that`s the problem, because no-one`s talking about sexual assault, where the female party is completely unwilling but forced to participate anyway - that`s clearly wrong whatever age she is. And, taking things further, if girls that age really are so psychologically vulnerable to sexual relationships, do you think that therefore means boys of the same age should be prevented from having sexual relationships with their less-mature female peers, perhaps with draconian sentences for male teenagers that have sexual relations with female teenagers, to protect those poor, innocent, naive female souls from damage?