Monday, May 28, 2012 11:23:25 PM
@taylor_stone, that seems a little selfish. old people struggle with modern culture, they may even resent the amount of freedom that we have now to do as we please. your grandad probably has no idea how to relate or talk to you so criticises you. maybe i'm wrong but i think aged relatives deserve our respect for what they have had to live through. would it kill you to dress nice the few times he visits? not everything is about you.
Monday, May 28, 2012 9:04:22 PM
@Suicism - My grandparents lived through the depression too. But truth is, some older folks grow to be miserable and condescending... like my grandfather for example. He's the kind of old man that refuses to accept today`s cultures. I wear black, have long hair, and listen to abrasive music... He touts these things as `unacceptable for intelligent young men`. I`d seriously rather have my eyes removed with rusty hooks than talk to him about ANYTHING. My grandmother is in the last stages of Alzheimer`s and couldn`t tell me anything about those interesting years of her life even if she wanted to. Being around them both is just miserable and pointless. I perfectly understand Leesah`s notion. It`s sometimes better to just avoid those people that you can`t get along with, even if they`re family.
Monday, May 28, 2012 7:30:31 PM
You know what Leesah - I will say this. I regret not being at the age of maturity required to truly engage my grandparents in conversation before they died. My grandmother lived through the Depression, and I was barely into adolescence before she passed on. How many insights or tidbits of wisdom could I have gleaned from that were I even in a position to know what questions to ask?
Too late now. So, albeit the type of conversation they may be trying to engage you in could be based around the parameters of politeness, or maybe they're just bad conversationalists, but if you breach a subject that they might have something to contribute to I`ll bet you`d get a lot out of it. Happy Memorial day.