Monday, May 22, 2006 11:25:19 AM
The article seems to be referring primarily to self-concept. We each hold an image of the person we would like to be - called the ideal self - and an image of the person we really are - the actual self. The greater the discrepancy between the ideal and actual selves, the greater levels of anxiety we experience, and therefore the more likely we are to lie to reduce the anxiety levels and preserve our self-esteem. Lying, therefore, can also be a defensive mechanism for preserving self-esteem, which is vitally important to social humans.
This article also seems to tie in cognitive dissonance.
For those of you interested in this article, I suggest you read up on both the terms I have mentioned, or take a Psychology class. Fascinating stuff, it is.
Saturday, May 20, 2006 9:17:30 PM
"Why would someone claim be to someone (s)he's not? That`s stupid... just be yourself!"
Telling a few white lies here and there isn`t "not being yourself" If you tell someone you`re an all star baseball player when you`re a scrawny pasty guy, then that`s not being yourself. But at least if the girl is nearsighted, you`ll get laid. So it`s better.