Father Grieved At Wrong Grave For 30 Years Due To Misplaced Headstone

Submitted by: fancylad 6 days ago in News & Politics

An excerpt from the BBC: George Salt's daughter Victoria died less than two days after being born in July 1988 and was buried at Southern Cemetery in Manchester. Mr Salt said he felt "let down" that he found out by being faced with an empty spot where the gravestone had been.

Manchester City Council apologised for the distress he has suffered. Mr Salt, who has visited the grave twice a year for 30 years, said: "I looked down and was completely gobsmacked. I thought 'where's the stone gone?'."

He then found the headstone, which marks a public grave containing the remains of Victoria and 16 others, in a different spot. The stone had been moved in error during the 1980s to a vacant plot, but the mistake was only discovered this year when cemetery workers checked records and moved it to the correct place.


"I just wasn't told. I feel so let down," Mr Salt said.

"When you go to a grave, you sit and talk and say what your troubles are but the annoying thing is you're talking to a piece of ground where she isn't there."

The council said they accepted something clearly went wrong in the 1980s and had offered "sincere apologies" to Mr Salt for the distress he has suffered.

The passing of time meant they were unable to say why it was moved to the wrong plot, the authority added.
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Male 2,461
Not to sound unfeeling here but if your talking to dead, people does it really matter where you or they are?
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Male 332
casaledana I was thinking that, but it's still important for him, not the passed-on one.
Otherwise, why bother to actually go there? just do it from home eh? That's the whole reason they do go there... well most of it.
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Male 2,461
gohikineko   Ya I understand the need to feel close to the deceased. But I mean, your talking to the dead or you know       "what ever"
   Personally both my parents died together and were cremated and scattered at sea, when really feel I what to be close to them I just go outside and stand by the river that runs by my house, I know that it runs to the sea, Or I just go stand over the toilet.
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Male 332
casaledana Both go to the same place eventually :/

But yeah, the 'physical connection' is very important to some and rightfully so. Mistakes happen and it's good it was corrected at all, but could have been handled a bit better.
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Male 1,413
casaledana I agree.  TBH, the headstone has more meaning that what lies beneath.  
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Male 43,787
Manchester .... figures.

It's "Manchester United"   not Men United!

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Male 4,079
well, im someone with a real sense of black humor. why is there a red squiggly line under humor? humour? im not writing humour. anyways, as i was saying im someone with a real sense of black humor. so, personally, i think this is absolutely hilarious. i feel for the man, i really do, and i want to tell him not to worry and that every time he visited his daughter she still heard him no matter where her remains really were. but oh my god that is hilarious. that poor man. im sorry, im an evil person. i laugh when little kids die horribly in horror movies. have you guys seen hereditary? one of the best horror movies ive ever seen. sorry im ranting on about dead kids in horror movies on this post about this poor mans story about visiting the wrong grave. if there is a hell im pretty sure thats where im going. oh man you know what i just realized? the death scene in pet cemetary is absolutely epic! and the beginning of a quiet place! ok im going to stop now.
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Male 43,787
robthelurker 
"humor" is the american spelling and "humour" is the correct spelling.
It depends on which dictionary you have turned on on your computer.
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Male 7,960
Gerry1of1 I'm not turning on any dictionaries. I have a hard enough time getting most ankles aroused.
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Male 43,787
squrlz4ever Bad joke. I'm taking away your exercise wheel privileges 
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Male 7,960
Gerry1of1 Are we back to the gerbil thing again? ~Squrlz' forepaws raise in Rant Mode~ Not a gerbil! ~points to fluffy tail~ Gray squirrel. Sciurus carolinensis! Bah! ~stalks off~
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Male 1,043
squrlz4ever "Sciurus carolinensis!"

Well that explains it. The gray squirrels in my walnut trees are Sciurus griseus.
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Male 7,960
semichisam01 Say hi to my cousins, if you would. I love black walnuts. I've got a nice grove of them here not far from my tree. They make a refreshing change-up from my usual acorns. 
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