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  1. Profile photo of SmagBoy1
    SmagBoy1 Male 40-49
    4432 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 6:01 am
    Link: `Interesting` Photo Essay About... - ... Well, just have a look and judge for yourselves, IAB.
  2. Profile photo of spentmiles
    spentmiles Male 30-39
    113 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 7:47 am
    If you are the father in a father-daughter photo, you probably shouldn`t have your eyes closed, gripping her tummy with both hands as you press your crotch into the back of her. I think these guys want to protect their virginity, but only because they don`t want sloppies.
  3. Profile photo of save-ferris
    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 7:58 am
    I think many fathers dislike their daughter`s boyfriends because he is not the one dating his daughter. Not to imply anything untoward, but no one but their own self is good enough to date their precious daughter. Its particularly bad for oldest/only daughters.
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    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 8:02 am
    I understand the impulse by these fathers, and how it is, in its own way, an expression of their love, but there is a definite creepy vibe to the whole purity movement. Maybe its the subtext of control and history of viewing women and daughters as property belonging to a patriarchal figurehead.
    Or maybe I just have a hard time understanding because of my own subconscious prejudices.
  5. Profile photo of Angilion
    Angilion Male 40-49
    12387 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 8:07 am
    Yeah, some of those photos look too much like disturbing husband+wife photos, but that`s just bad posing.

    Some of the girls look too young to understand what they`ve pledged to do (or not do), but my main question is what can the fathers reasonably do anyway?

    Imagine your daughter pledged not to have sex before marriage when she was too young to care about it anyway. Some years later, she`s 20. How do you then "protect" her from having sex when she wants to? Monitor her every move and control her life so she doesn`t have the opportunity? Have spent years manipulating her psychologically so she doesn`t want to or is scared to? I don`t see a reasonable way to do it even if I thought it was a good idea, which I don`t.
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    hamptoninn Male 30-39
    57 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 8:19 am
    Alternatively, perhaps those fathers love their daughters and feel a sense of duty to protect them. They see the possibility of STDs and unwanted pregnancy as a threat to the long term happiness of their daughters, which motivates their participation in these purity balls.

    Also, the photographer did not sneak up on them in the middle of lurid exploits. He staged them in specific poses, because that it what photographers do.
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    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 8:34 am
    I once dating a girl who had made the decision to be a virgin until she was married, and at 27 years old, I was impressed. In the end, I always respected the decision because it was one she made for herself without pressure from her parents.
    But the purity movement, it subjects psychological pressure on these young people to keep a `promise` that they`ve made early in life, before they could have understood what exactly they were committing to. Having sexual relations would let down your family, god, and community.
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    lizbian_2 Female 18-29
    185 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 8:54 am
    I`d like to see how many of these father`s also have sons. How many of those sons promise to keep their virginity? Or how many of the fathers would even give a crap if their sons kept their virginity? Double standard.

    Plus, I bet some little girls would just do this to have a fun ball where they get to dress up, not fully understanding what they are committing to.
  9. Profile photo of SmagBoy1
    SmagBoy1 Male 40-49
    4432 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:02 am
    Excellent, nuanced discussion here. To me, the conversation about not having sons do this is right on point. Why no sons? Why no `protection` for them? And, too, the idea that a pledge should be gone into willingly. Many of those girls are far too young to understand or consent to `purity`.

    Plus, damned creepy, IMHO. And I`m a father of a daughter.
  10. Profile photo of spentmiles
    spentmiles Male 30-39
    113 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:04 am
    Check out my new sites: purityhunter.com, puritybangtrolley.com, and owmypurityballs.org.
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    CreamK Male 40-49
    1423 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:08 am
    I actually thought they were husband and wife, then read few lines.. Just wow, that is deeply disturbing. I mean, parents teach their kids but this kind of deep involvement in their sexual side is just really really creepy. Also, double standard.
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    therealpixie Female 60-69
    54 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:25 am
    I`d like to see an "I`ll be a slut if I want to, and don`t you dare judge me" movement. A woman`s body is hers, not her boyfriend`s and certainly not her father`s. It`s absolutely nobody`s business what a woman decides to do. That said, leave these poor little girls alone & let them figure out for themselves where they fit on the sexual scale.
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    BostonKaiser Male 40-49
    1185 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:42 am
    I found most of those photos disturbing. Felt like a "she`s mine, you can`t have her" sort of deal. Also agree with others in regards to sons. Are they making their sons pledge to not take other fathers` daughters virginity?
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    KitFox Female 30-39
    595 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:00 am
    My sentiments exactly, @realpixie. This is just sexist patriarchal bullpoo that I feel borders on an almost incestuous nature.
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    KitFox Female 30-39
    595 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:00 am
    I feel like I have to go take a cold shower now.
  16. Profile photo of madduck
    madduck Female 50-59
    7565 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:16 am
    I find this deeply disturbing, I agree totally with the other women. My daughters sexuality is their own business- and they own it, always have and always will. I have read quite a lot of accounts of women who were abused- because the act of putting a penis into a vagina is somehow the ruination of a girl- their fathers never quite got THAT far- but obviously spent far too much time thinking about it. This is just disgusting... and- yeah- I honestly call abuse- `cause it buggers up their chances of a decent sex life doesn`t it??
  17. Profile photo of save-ferris
    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:17 am
    Adolescence for males is really quite easy; You`re just sort of horny all the time. For women, it appears to be a genuine crisis. Your body changes dramatically and starts to do strange new things (discussion of which is a social taboo); add to that a materialistic and superficial culture that sums a girls entire worth on their appearance. Our society does nothing to make this transition any easier.

    The whole purity movement, well intentioned as it is, adds another layer of shame and social pressures to an experience that is already extraordinarily difficult.
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    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:26 am
    @smagboy
    The purity movement does include boys, but of course the real stress in on young girls. In general, men are supported in their sexual expression, even when that expression is unhealthy. Women, particularly young women, are shamed for having sexual feelings, and even more so for sexual expression.

    Too often when a young girl `finds herself in trouble` she has to carry that burden alone and is held responsible for her `slattern ways.` Boys on the other hand too often get a pass with a `boys will be boys` mentality.
    This, in extreme cases, is the mentality that shames and blames women for the horrible and traumatic experience of rape.
  19. Profile photo of DavidXJ
    DavidXJ Male 30-39
    1106 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 10:52 am
    These types of things creep me out a little. I waited until I was married, but that was a personal choice for myself, not some public proclamation for the world to know. I will talk to my daughter (and sons) about appropriate sexual behavior, but after that, it`s up to them, not me, what they do with their beliefs on the subject. I do fear that this kind of thing does lead girls into thinking it`s something wrong, not something good, and I don`t want my kids to think that.
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    madduck Female 50-59
    7565 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 11:12 am
    and there is the rub ( quite literally) young girls usually ARE horny all the time- if left to their own devices. but culture puts pressure on them to feel that this is wrong, shameful and not discussed. Talk to them, make sure they can play safely- condoms, condoms, bring the days toy HOME and do it upstairs- because with parents downstairs at least they are safe..give them good honext advice and hope like hell they have a great time.
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    jops360 Male 30-39
    689 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 11:52 am
    spentmiles - i actually had to see if those were real.

    like others here, i think this is just creepy. all it does is put a negative vibe on sex and these girls will probably be 40 before they have a decent sex life. i get the dads just want to protect them but that should be just a frank discussion. i get its difficult to talk about these things(i have to look forward to it 3 times) but its a lot better than scaring them for life. let them make their own decisions even if it might turn out bad, just be there to help them out afterward. not to sound to dickish but half of these girls dont really need help not having sex.
  22. Profile photo of slut_etta
    slut_etta Female 50-59
    3849 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 12:39 pm
    way too creepy. they all look like `couples` pics to me, especially the one with the two youngest girls. just, ewwww.
  23. Profile photo of ArgusTuft
    ArgusTuft Male 50-59
    1211 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 1:45 pm
    "We don`t get much seafood in these parts, but my Daddy, he`s a Groper"
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    spanerbulb Male 30-39
    1244 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 1:49 pm
    Backwards bullsh*t, just one step away from those nutters in Pakistan who killed their daughter with acid for looking at a boy for too long.
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    durdikkimeng Male 50-59
    748 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 4:51 pm
    Weird `Murican poo
  26. Profile photo of Runemang
    Runemang Male 30-39
    2676 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 6:29 pm
    Yeah, I`m getting a creepy couples vibe too.
  27. Profile photo of Draculya
    Draculya Male 40-49
    14628 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 9:08 pm
    don`t worry, not one of them is dratable anyway.
  28. Profile photo of Linkenberger
    Linkenberger Male 18-29
    1164 posts
    June 5, 2014 at 11:49 pm
    One thing I`ve learned over the years is that being a virgin really isn`t a bad thing. I know there`s a lot of stigma that virgins are un-doable ugly-as-sin completely unlikeable societal rejects, but I`ve met MANY people who match that description and still got laid. And an increasing number of virgins I meet have increasingly varied reasons for choosing to be one; from the stereotypical religious reasons, to them just waiting for the right person, to just downright lack of interest.
  29. Profile photo of Sleepyhallow
    Sleepyhallow Male 50-59
    1983 posts
    June 6, 2014 at 4:46 am
    Even as a pornographer, I have nothing against virginity, to each their own...... but this is patently creepy. Heeby-Jeeby level creepy.

    I am from the "Educate, Love, Guide, & Support" style of parenting and helping my children to make their own informed decisions about *their* lives.
    This kind of has a medieval "Chastity Belt" bent to it and the photos just make the father`s have a really creepy possessive "Pedo" look to them.
    ::shiver:: Bleh!
  30. Profile photo of save-ferris
    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 6, 2014 at 8:45 am
    I understand the impulse by these fathers, and how it is, in its own way, an expression of their love, but there is a definite creepy vibe to the whole purity movement. Maybe its the subtext of control and history of viewing women and daughters as property belonging to a patriarchal figurehead.
    Or maybe I just have a hard time understanding because of my own subconscious prejudices.
  31. Profile photo of save-ferris
    save-ferris Male 30-39
    198 posts
    June 6, 2014 at 9:25 am
    I understand the impulse by these fathers, and how it is, in its own way, an expression of their love, but there is a definite creepy vibe to the whole purity movement. Maybe its the subtext of control and history of viewing women and daughters as property belonging to a patriarchal figurehead.
    Or maybe I just have a hard time understanding because of my own subconscious prejudices.

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