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50 Responses to What Really Happens When Men Beat Women

  1. Profile photo of Smoothjc1
    Smoothjc1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 7:45 am
    Link: What Really Happens When Men Beat Women - NO fake stuff here. Warning: Graphic
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 7:55 am
    Yet girls still always go for the douchebag.
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    carmium Female 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:06 am
    I feel very sorry for this woman, but I`d bet money on one thing: he beat her before they had two kids. She chose not to leave him. It`s not her fault she was assaulted, just as it wouldn`t be her fault if she was attacked walking thru a park in the seedy part of town at 2:00 AM. But she would have told you that doing the latter would be crazy.
    Girls should be taught in school: beaters don`t change.
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    Evil_Eye Male 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:09 am
    @McGovern1981: You must get a lot then. You watch a video of a women who literally had her eyes punched out of her skull and say she is the one in fault.

    I am in a long relationship and I just got it by asking. That is what the "nice guys" seem to forget to do most of the time.
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    Reignblazer Male 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:27 am
    Chavs are gonna chav.
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    insane_ai Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:35 am
    1. Guys that do this deserver a long slow painful death.

    @McGovern1981: Go to yahoo and find the article investigating why the women keep going back.

    @Evil_Eye: Please overdose on whatever drug you are on because you clearly have no sense of reality. McGovern made a statement that happens to be true although uncomfortable. F-u-c-k off
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:46 am
    @Evil_Eye
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:04 am

    I understand they don`t start the relationship as beaters, but but the first time he hits her it`s over. Why is that such a difficult concept? Is it wishful thinking overriding the rational brain? "I want him to change so I`ll stay".

    Wishful thinking doesn`t make anything better. Taking action does.
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    Evil_Eye Male 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:12 am
    @insane_ai: My reality is I worked in a crown court for two years and I have seen too many cases of women not leaving to just go "Oh she likes him because he is a douchebag". There is obviously some more psychological reason then childish naivety in why 1/3 of women stay with abusers.

    I met few women who dated a guy who was a douchebag from the start (mostly they start out nice) and stuck with them, but a lot of young teens in their rebelling phase of life who do. Unless McGovern hunts for girls in a school field, or women are very different in America, then it is not true.

    @McGovern: Na, I just think that flat out statement to this is not what a 30 year old should still think. I thought that until I was out of school and being stuck in a office job with only women and the odd passing cop/judge/lawyer to talk to.
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    Smoothjc1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:20 am
    My own title FAIL should read (adult male).
    Because NO man beats a woman.
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    ForSquirel Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:22 am
    You know, we should feel sorry, but it`s been said time and time and time again. I`ve seen it time and time and time again myself, but comeon! I realize that society is gradually dumbing itself down I doubt this woman could say `I really didn`t think it would have gone this far. I mean, the first 30 times he beat me I said it was my fault and maybe it still is........`

    Wake up already. You see it in the news, you see it on the webz, it`s everywhere. There`s no reason that this should still continue.
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    peakingo Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:24 am
    "yet girls still always go for the douchebag."

    Spoken like a true coward. There are two types of douchebags:

    1-Bro types who make it clear of who they are.

    2-Cowardly types who act like a "nice guy" then make generalized comments about why girls don`t like nice guys like him and only go out with level 1 douchebags.

    Truth McGovern, girls like guys with confidence and sometimes some, especially at a naive age, confuse that with douchbaggery.

    I`m guessing you`re probably in the friend zone a lot and have some pent up resentment towards women.
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    peakingo Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:26 am
    Also, am I the only one weirded out by the fact that this video was posted on a site called "Best Gore"?
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:35 am
    @peakingo

    Yes, speaking what others don`t have the balls to say is quite cowardly uh? Truth peakingo
    is this is the internet you don`t know a f**king damn thing about me.
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    thubanstar Female 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:38 am
    My ex hit me sometimes.

    I stayed because I had nowhere else to go. No emotional support from anyone, no way of supporting myself financially. Eventually, he wore me down to the point where he could scream at me all night, and my only response was "yes dear". Someone tells you you are worthless enough times, you start to believe it.

    You men who don`t get this truly are clueless. Bad self-esteem and helplessness are the reason women get into and stay with guys like this.
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    lt633c Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:39 am
    Ending the cycle of violence takes an immediate arrest, and then get the victim away to safety. OR a few of her close male friends need to find the guy in the night and make him look the same as she does. I`ve investigated hundreds of domestic assaults, and just about every time I`ve said to the guy "why don`t you take a swing at me and see what happens". Not one ever did. Wife beaters are cowards.
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:42 am
    I met few women who dated a guy who was a douchebag from the start (mostly they start out nice) and stuck with them, but a lot of young teens in their rebelling phase of life who do.

    And most of that said group wind up staying with them from fear, an I can change him view and other naivety. So in a round about way you`ve just agreed with me.
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    lt633c Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:46 am
    Gerry - I agree. The very first time and it`s over. Abusers don`t change. That`s what I would do if the roles were reversed. Some crazy bitch gets all enraged and starts beating on me ? See ya.
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    LordJim Male 60-69
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    March 22, 2013 at 10:13 am
    If only women were as rational and clear thinking as men, eh guys? Then there wouldn`t be a problem. Simple solution right there, but do they listen? Of course not, they just bring it on themselves.
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    chalket Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 10:43 am
    I`d hit it.

    (see what I did there?) :P
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    LordJim Male 60-69
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    March 22, 2013 at 11:26 am
    `(see what I did there?)`

    Yes.
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    Dover78 Male 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 11:31 am
    I`d like to hear more on some other demographic on demographic violence. Say Black on Midget violence, or maybe Women on Old Person. Old Woman on Quadriplegic Man would be interesting. Just something to get me good and fired up about a microcosmic problem, take my mind off the real world-wide problems.
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    Atrayu4u Female 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 12:32 pm
    Yikes. I`m also disturbed that this came from a site called bestgore dot com.

    I`ve been hit on two separate occasions. Once by my boyfriend at the time. Went to court and such, but he played the I-have-a-daughter-to-take-care-of and I-just-enrolled-in-community-college good boy crap cards. They didn`t even listen to my side.

    The other happened a couple days before this past Christmas. I actually laughed at the guy at the first punch because I was so shocked he actually punched me. The second was worse. Yay for strong teeth.
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    chalket Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 12:36 pm
    @Dover78
    "microcosmic problem"? Really?

    * Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten (source).

    * Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women - more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

    * Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, or abused during her lifetime. Most often, the abuser is a member of her own family.

    * Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends.

    * Domestic violence victims lose nearly 8 million days of paid work per year in the US alone - the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.

    * The costs of intimate partner violence in the US alone exceed $5.8 billion per year: $4.1 billion are for direct medical and health care services, while productivity losses a
  25. Profile photo of MsJJAdeL
    MsJJAdeL Female 18-29
    94 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 12:55 pm
    Can we please get past which gender is to blame (her for staying, him for being a douchebag) and get on the the real issue at hand: In the last 90 years, the relationship of marriage has evolved (both legally and socially) from one of Patriarch and ward/wife to one of equals and partners. However, despite this supposed equalization, 1/4 of women in the UK are beaten and brutalized by their husbands/partners. This is a problem that must be addressed and rectified. I`m sorry if the topic makes you uncomfortable...
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    madduck Female 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 1:22 pm
    Said a lot of what I could in the earlier post, but lets get a few things cleared up- spousal abuse is not just done by the obvious bullies ( males or female) - small, mild, timid men beat their wives, so do doctors, lawyers, surgeons and teachers. They pretty much always isolate their wife from a support network so may times the wife ( or husband- this goes both way) does not believe she will get any support or help. She thinks no one will believe her. These men are often friendly, relaxed and charismatic... the last people you would suspect
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    turdburglar Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 1:34 pm

    1 in 4 women in the UK gets beaten? That doesn`t seem fair...EVERYONE in the UK deserves a punch to the face, not just the women.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 1:59 pm
    LOL @ Turd!
    They say the same thing in the US 1 in 4 "suffers from domestic violence". But it`s not like it sounds.

    My neighbor was arrested and convicted of domestic violence. He found emails from his wife`s lover on the computer and in his anger he smashed the keyboard with a hammer. I have to stress: No one else was home at the time.

    When she got home she saw the damange and called the cops. He got arrested because it "Creates and atmosphere of fear" so even though he never laid a hand on her, he was arrested and convicted of Domestic Violence. He later said he wished he had hit her because it`s the same punishment.

    True story, so 1 in 4 ? I think the numbers are skewed.
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    kingdomCome Male 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 2:11 pm
    1 in 4 is the number of people who experience it in their whole lives, and the types of incidents included is very wide, so yeah...not as alarming as it sounds.

    Besides, despite how terrible it is, my sympathy is tempered until such time as there is a more equal distribution of resources between victims of each gender....almost no support is available to male victims (no male shelters in the whole of Scotland for example...that`s none, nada, zilch, a duck egg)
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    madduck Female 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 2:20 pm
    I agree- there should be shelters for men as well as women, there is no excuse for the inequality- although the information I have seen scattered around does make it clear that domestic abuse involves all sexes. The motivations are the same though.. I refer to a male abuser because I am a female,.... everything I have said can equally apply to a female abuser.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    @ madduck, I don`t think we need shelters. It`s pretty rare a man puts up with that. More likely he hits her back, she calls the cops and they arrest him.

    Women need shelters. We should have more of them so it`s easy when they do finally decide to leave the ass holes. Maybe women`s shelters could have 1 small room in case a guy shows up.
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    LordJim Male 60-69
    7064 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 2:58 pm
    `Can we please get past which gender is to blame `

    We are. Clue; it`s the one doing the beating.
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    ferdyfred Male 40-49
    13631 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 3:33 pm
    `I kept it to myself`
    I got arrested 8 years ago for intervening a guy
    beating his girlfriend to a pulp
    saw him kicking the hell out of her
    pulled up, and got out and pulled him off her
    he took a swing so I kicked seven bells out of him
    She was swimming in blood, but she took his side
    and the court done me for ABH
    she hadnt the courage to say I saved her
    and to now I still wonder if she is still alive
    got a community order,
    200 hours cleaning the streets
    Just for trying to help someone
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    thefatviking Male 18-29
    202 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 3:39 pm
    I have a cousin that is with a guy(I refuse to call him a man) that beats her.
    I`ve talked to her about it, and even hidden her in my home when she got scared an ran away.
    And though it sounds cruel, and some will call me ignorant, or a pig for it, I honestly think it`s as much her fault as his.
    He`s a violent druggie piece of trash, but she refuses to see that. Despite the obvious, and what everybody says, she is convinced that he really loves her, and that she can make it work. It`s so damn tragic. Everyone offers their help to her, but she refuses to take it, she can`t see her own situation.

    Even when he beats her really bad, and she gets scared and runs away, she still comes back to him after a few days.
    I`m afraid for her safety now, if she stays with him, it`s just going to get worse, and if she leaves he`ll come after her.
    I hope she realizes this soon, because you can`t take her away from him until she realizes this. Before then she`ll just keep goi
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    ferdyfred Male 40-49
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    March 22, 2013 at 3:40 pm
    @Atrayu4u
    Really?
    Sorry Im old school
    men who hit women need to be addressed
    tis why I got done
    but will never stop me from intervening again
    Old fashioned as I might be
    send him over here I`ll pay for the ticket ;-)



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    ferdyfred Male 40-49
    13631 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 3:42 pm
    @thefatviking
    Sounds like the woman who I tried to help
    they are to scared to just say ENOUGH
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    thefatviking Male 18-29
    202 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 3:43 pm
    @ferdyfred

    My brother intervened when he was at a club, and he saw a guy beating his his woman.
    My brother (a huge guy) sucker punched the little bastard in the jaw, and knocked him out cold.
    The woman then proceeded to display her gratitude by pulling a knife and trying to stab my brother.

    I never tend to use the word, but "Bitches be crazy!"
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    ferdyfred Male 40-49
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    March 22, 2013 at 3:50 pm
    thefatviking
    Yeah
    I know the scenario
    My comment below covers it
    went to help a gal
    and she got me 200 hours community service
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    peakingo Male 30-39
    761 posts
    March 22, 2013 at 4:30 pm
    @ McGovern1981 "speaking what others don`t have the balls to say is quite cowardly".

    Is that why you think you`re doing? Because it`s not, what you`re actually doing is saying something very stupid and very generalized and ignorant. It is, it`s a fact.

    But here`s what I find fascinating, you actually think you`re making a point that other are "afraid" to make. Not the case at all, people aren`t saying things like that because they`re afraid, they`re not saying it because it stupid to believe.

    Truth, I only know what you project, don`t like my generalization of you don`t make yourself appear like a sad sexist.
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    ferdyfred Male 40-49
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    March 22, 2013 at 5:03 pm
    thubanstar
    i know what your saying
    but hell
    Ive met a few gals like you
    and I have no answer, you get to that level
    and Ive tried to make good, even to the point of
    lodging a female friend to keep her safe
    but she still went back to him
    and went back to the same crap
    and she refused my aid after that
    I can understand the females need to love and try to make good
    but when it becomes harmful and dangerous
    and they still go back
    I stymied
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
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    March 22, 2013 at 6:24 pm

    My deaf neighbor used to get beat up. With deaf people it`s more common `cause it`s more difficult for the handicapped to access aid. I let her know anytime she needed a safe place she could come to my apartment and we`d call 911. She never used the offer of help. Just stayed a victim until her lesbo live-in moved on to greener pastures.

    I can understand if a woman has no where to turn, but she had the option of help and decided to be a punching bag instead. I don`t get that.
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    Dead-Kittens Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 7:01 pm
    Its strange because i barely know anyone of my friends, colleagues and coworkers that wouldnt at least make mention of suspicion and instantly result in a supreme beat down and ass smashing of any man putting a woman in that position.
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    Geogypsy Female 18-29
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    March 22, 2013 at 8:33 pm
    Gerry: "@ madduck, I don`t think we need shelters. It`s pretty rare a man puts up with that. More likely he hits her back, she calls the cops and they arrest him."

    Dude, you`ve never met my grandfather. One day, after returning from the beach about a block away from my grandparents flat I walked up the stairs with my kids and my tremulous grandfather begged me to be quiet, "Your grandmother is in such a foul mood. I`m only trying to protect myself." (He`s a 78 year old man, former public servant, very accomplished career, managed a great deal of people; likely would strike most outsiders as an Alpha). I think that there are plenty of men who put up with it.
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    SilverThread Male 30-39
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    March 22, 2013 at 9:32 pm
    When I was about 12 years old a friend of mymom`sshowed upatour house half drunk and badly beaten.My dad, a mechanic, and I were working on a car in the drive way and needed to head to the parts store. On the way into town we made a detourand stoppedby mymomsfriend`shouse.

    I was told by my pop to wait in the car whichI did. He`s6`4and around 250 pounds. A Korean War Vet, a Coal Miner, and a quiet, patient man.

    When we pulled up in the truck he got outand strolled down the sidewalk to the house. He straightened his cap, knocked on the door, and whentheguy living there answered, I watched my dad, Beat. His. Ass. Right there in the guys front yard.

    It was the most lopsided, futile, hopeless brawl I`ve ever seen. That poor bastard was literally grovelling like a Goddamncur and when my Dad decided he`d had enough, he straightened his hat got back in the car and told me that if I ever hit a woman, he would kick my ass too. And I believe him.
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    thatjimguy Male 30-39
    458 posts
    March 23, 2013 at 2:13 am
    Terrible. But why would she stay. Doesn`t do anything but prove that bad boys keep women coming back no matter how bad they treat them. Go ahead and tell us some of how "nice guys" are so terrible.
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    DuckBoy87 Male 18-29
    3283 posts
    March 23, 2013 at 3:07 am
    When I lived in a dorm, I was awake at an ungodly hour when I heard a ruckus outside my door; I looked out the peephole and saw a guy push a girl into the wall, she fell and hit her head, not enough to cause bleeding mind you. I slammed open the door, scaring him, but allowing her to retreat to safety. I stared him down for a minute or two before he slunk away in the opposite direction.

    I later talked to her and told her if she needed help, to come seek me out, but she never did, but I hadn`t seen the guy, or heard any disturbance ever again.
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    pumba62 Male 40-49
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    March 23, 2013 at 9:01 am
    Anyone who asks " Why didn`t she just leave?" obviously does not know the cycle of abuse.
    The relationship starts fantastically it`s all love and hugs and kisses, then it starts simply, " You are useless, you are good for nothing , you are stupid"
    The abuser will always start with breaking you down mentally, then will start isolating you from all your friends and family, then may hit you , apologize and swear it will never happen again and you believe him because you need to, remember, he is now your only support now, and it won`t ( for a while ).
    Then it starts getting worse and at this point you believe it`s completely your fault.
    Then when you finally seek help you have finally reached the end of the rope ....quite literally.
    Fighting for your survival.
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    pumba62 Male 40-49
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    March 23, 2013 at 9:18 am
    @thubanstar

    I am glad to hear you are ok now.
    You hit the nail right on the head except for one thing I have seen very strong willed women who have ended up in the same situation as you, after years of the mental abuse, where the self esteem is worn down systematically by the abuser.
    It is the exact same process brainwashers use
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    Pentech2u Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 12:52 am
    Honestly I was expecting something more graphic... this wasn`t so bad.
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    Wendypants Female 30-39
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    March 25, 2013 at 6:56 am
    I don`t understand why women don`t leave their abusive spouses, it took my mom 18 yrs. to leave my sick fu*ck of a father. It does happen on both sides though, one of my brother-in-laws dad was abused by his wife for their entire marriage (he never left, right up to his actually natural death). It happens, it sucks, but don`t blame the victim even if they are way too scared to save themselves (male OR female). The abuser makes sure they do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING they can to keep the victim there and under their thumb. Sad to say, but it works. Please don`t blame the victim.

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