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    SnapsForMe Female 18-29
    217 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 3:25 pm
    Link: Crazy Christian Dad Sets Technology Rules - They`ll never see their Iphones again.
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    darkmagic14n Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 4:09 pm
    you may not erase anything.

    yeah, good luck, buddy
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    whodat6484 Male 30-39
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    March 24, 2013 at 4:17 pm
    No way in hell am I reading that, way too long, but I have a pretty good idea what it says since I see the word "Christian" in the title of the link.

    That being said, adding the word "Crazy" before the word "Christian" is kind of redundant, don`t you think? If I see the word "Christian" I automatically assume that the person is f*cking crazy and has absolutely nothing to say that is worth reading and/or listening to. I mean, c`mon, seriously... he thinks there`s an invisible man who lives in the clouds and watches everyone masturbate! Everything he has to say is crazy.
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    jendrian Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 4:34 pm
    Wow, sounds like this guy only had kids so he could live out his fantasy to have complete and absolute power over other people
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    Jowsh Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 4:47 pm
    Music approval? I would leave home..
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    VikingGuy Male 18-29
    2160 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 4:58 pm
    jendrian stole the words from my fingertips. silly looner.
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    Kain1 Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 5:19 pm
    Those kids will be on hard drugs and/or gotten someone pregnant within 3 years. I guarantee it.
    The golden rules of teenagers: If you`re gonna be an unreasonable dickhole, they will do everything in their power to piss you off.
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    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    March 24, 2013 at 5:52 pm
    There is nothing unreasonable in this dad`s list of rules. He`s protecting his children and teaching them to be decent human beings.

    All you teens that think it`s awful, are obviously addicted to the fruit and wouldn`t know how to socialize and make friends without it.
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    paco664 Male 40-49
    159 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 6:47 pm
    refreshing to see there are still decent parents in this world....

    those kids are lucky...
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    TheGuySmiley Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 6:52 pm
    nothing crazy about this at all. Like he says "I will not sell my parental rights at the altar of pop culture".

    Takes a loving and strong parent to do this. I applaud him.
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    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 6:53 pm
    I think it`s funny seeing the comments of the 18-29 year olds and the older ones.

    I`m only a few months away from being out of the younger group.

    I think this man is a great dad!!! Good rules!!!
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    TheGuySmiley Male 18-29
    1243 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 6:54 pm
    whodat: too bad you let bias prevent you from reading it. If you didn`t, you`d have seen that the guy really cares about the upbringing of his kids in this world that is truly "crazy".
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:01 pm

    What is this strange creature?
    Is it the endangered "Good Parent"?
    I thought they only existed in mythology.
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    Metalcraze Male 18-29
    101 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:01 pm
    I have a feeling this is only on here because the dad is christian.
    I am not religious but I approve of this,maybe his kids won`t grow up to be entitled little non-nice individuals like most of the younger generation.
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    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:13 pm
    I thought this was a charming narrative on the Bible, elegantly portrayed by "Dad" (the obvious deity) who plays both himself and his children in this pretend argument.

    It opens all fire and brimstone, but with the bland discourse of a legal contract. Why the numbered points? It`s best not to ask questions. So he`s talking about punishment right away, a sure sign that he cares, but it plays out more like a chastisement sandwich, switching gears after the "rules" because the middle few aren`t really rules, more just Dad showing how hip and cool he is by developing a fictitious inside joke with his child centering on quotes from "cool" movies that mom is not cool enough to get. She sounds insatiable. It then goes back to the pretend argument with his obvious conclusion being to just deal with it. It has an overtone of implied guilt and puts a stop to this notion of masturbation or intercourse before God says so.

    Basically, this guy is the
  16. Profile photo of patchgrabber
    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:16 pm
    ...prototypical good chaste christian white male, it`s disturbing how stereotypical this man is.

    "The more you tighten your grip, Tarkin, the more star systems will slip through your fingers." ―Princess Leia
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:41 pm
    That dude is mentally insane. I truly feel pity for the child.

    Still, here`s how you counter any retarded "rules" set by controlling parents:
    "As my father you have the right to decide pretty much everything as I`m growing up, and I will have the same rights when it comes to my future children, including whether or not their grandparents will be part of their life."

    And that`s pretty much it. A little harsh, but no harsher than these stupid rules.
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    TheGuySmiley Male 18-29
    1243 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:43 pm
    PG: i think it`s more disturbing how prejudicial you were in judging him.
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    Grendel Male 40-49
    6164 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:46 pm
    Canoas-"That dude is mentally insane."

    Yes, a parent laying down ground rules. IT`S HORRIBLE.

    He is correct: His house, his devices, his rules. If they don`t like it, they are free to get a job, move out and purchase their own devices. Then they can do what they want.

    I don`t care if your 16 or 61, if you`re living in someone elses house, you follow their rules. If you`re using their devices, you follow their rules of its use.

    Tell us, Canoas, what rule specifically did you take exception with, and explain why you dissagree with it?
  20. Profile photo of HalfPintRoo
    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
    2765 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:48 pm
    @Canoas

    your way of thinking is whats wrong with our world.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:49 pm
    Also, what pathgrabber said is pretty much true. The more of a control freak you are the more rebellious your children will be. I remember people who more "understanding" parents would be rather moderate in their actions. On the other hand, those with controlling parents would be much more extreme, doing everything they could while they were free from their parents` grasp. I remember a girl whose mom would take her to the gynaecologist every month to check if she was a virgin or not. She remained a virgin for a long time.. except in the ass. Probably the biggest slut I knew back then.
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    TheGuySmiley Male 18-29
    1243 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 7:50 pm
    I concur with HalfPintRoo and MeGrendel
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:24 pm
    "Tell us, Canoas, what rule specifically did you take exception with, and explain why you dissagree with it?"
    Hmm.. which rule? Let`s see what his rules mean:
    He can`t lie.
    He can`t flirt with girls.
    He can`t have conversations with his friends. (who would talk to a guy whose parent is reading everything)
    He can`t listen to most music and the hiphop, rap, reggae and metal genres are off-limits.
    He can`t watch any R rated movie.
    He can`t watch porn.
    He can`t use any swear word (but his father can, in the same paragraph).

    These are the rules I remember, which pretty much limit every social interaction. But it`s OK since connecting socially while you`re growing up isn`t important.

    And breaking any rule means losing your phone for a long time, but that`s fine I guess. When I was 16 I fell and broke my leg, my cellphone was so useless! It`s not like it let me call my mother or anything. Totally useless. Why would a kid with a bro
  24. Profile photo of Gerry1of1
    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    @ Canoas - Parents have to make rules to keep kids safe.
    So which rule did you feel went over the line into the Control Freak zone?
    No cussing ?
    No overly sexual talk with girls or boys?
    No sexting?
    No porn?
    No movies he`s not legally old enough to see?
    No violent or vulgar anything music/movie/text

    Which rules are just too much?


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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:38 pm
    "@Canoas
    your way of thinking is whats wrong with our world."
    Really? Do you remember highschool? Do you remember how much it sucked for those who couldn`t fit in? That`s that kid now. His life must be really awesome.. His self-esteem and self-confidence must be through the roof! And he must be really mature, a rigid control over someone`s life does well to develop him psychologically. Not to mention how stress free his life must be, no frustration at all. But hey, it`s not like lacking freedom while growing up due to overly-controlling parents is linked to depression! Nah, no such study ever proved it, let alone the dozens of studies about it. Low self-esteem, psychological immaturity and social frustration? Nope, those are definitely not identifiable as some of the causes of depression.
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    whodat6484 Male 30-39
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    March 24, 2013 at 8:40 pm
    @TheGuySmiley - So, because I don`t believe that an invisible man lives in the clouds watching people masturbate, and label those who actually do believe this nonsense as "crazy" then I am "biased" somehow?

    I guarantee you I could go to a psychiatrist and tell them I have an invisible friend I talk to telepathically on a daily basis who can see everything I do and everything everyone else does and I`d probably be locked up in a padded room. I`m not biased whatsoever, I feel that people who telepathically speak to their invisible friend who supposedly sees all, knows all, and is all powerful, are straight up f*cking crazy... certifiable... nuts... have a few screws loose... etc...
  27. Profile photo of HalfPintRoo
    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
    2765 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:43 pm
    @Canoas

    wow, you sound like a really spoiled entitled brat. If I didn`t know better, I`d say you were between the ages of 15-20. Am I close? I hope you`re not older.

    You will mature. I promise. Give it time.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:49 pm
    "Which rules are just too much?"

    Every single one of them. If you impose rules on your children instead of educating them then you`re clearly doing it wrong. One day they`ll move out and your rules will no longer apply, which means at the very least they`ll be doing everything you forbid them without your supervision. I`d very much prefer if my future kids make mistakes while I can still influence and educate them, not afterwords when they`re on their own.
    Not to mention most of those will contribute to ruin his son`s social life. You may not understand it but being social while you`re growing up is heavily influential upon your character, it helps mold your personality and is a deciding factor on your future self-esteem and emotional stability.
  29. Profile photo of patchgrabber
    patchgrabber Male 30-39
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    March 24, 2013 at 8:56 pm
    PG: i think it`s more disturbing how prejudicial you were in judging him.
    By calling him the good chaste white male christian? Yeah, even I have to admit that was a little mean.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 8:59 pm
    "@Canoas
    wow, you sound like a really spoiled entitled brat. "
    And you sound like a horrible mother.

    Yes, I was somewhat spoiled. I got to have a cellphone, talk to my friends whenever I wanted, listen to the music I liked and flirt with girls through texts. But more importantly, I got to have a life. While I needed my parents consent to go out at night I was pretty much left to my own devices until dinner time. I got to make my own decisions, somewhat stupid at times, and learn from them. I didn`t need to be sheltered from the world that`s "going to use alcohol, sex, drugs, fame, power, porn" to corrupt me, my parents raised me so I could decide what was best for me. I got the chance to pass up what I knew was bad for me without anyone forcing me to.

    Again, you can make whatever rules you want in your household, but in the very least it`ll make your children want to do it more when they`re out of your reach.
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    Kilgore89 Male 18-29
    194 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:01 pm
    Okay so first of all, other than a few mentions of "God-given rights" and "God gave me you" I fail to see how this qualifies as "crazy Christian". Those are both things that I have heard atheists say and I didn`t get the impression while reading this that any of this was related to religion. This is just a parent parenting as he sees fit.

    Second, I really don`t think that anything here is particularly unreasonable. Lots of kids grow up being told not to cuss at home or with others, not to watch porn, not to watch violent or sexually explicit films until they reach a certain age, not to listen to albums with the "explicit lyrics" sticker on the front, and to for the love of god put down the phone for five minutes and talk to the people in the room with you.

    Lots of people have and will continue to grow up with rules like this and be well adjusted members of society.
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    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:02 pm
    I got the chance to pass up what I knew was bad for me without anyone forcing me to.
    Meh, morals and values just don`t sit right unless they`re force-rammed down your throat without meaningful explanation; it`s how we grow as a civilization.
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    patchgrabber Male 30-39
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    March 24, 2013 at 9:04 pm
    @kilgore: Read a little further, most atheists I know don`t think that the proper time to have sex for the first time is when the girl`s father, the girl, and God say it`s ok.
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    Kilgore89 Male 18-29
    194 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:06 pm
    @Canoas

    Not every kid is capable of making the decision to abstain from things that are harmful to them whether or not they know it. If you have ever even run a day camp you will know that some kids are fine left to their own devices and some need more structure and direct instruction.

    Nobody writes a list of rules that long out of nowhere. I think it is fair to say that this father has tried to be less direct but to no avail.

    Asking a kid to put down the phone at a certain time of day is not going to "ruin his social life"; it will teach him that there are social activities that happen outside your peer group at school. More importantly it will BROADEN his social life because he will be exposed to social opportunities that happen WITHOUT a phone or social media.

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    Kilgore89 Male 18-29
    194 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:11 pm
    @patchgrabber

    Okay, I didn`t get to that part. Still, I would suggest that just because a large number of young people accept pre-marital sex including sex in high school does not mean that raising your kids to believe that the first time should be within marriage is going to mess your kids up.

    That for example is how I was raised and I am now a few months away from a master`s degree, have an internship lined up, have a healthy social life and have confidence oosing out my ears. I also am not opposed to a little sumthin` sumthin` every now and then, but I have a healthy respect for the sensual things in life rather than most of my peers who are looking for "that thing" (salt `n` peppa anyone) with a different person every weekend.

    I think what I am trying to get at is that just because something is different than how you were raised doesn`t mean that it`s wrong.
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    robthelurker Male 18-29
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    March 24, 2013 at 9:12 pm
    i got as far as rule 1. im not that f*cking bored. that had to be a stay-at-home-dad.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:13 pm
    "Not every kid is capable of making the decision to abstain from things that are harmful to them whether or not they know it. If you have ever even run a day camp you will know that some kids are fine left to their own devices and some need more structure and direct instruction. "

    And do you know why? Because most parents don`t educate their children. "Drugs are bad and you`re forbidden from doing drugs" is not educational and just does the exact opposite. You don`t tell your kids what they can and can`t do, you have to give them the knowledge to base their decisions on.
    If you give them the "it`s bad" speech here`s what`ll go on his mind when the time to make the decision comes:
    "My dad says it`s bad, my friends says it`s good"

    Here`s what`ll go on their minds if they`re properly educated:
    "Sorry guys, that must feel good but I know what it`s actually doing to your body"
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    utlanning07 Male 18-29
    61 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:14 pm
    Canoas: Really agree with you on your last bit. My parents had a rule where i could only hang out with my friends or girlfriend once a week. To this day (five years later) i still don`t function well in crowds and am not very sociable. i spend all my days drinking, smoking, and playing video games at home alone, (when i`m not on here.) I feel that if my parents had been more lenient and willing to let me make mistakes and help me learn from then, i`d be more of a participant in society rather than fearfully sitting on the sidelines watching everyone and wishing that i could be there, but forever too scared of everything. And for those of you who might say, "It`s not that hard, you just go out there," know this. When i leave the Sanctuary of my home and venture forth into the world, there is a constant build-up of "what if" fears that eventually leads to an anxiety attack which sends me right back home... anyway here i am rambling when no one cares on the web. :-P
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:20 pm

    Canoas, "Every single one of them. If you impose rules on your children instead of educating them then you`re clearly doing it wrong. One day they`ll move out and your rules will no longer apply,"
    Oh dear god please don`t ever have children.
    You impose rules on a 12 year old.
    When he`s 22 and moved out he`s old enough to make his own rules. Also he`s old enough to see the R rated movie.

    Children always push against boundaries. But if you don`t draw any boundaries they don`t learn discipline, values or attain a moral compass.

    Even animals do this. A bear or lioness doesn`t let their cub run wild with no limits. They cuff`em when they get out of line.
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    eduardoleon Male 18-29
    500 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:33 pm
    utlanning07 I feel your pain
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 9:46 pm
    "When he`s 22 and moved out he`s old enough to make his own rules. Also he`s old enough to see the R rated movie."
    Yep, and he`s also old enough for a depression, social anxiety and drugs. And boy, just wait till they get a taste of heroin. The moment they do, they`re hooked for life. But hey, maybe you`re lucky and they`ll have no friends which means no contact with illegal drugs whatsoever. Which usually isn`t the case.

    Yes, you`re supposed to draw boundaries, but you`re also supposed to let your kids reach them. If you draw a line and it never gets stepped then ultimately they don`t learn anything. They are supposed to step on it and learn from the experience, otherwise they`ll cross it when you`re not there to enforce it.



    @utlanning07
    Get a friend. You`ll never go out on your own, you need someone to lead you and show you.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 10:00 pm

    @ Canoas LOL hahahahaha!
    I hope you`re just trolling. If not, be prepared to support your children for your entire life.
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    utlanning07 Male 18-29
    61 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 10:00 pm
    i have a couple of friends, and they do try... it`s just hard talking to people face to face. I have difficulty with small talk, just seems... oh i dunno... lacking content.

    "Weather`s nice out."

    "Yep, i can see that, i standing right next to you experiencing the dame thing"

    " blah blah sports"

    "don`t care"

    "well how was your day?"

    "same as yesterday and the day before that"

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    Draculya Male 40-49
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    March 24, 2013 at 10:14 pm
    The priest will show you how to earn an iPad after Sunday School.
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    freddyferret Male 40-49
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    March 24, 2013 at 10:28 pm
    I didn`t have to read much of it to see that dad is a bigger douche than fancy, and that`s saying something. I have rules for using technology with my kids, but it`s not like Nazi Germany in my house. Kids f*ck up, that is life. If it`s bad, they will lose technology for a while. But they know better than to abuse it anyway, they use it more out of necessity than anything. They still read real books made from paper and play outside and have real lives. This dickhead dad needs to get his head out of his ass before he totally f*cks up his kids.
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    Stormwolf Female 40-49
    74 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 10:31 pm
    For all of you saying this dad is "too restrictive"...you know what? If MORE parents did this in regards to what their children are doing...you know, actually taking an interest...we`d have a whole lot less online bullying, 12 year olds "sexting" and posting provocative pix on Facebook, and maybe actually learning some respect for their fellow human beings. And, there are ratings on music and movies for a reason.

    Yes, kids are going to find other ways to see and hear this stuff, but this dad is saying he`s not going to fund it. Again, we need more parents like this.
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    SnapsForMe Female 18-29
    217 posts
    March 24, 2013 at 11:30 pm
    I like how everyone assumed I was an atheist because I said this guy was both crazy and Christian. That was my bad, I hadn`t meant he was crazy for being a Christian, I just meant both of those adjectives described him. ANYWAY I do appreciate this guy is taking an interest in his kids lives. I wish my mom had, not that I didn`t turn out fine or anything. I think it`s good he`s setting ground rules. If I had kids you better believe I`d have something to say about bikini pics on facebook and nudie pics to...ANYONE. However, this guy is just damn controlling. Imagine when his kids get to college. They`re gonna go wilddd. There`s gotta be a happy medium that allows the kid to build some trust. I don`t know a kid that would meet those standards. And if they do, their first taste of freedom is going to be sex, drugs, and rock and roll lol
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    Bachi-Atari Male 18-29
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    March 25, 2013 at 12:00 am
    this man needs to be arrested for child abuse
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    gladhatter Male 50-59
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    March 25, 2013 at 3:31 am
    I agree w/Stormwolf! I don`t disagree with the guy at all.
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    Magentab0b Female 30-39
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    March 25, 2013 at 4:39 am
    Novice disciplinarian. A true totalitarian doesn`t feel the need to explain.

    Those rules are obviously because of specific behaviors his kids have shown. Or most likely an incident that mandated the rules to be posted and any other annoying minor things like, not going to bed on time are finally being able to be addressed.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 4:48 am
    "@ Canoas LOL hahahahaha!
    I hope you`re just trolling. If not, be prepared to support your children for your entire life. "
    No, I`m not. I`ll raise my children as I was raised. Every single person I know with overly controlling parents is either socially awkward or a drug addict. Sorry, I won`t force my children to be either of those. But hey, good luck to all of you, I`m sure your kids will be happy! I mean, it`s not like social anxiety causes unhappiness, right? Oh wait..


    @utlanning
    It seems like you simply don`t share interests. Perhaps you should try finding out what interests your friends and see if you have any common ground. Another problem is that if you stay at home too much you won`t really have new experiences, which means no stories to tell, so you just need to get out more. I know it`s not very good advice, but there`s not much you can do really.
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    Magentab0b Female 30-39
    1467 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 4:59 am
    Utlanning07, It`s small talk! Of course it lacks content. Just wait until you get blessed with small talk conversation loops at work. Every time you hear a loop your will power goes down a notch until one day you yell, "SHUT UP, just shut the hell up about your stupid SHAMPOO!"
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    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
    2765 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 5:53 am
    ZOMG!!1!! HE IS MAKING HIM PUT HIS PHONE AWAY AT 10PM!!!????

    HE`S GOING TO BE SOCIALLY AWKWARD!!!


    My last visit to Disney World, countless kids between 10 and 17 were walking around like zombies starring at a phone or ipad screen. Those parents are creating more social and well rounded individuals for sure, right Canoas?
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 6:46 am

    @ Canoas, I agree with you. Overly controlling parents can harm their kids. But limiting internet access and not allowing the kid to swear is no where near "overly" controlling.
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    Grendel Male 40-49
    6164 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 7:17 am
    Canoas-"He can`t lie."

    And you have a problem with this? I think we see where your problem starts. Of course the kids will lie. This rules states catagorically what the consequences will be if they get taught. Thus, the kids are less likely to want to get caught.

    Canoas-"He can`t flirt with girls."

    Actually, he can. He just has to do so in a respectable manner. Again, you have a problem with this?

    Canoas-"He can`t have conversations with his friends. (who would talk to a guy whose parent is reading everything)"

    Actually, he can. He just has to do so in a respectable manner. Again, you have a problem with this?

    Canoas-"He can`t listen to most music and the hiphop, rap, reggae and metal genres are off-limits."

    And this isn`t a bad thing. We he gets all growd up he can choose his own music.
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    Grendel Male 40-49
    6164 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 7:17 am
    Canoas-"He can`t watch any R rated movie."

    Again, rules. I see you have a problem with rules.

    Canoas-"He can`t watch porn."

    Again, we can see where you`re an antisocial pervert.

    Canoas-"He can`t use any swear word (but his father can, in the same paragraph)."

    I didn`t not let my kids use swear words (even though I`m sure they did when I wasn`t around). The point is it made them think before they spoke. They`re adults now, and are free to use them.
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    Grendel Male 40-49
    6164 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 7:37 am
    Canoas-"He can`t lie."

    And you have a problem with this? I think we see where your problem starts. Of course the kids will lie. This rules states catagorically what the consequences will be if they get taught. Thus, the kids are less likely to want to get caught.

    Canoas-"He can`t flirt with girls."

    Actually, he can. He just has to do so in a respectable manner. Again, you have a problem with this?

    Canoas-"He can`t have conversations with his friends. (who would talk to a guy whose parent is reading everything)"

    Actually, he can. He just has to do so in a respectable manner. Again, you have a problem with this?

    Canoas-"He can`t listen to most music and the hiphop, rap, reggae and metal genres are off-limits."

    And this isn`t a bad thing. We he gets all growd up he can choose his own music.
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    TruTenrMan Male 30-39
    2553 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 7:44 am
    This is gold. I`ve copied it and tweaked it for my 13 year old daughter. Score.
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    slut_etta Female 50-59
    3849 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 8:01 am
    having read most of that (christianity gives me hives), i have to add that there comes a time in your life and the life of your kid where you just have to let them go, to do and be.

    you raised them. do you have the confidence that you did a good job? do you have the confidence to say they turned out good?

    if not, well, that`s really your fault, now isn`t it? its not the fault of the media or their peers or their teachers or their electronic devices. its your fault. so either guide them (not harangue them) into being respectable and respectful members of the community or give it all up, your choice.

    but to come out with these grand pronouncements NOW sounds like a case of a little too much a little too late.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 8:18 am
    @Halfpintroo
    And these rules prevent that how? I`m not sure if you`ve noticed, but none of these prevent him from becoming another zombie.

    @Gerry
    Because having no privacy at all is always good.

    @Megrendel
    Sure, you`re right. I mean, it`s not like discovering your sexuality is important during puberty, right? Or being able to listen to the music your friends listen to, or watching the same movies/series as they do. Who wants to socialize, right? It`s much better to stay at home and play hello kitty island.

    "Hey, did you see that last episode of breakign bad?"
    "Nah, I can`t watch anything that has drugs in it."
    "Hey, did you watch that last episode of game of thrones?"
    "Nah, I can`t watch anything that has sex in it."
    "What about the Walking Dead? Spartacus? Mad Men?"
    "Nope."
    "Forget it then.. let`s talk about music, check out this song I found."
    "
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    irunfast86 Male 18-29
    404 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 8:22 am
    Crazy Christian Dad? you mean good father. some people actually set rules for their kids. he did go a little over board but, i will have a similar agreement with my kids.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 8:33 am

    Canoas - the gets as much privacy as he earns. If he doesn`t like any of the rules he can turn the phone in. Somehow he`ll struggle through without it.
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    Canoas Male 18-29
    427 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 8:57 am
    "Canoas - the gets as much privacy as he earns. If he doesn`t like any of the rules he can turn the phone in. Somehow he`ll struggle through without it."
    By phone you mean their phone, computer, mp3 player and tv? Because that`s what the "contract" says.
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    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
    2765 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 10:27 am
    He wants him to not become dependent (addicted) to his phone and to live life not through a screen.

    That`s how he is helping him not become a zombie. Glued to his fruit.
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    greenbasterd Male 18-29
    2377 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 10:52 am
    woe.. these kids might actually grow up normal.. kids don`t need access to this bullpoo.. when my friends wanted to contact me.. they called the land line.. that the whole house used.. we even had a special ring for the kids line.. i agree with this guy 100%.. anyone who doesn`t has addiction problems
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    whodat6484 Male 30-39
    3908 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 11:35 am
    The big problem is parents being too controlling over their kids, like utlanning07 said. It can go either way once they`re on their own, like he said he`s now socially awkward which I do see a lot of these days in teens in my neighborhood and teen children of friends. They have problems dealing with the basic things that make up daily life.

    On the other end of the spectrum, I`ve seen a few that go off to college and end up partying, drinking, doing drugs, and all that other sh*t to make up for the time they lost while they lived under their parents roof. They ended up dropping out of school, in & out of rehabs and can`t even hold down a job at McDonalds.

    They can`t let their kids do whatever the f*ck they want, just as they can`t shelter them from the outside world forever. Both parents and children need to work together to reach a happy medium.
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    Kilgore89 Male 18-29
    194 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 11:50 am
    I think one of the problems here is that people seem to think that just because something is generally accepted means that it is okay and everyone should fall in line.

    Regardless of whether kids are swearing, sexing, watching shows like Breaking Bad and Game of Thrones, it doesn`t mean that they SHOULD be doing these things. I was raised not to swear because there are better ways of communicating. There are a number of movies and TV shows that I wasn`t allowed to watch because of violence and sexuality. Not once was I ostracised for this. If kids are alienating each other because they haven`t watched a TV show or don`t text message after 10 at night then THOSE are the socially maladjusted children. It is a pretty basic social concept that everyone does not have the same experiences nor should they.

    A teenager can explore their sexuality without sex and pornography. A child can explore social relations without needing to be in constant contact with their peers.
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    Kilgore89 Male 18-29
    194 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 11:55 am
    On a different note, and I hope utlanning07 comes back to read this, not having a huge group of friends and being uncomfortable with small talk and large groups is not a sign of maladjustment. It`s something called introversion and is incredibly common and perfectly normal.

    You may not be able to walk up to a stranger in a bar and strike up a conversation but I am willing to bet that the small group of friends you do have are incredibly close. Introverts tend to have very good relationships with a few people instead of weak relationship with lots of people.

    Further, anybody who tells you that being introverted is a bad thing, that you are bad at social interaction, or that you need to "come out of your shell and meet people" is either a jerk or doesn`t understand introversion. It simply means that you interact differently.

    My advice as an introvert myself is to accept and own it. If you are content having 5 friends instead of 50, why let someone
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    TheGuySmiley Male 18-29
    1243 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 1:17 pm
    whodat6484: Not at all, i was simply saying that if you didn`t let bias stand in your way, you would have read about how some guy cared enough about his kids upbringing, which has some good points we could all learn from.
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    Grendel Male 40-49
    6164 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 1:30 pm
    Canoas-"I mean, it`s not like discovering your sexuality is important during puberty, right?"

    I`m pretty sure kids managed to accomplish this before the advent of the iPhone.

    Canoas-"By phone you mean their phone, computer, mp3 player and tv?"

    He means THE PARENTS` phone, computer, mp3 player & tv. NONE of these items are required to grow from childhood to adulthood.
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    keith2 Male 30-39
    2588 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 4:26 pm
    What a control freak.. Here boy, have a beer and this hustler mag. There, now go enjoy your childhood.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36662 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 4:27 pm

    Canoas - It`s like training wheels. If you are not responsible with the phone/computer you lose the privilege. Then, when the kid is 16 and he`s told "If you are not responsible with the car you can`t drive anymore" the kid will be self disciplined enough to be a safe drive.

    All of those little lessons you leaned young apply to when you grow up.
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    ruthless1990 Female 18-29
    3001 posts
    March 25, 2013 at 4:52 pm
    well I`d rather have over-bearing caring parents who make rules out of a love & set of morals, than parents who don`t care. It`s easy once you`ve left home to do what you want and get over over-cautious parents who love you and can provide a secure home if needs be, than to move out with the emotional scars that come from neglect, with no place other than what you build to come home. You might not agree with what he`s doing, but there`s no doubt that this man loves his kids.
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    choonma Male 18-29
    142 posts
    March 26, 2013 at 2:16 pm
    I say bravo. It sounds like the kid misbehaved with the phone in the past so the dad is making his expectations clear.
    I also don`t really like how that title is worded, but that`s my opinion.
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    UDUMASS Male 30-39
    60 posts
    March 26, 2013 at 3:08 pm
    More entitled brats out there need parents like this

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