Retired Royal Navy Officer`s Email To Children

Submitted by: bacon_pie 4 years ago in
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/9686219/I-am-bitterly-bitterly-disappointed-retired-naval-officers-email-to-children-in-full.html

This sounds like a Festivus "Airing of grievances."
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Male 4,891

Too stupid to realize his own hand in their failures. If it was just 1 looser kid, I might understand his point. When you raise a whole flock of loosers, you gotta realize what the common factor was.
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Male 15,832
Can we nominate this guy for Father of the Year? After all, he raised this bunch of slovenly reprobates.
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Male 438
The common denominator in all your disfunctional relationships is you.
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Female 8,046
Oh dear, what a prat. He seems to think that his children have some kind of duty to live lives that HE approves of. Which may be why none of them actually ARE. How sad.
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Male 409
I understand his sentiment, but also feel it is perhaps misplaced.

He must assume some of the responsibility as their parent. I am sure his kids have a few stories to tell about him that aren`t very flattering.

And, frankly, it is a different world than it was 40 years ago.
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Male 79
The type of parent that would write an open letter of disappointment to all of of his kids is the type of parent who would raise all of his kids to be disappointments.
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Male 7,123
To be disapointed in one child may be regarded as a misfortune. To be disapointed in all of them looks like carelessness.
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Male 3,445
If the children are immature, isn`t that due to a failure of his and his wife`s own parenting?
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Female 184
I can`t help but get the feeling that he should`ve stepped in and interfered with his offsprings` lives long before now. If he was so concerned, speak up, don`t wait for the kids to come to him - I rather suspect (stereotyping wildly here, based on my own limited experience of former Navy personnel - particularly of the fatherly persuasion) that he was likely unapproachable when his kids were growing up, they have rebelled, and never stopped rebelling. Rather than stepping in and trying to fix the problem early, he`s let them reach a stage in their lives where he`s "disappointed" in them. Well Boo-f***ing-hoo! He`s brought it on himself and I`m sure his kids are actually better off screwing up their lives and learning from it than having his poisonous influence (or lack thereof).

Sorry - that turned into a bit of my own rant. It just burns me up when parents complain about their kids when THEY are ultimately the ones responsible
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Female 6,381
I don`t understand why this should make the news. He is simply one of millions of parents who have watched their offspring crash and burn, at least in their eyes. B, as they say, FD.
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Male 259
Perhaps this individual would be less of a cynic if his offspring had in any way been successful. They are not successful financially. They are not successful in relationships. They are not successful in parenting.

I am not successful financially, but one thing I am is successful in parenting. My children are being raised to be respectful and to be civil. Despite my parent`s obvious frustration with my own financial debacles, and they are many, they still view me as successful because I am raising kind and good children.

I can understand why this guy feels the way he feels. I would feel the same way. His children are living meager and insignificant lives, and they will most likely pass it on to their own children. Gerry raises a good point. We raise and rear what we are.

Or perhaps this father`s disgust is in that he did his very best to be a source of financial and relational stability for his kids, who did not reproduce that in their own lives.
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Male 39,904

When all of your children are a disapointment,
you might want to look at yourself. You raised them.
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Male 15,261
Problem solved. He`s probably not on speaking terms with his kids anymore.
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Male 76
The curiosity here delves far deeper than we can imagine given the scant details of the email in regards to his children`s lives. All I can take from this is the father has kids who scrape by working dead end jobs, have generally unsuccessful relationships, and have perhaps "accidentally" had kids, who can not, based on the sentiment of their grandfather, see their parents as role models. Okay? Welcome to middle class america. I really can`t see why this is "news" because I imagine most parents feel this way at one time or another, and most kids should expect their parents to feel this way, unless their parents are generally worthless and would only be hypocrites to point out mutual flaws.
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Female 519
@Twinklestein - I got the impression his kids were already `adults` when they started spawning, but perhaps I read into it to much?
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Male 946
Sooo . . . your kids didn`t turn out like you thought they should. Welcome to life my friend. We`ve been expecting you.
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Male 510
Hmm.. Maybe something you should have hashed out LONG before your kids had kids of their own? (Perhaps when they were kids themselves?)
Instead of waiting until they were dysfunctional adults and then saying "You all suck at life!".

far too little far too late.
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Male 3,060
Link: Retired Royal Navy Officer`s Email To Children [Rate Link] - This sounds like a Festivus `Airing of grievances.`
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