Dad Writes Quick Note To Gay Son [Pic]

Submitted by: littlemissqt 5 years ago in

Well I wasn"t expecting it to go in this direction.
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Female 375
@Musuko, that`s a great point that I`ve never thought of before, I mean, I get to choose what colour hair my partner has on their head, surely if homesexuality was a choice then it`d be ok to choose what junk they have in their undies.
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Male 411
Religion FTL.
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Female 513
ZsaZsaGoar - Goodness. That`ll teach me to write posts when I`m tired!
That was supposed to say "if I believe in sin, putting conditions on your love for them would be a big one."
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Female 144
@Aeladile
"If I believed in sin, putting conditions on your love form them would be a big one."

Very beautiful notion.
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Male 2,850
@5Cats

Choice or not, does it matter? What exactly is your problem with two men or two woman of consenting age choosing to be with eachother and harming nobody else, and only getting the same recognition, rights and responsibilities as a mixed couple?

You should be even MORE supporting if homosexuality did turn out to be a choice: surely Canada, like its southerly neighbour, values being free to choose...values FREEDOM.

Anti-homosexual if homosexuality is not a choice = bigot.
Anti-homosexual if homosexuality is a choice = against FREEDOM.
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Female 513
If I believed in sin, putting conditions on your love form them would be a big one. I am all the more grateful to my parents. We may disagree on MANY things (religion, gender roles, etc.) but I know that no matter what, they will ALWAYS love me.

I am saddened knowing other people don`t get to experience that unconditional love and my heart breaks for them.
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Male 154
Someone`s pissed he didn`t get a reacharound.....
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Male 884
I took it at face value.
(There`s probably some hidden rhetoric in here too)
Also, I did look up and find the original reddit post, under r/atheism from several years ago. As I said, I took it at face value: My comment stands, it was fair and not an attack on anyone`s way of life. Some people need to grow thicker skins, get out and see the world or bury their heads in the sand and stop imagining that everyone`s out to get them
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Male 183
You make a good point, An-Egg, except that those of us who read know that this was written to his gay son after coming out.http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/07/father-letter-disowning-gay-son_n_1752053.html
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Male 884
PS the letter just says "unnatural". I think that has me covered as bestiality and pedophilia certainly fall into that category.

Unless anyone wants to argue that they don`t.
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Male 884
@cobrakiller and you made no reference to joining the Westboro Baptist Church. Surely that would deserve this letter.
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Male 884
Personally, to receive a letter like this, I`d expect to have had several horned girlfriends or a combined age of 12 for my acquaintances. In what way did I digress from your social norms?


I think you`re being a bit over sensitive.
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Male 884
And yes. When presented with a well reasoned argument you should cry "Troll". I posted an innocuous post and you decided to make it a "Gay Marriage" issue. It never was so, run away little troll. You want to make your point but have no comment on anything I have said. Have a good life, but don`t try arguing with the adults
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Male 7,830
An-Egg, I am just going to say that I doubt that a letter of such would be written like this for something as drastic as Pedophlia or beastality.

I would say its pretty reasonable to assume this is meant for a homosexual son. Reading anything else out of this is ridiculous.
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Male 884
@ markust123 That`s pretty weak.
How would you feel if your child wanted to (legally) have sexual intercourse with goats or children.

You are full of the blame but you give no answers.

At least I said where I stand.

But at no point did I attack gay marriage, as you said I did.

Just glad I`m not a liar.
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Male 5,002
And the most vocal gay guy on this site, Gerry1of1, says you are Macguffin trolling. I don`t know what that is but according to his picture it is not good. I`m not going to bite any longer. Have a wonderful evening.
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Male 5,002
@An-egg, 5Cats is sticking up for you. That pretty much says it all.
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Male 884
@markust123
I see that you have an agenda and that you want to throw gay marriage into any possible situation. Now a third personal attack on me. No answers to any of my questions, just name calling. Yup, I guess that makes ME the troll.

(You may have to get somebody to read this to you as you clearly have some trouble distinguishing between what people say and what you want them to have said so that all is well in your comfortable little world)

Also "...to what they are really saying...", you might want to invest in a tinfoil hat.
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Male 5,002
@An-egg, I think you are just trolling. No one could be this oblivious to what they are really saying. But who knows maybe you were home schooled and lead an extremely sheltered life.
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Male 884
(it cut me off)
Did I equate them to gay marriage (or even mention gay marriage)? No
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Male 884
@markust123 If I see any bigots attacking gay marriage, I`ll be sure to let them know. My question was about a father disowning his kid.

There are 13 States in the US where sex with animals is perfectly legal, so however terrible you might find the idea, people in those States have a right to pursue it.

I`ll stand up and say that I think sex with animals is unnatural, specifically because I don`t like to do it.

I also am not attracted to little girls, although there are countless countries throughout the world where things that would be get you on the sex offenders register here are perfectly legal (specifically there is no or a very low age of consent: Mexico; Japan; Spain...). Do I think a grown man wanting to bed a 12 year old is unnatural, sure I do.

Can I see a father wanting to disown his son for these things? Yes.

And I am sure that these views make me appear bigoted to those people who accept do them.

Did I equate th
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Male 1,558
Another religous a&&hole
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Male 40,734
[quote]If you believe homosexuality is something you are born with and not a choice you make,[/quote]
@HolyGod: You know I don`t believe that, and neither do a LOT of people.
That belief still wouldn`t excuse this "dad" or the parents you gave as an example, for their stupid "in God`s name" bigotry. On that we surely agree!?!

[quote]I don`t even want to think about how devastated I would have been if my Dad had responded that way...[/quote]
@kangoala: This guy can`t have been too surprised when this happened, eh? He grew up knowing that his Dad was an arse-hole, so no doubt it hurt, but wasn`t a shock.

Yes, really really!
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Male 40,734
Well, @markust AND @GErry1 and probably a LOT of others: It simply does NOT SAY GAY in the letter! Although I`d quickly agree it 99.9% likely refers to gay, if it were real, but it`s fake.

ANY-hoo: there are lots of VALID things people could disown their son for doing, like those mentioned by @An-Egg. Just because he mentions those things does NOT mean HE "equates" them with homosexuality, ok? That`s seriously flawed logic.
@An-Egg is equating "reasons to disown your son" with pedophilia and zoophilia, ok? Not gayness.

I know a family that disowned their son because he chose to live like a "gangsta" with the drugs and crime, after countless chances to reform, years of second chances.
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Male 5,002
"I did not put anything on the same level as anything else. The letter spoke of "unnatural lifestyle", I gave two examples (well, 3 actually) of lifestyles that most would agree are unnatural. Your inference was that they are on the same level: It is not my mind that is sick."

When bigots attack gay marriage they immediately go to pedophile and marrying animals as the slippery slope. Or worse they make the horrific accusation that gays are pedophiles. Please explain how a gay man would not find both your comments insulting? If I am reading this wrong I apologize.
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Male 39,893

An-egg, [quote]"I don`t see anything about the son being gay in the letter. Would your comments hold true if his son was a pedophile or into sex with goats?" [/quote]
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Male 884
"I was going to point you to Reddit where this originated from but I think a big F*ck You will do for putting gays on the same level as pedophilia and sex with animals. You have a sick mind."

I did not put anything on the same level as anything else. The letter spoke of "unnatural lifestyle", I gave two examples (well, 3 actually) of lifestyles that most would agree are unnatural. Your inference was that they are on the same level: It is not my mind that is sick.

Nice way to answer a question. Keep it classy markust123
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Female 3,726
Oh damn...

This is so incredibly sad and disgusting! How can you turn your back on your child. I almost have tears in my eyes...*sigh*
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Male 5,002
"I don`t see anything about the son being gay in the letter. Would your comments hold true if his son was a pedophile or into sex with goats?"

I was going to point you to Reddit where this originated from but I think a big F*ck You will do for putting gays on the same level as pedophilia and sex with animals. You have a sick mind.
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Male 884
I don`t see anything about the son being gay in the letter. Would your comments hold true if his son was a pedophile or into sex with goats?

Perhaps he has gone to join the Westboro Baptist Church and that is the "unnatural lifestyle" that the father cannot abide.
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Male 4,891
Son should write a letter back, blaming father for his being gay. Tell him that it was his defective sperm or something. I know that is not how it actually works, but it would probly mess with his head.
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Male 8
It serves that son right yes... after all the stress a father goes through to try to raise his son right--- that is what you would do?
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Female 1,242
I just cannot understand how someone could disown their child or cast them out for being gay..something that I would never do, I would love my child just the same..
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Male 39,893

Signed: Mitt Romney
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Male 2,145
I think the kid should change around the salutations and return the letter.
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Male 319
"If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?" 1 John 4:20

"...if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing." 1 Corinthians 13:2b
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Male 130
Stupid bloody christians.
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Male 39,893

The only positive thing here is that while this sort of thing does
still happen, it doesn`t happen nearly as often as it used to.
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Male 39,893

His epitaph should be "He loved Jesus so much he threw away his own son."
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Male 10,855
Moral of the story is don`t let your faith get in the way of a loving relationship between you and your son.
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Male 10,855
Hey Fancy why is this thread double posted?
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Male 1,397
Maybe he just doesn`t like bummers.
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Male 12,138
I knew by the end of paragraph 2 that God would be brought up somewhere in the letter. Sure enough, paragraph 4. Christians, so full of love and acceptance.
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Male 2,669
Dad is a huge stupid dick, and the kid is better off without him.
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Male 319
I know this is an internet comments thread and all, but wishing death on the father is not going to help. One cannot fight hate with more hate. If anything is going to change minds, it will be the realization that the victims of bigotry are basically decent people. Hatred is not going to make people like the son feel better in the long run either.
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Male 319
Poor kid. Hopefully dad will realize the error of his ways some day.
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Male 5,002
"ill bet he`s a member of WBC."

Around 40% of the homeless teens in Seattle identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual and we`re a very liberal city. This happens more often than people think. But you are on the right track. Religious intolerance is to blame. What people can do to help is donate to their local teen shelter or support center.
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Male 130
this is horrendous
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Male 3,745
ill bet he`s a member of WBC...
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Male 1,582
Now, I`m not saying that the dad here should die, but he should probably go kill himself.
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Male 7,774
The jokes on dad coz he passed on the defective genes.
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Female 4,084
i want my daughter to grow up to be happy, healthy, self-confident, educated, and self-respecting. if she`s gay, she`s gay. no problem.

besides, what happens in the privacy of one`s own home is one`s own business, not mine. i only get riled up if the object of some adult`s affection is underage.
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Male 1,178
what a dick, better off without him.
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Male 916
"it must be devastating for a parent to find out their child is gay. you can`t blame the dad for reacting this way."

what? why would it be devastating? if my son said he was gay i`d be happy for him and thrilled that he was comfortable being who he is.
you`d have to be damned self-centred for it to be a problem for you.
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Male 2,841
Lose one man, gain another.
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Male 522
it must be devastating for a parent to find out their child is gay. you can`t blame the dad for reacting this way.
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Male 702
Also, @5Cats:
Really?.... REALLY?..... R E A L L Y ? ? ?
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Male 702
That is just about the cruelest response imaginable. I don`t even want to think about how devastated I would have been if my Dad had responded that way...
F*CK that guy.
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Female 2,289
JaundiceCake, you can`t respect a decision like that if you have any respect for yourself.
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Female 674
Big deal.
As long as there is one thing, there will be another. If he`s a cool guy, he`ll respect his dad`s decision and move on. There will always be racists, always be haters, whatever. You can`t change people, so don`t try. Just move on and respect their opinions.
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Male 2,344
5Cats

if you were the age you are right now in 1950, you would be right there along side those that were protesting against interracial marriage.

you are what you are 5cats...a bigot and you are in bad company as far as that is concerned.
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Male 161
that is horrible. poor kid. f*ck his dad.
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Female 6,381
SpaceCadet:
Are you just trying piss people off for fun, or are you honestly that incredibly stupid?
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Male 9,742
5Cats, MeGrendel, and OldOllie, keep in mind this guy is on your side.

V V V V
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Male 101
If more parents where like this we might have less fags in the world
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Male 4,793
Well, if there is any sort of ultimate justice system, one of these guys is going to hell. And it isn`t the gay one.
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Male 9,742
5Cats

"Fake!
It`s exactly the sort of fake thing a pro-gay person would invent to slander Christians, or anyone who DARES not agree with gayness! "

First of all, my college roommate came out to his parents freshman year. When we graduated his father had still not returned a single letter, email, or phone call. It is real, all over the place.

If you believe homosexuality is something you are born with and not a choice you make, which I think most reasonable people do, then saying "anyone who DARES not agree with gayness!" is just as abhorrent and bigoted as saying "anyone who DARES not agree with blackness!" DO you know how dumb that makes you sound? Sometimes i can`t tell if you are joking or not.
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Female 58
my aunts wouldnt even speak the name of one of my cousins who was gay...she was just "THAT" girl....even if this isnt real....this attitude exists...and its stupid....everyones different....LET IT BE
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Male 694
the dad needs to be shot. not because he hates the homos, but because he writes like a retard. its like nobody taught him the "big" letters only go at the beginning of sentences and proper nouns :P
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Male 7,830
5Cats, I actually know some people like this, so it could quite possibly be real.
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Male 5,002
"Fake"

Go down to any youth shelter and ask the kids who were kicked out of their house for being gay if this is fake. You`re not even religious. Quit trolling.
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Male 1,674
repost
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Female 1,743
5Cats, we can`t prove if it`s fake or real, but it COULD be real.


Just like God. :P
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Male 40,734
Fake!
It`s exactly the sort of fake thing a pro-gay person would invent to slander Christians, or anyone who DARES not agree with gayness!

Double posts I understand, double THREADS?
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Female 2,761
I can`t imagine living such a life that pushing my own child out of my life is more important that living life and loving him no matter his choices.

sad sad man. I`ll pray for him (the father that is, the son must be happy now to be who he is and have people in his life that love him)
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Female 2,289
My mother does not approve of the gay lifestyle and even thinks gays aren`t qualified to raise children, but even she has said she would never disown me if I was. She says all she wants for me is to be happy and that she`ll always love me.

The "father" who wrote that awful letter has a special spot in hell.
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Male 1,625
[quote]God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle.[/quote]

and you know that HOW? perhaps God has made gay people in order to curb the population boom. you will never know until you get to heaven and ask him yourself.
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Male 96
I would disown my kid if he was gay.
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Male 6,077
Very sad.
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Male 2,690
Radicals are radicals.
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Female 1,478
Damn.
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Male 2,422
How very Christian of him.
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Male 2,424
Maybe it`s real, maybe it`s not?

Well I hope not anyways.
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Male 5,002
I`m giving my parents a huge hug the next time I see them for being so awesome.
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Male 771
what a jerk
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Male 936
[quote]Why would anyone choose a more difficult life. To be ridiculed and mocked in public. To be ostracized by those that don`t understand.[/quote]

IDK, ask the goth and emo kids
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Male 5,002
This is hard to read. Here`s what it says:

"James: This is a difficult but necessary letter to write. I hope your telephone call was not to receive my blessing for the degrading of your lifestyle. I have fond memories of our times together, but that is all in the past. Don’t expect any further conversations With me. No communications at all. I will not come to visit, nor do I want you in my house. You’ve made your choice though Wrong it may be. God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle. If you choose not to attend my funeral, my friends and family will understand. Have a good birthday and good life. No present exchanges will be accepted. Goodbye, Dad."
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Male 5,002
Jesus f*cking Christ! Give credit on the damn posts. This was originally from reddit.
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Female 1,743
:( I couldn`t imagine being so hateful.

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Male 251
Well. I really hope this is fake because if it isn`t, that there is some really f*cked up stuff.
Now I am sad. THANKS DAD!!!!
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Male 103
It sickens me that parents will disown their own children over something that can`t be controlled. It still amazes me that there are people that still believe that being gay is a choice. Why would anyone choose a more difficult life. To be ridiculed and mocked in public. To be ostracized by those that don`t understand.
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Male 1,252
Jezuz was gay... I mean come on.. TWELVE guys not one woman...please, lets be realistic here.
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Female 1,605
Link: Dad Writes Quick Note To Gay Son [Pic] [Rate Link] - Well I wasn`t expecting it to go in this direction.
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