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Date: 05/27/12 02:45 PM

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    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 12:40 pm
    Link: Man Tip #1,498 - I`ve been saying this my whole life!
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    DracObi Male 18-29
    289 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 2:51 pm
    thats not being friendzoned, thats being rejected and told your a friend. the friendzone is when the girl knows your interested in her, and instead of rejection, uses you to do poo for her, with the hope that "maybe soon it`ll happen"
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    drawman61 Male 50-59
    7741 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 2:53 pm
    But she`ll still string you along in case she can`t do any better.
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    Tiredofnicks Male 30-39
    5097 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:02 pm
    Well, there`s two kinds, the one described here and the "Hey, I can make this loser do pretty much anything I want.".
  5. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:02 pm
    Can`t say I agree. Any woman that offers you `friendship` when you`re seeking love is not "being nice" to you, she`s being patronising. And any man that accepts such `friendship` when he really wants a closer relationship is being deceitful, if only to himself. Same thing if the roles were reversed (though this happens far less often to women than to men - I can`t think of a single woman I know that`s in any man`s `friend zone`).
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    DShephard Male 18-29
    1595 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:02 pm
    No clue what friendzone is.
    Should I know?
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    HI-haole Male 18-29
    601 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:04 pm
    It`s not just a one way street you know...

    A guy can "friendzone" a girl too... I have a couple of times myself.
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    som-tam Male 18-29
    714 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:06 pm
    how incredibly banal.
  9. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:09 pm
    Yes and no. I mean, it`s not fair to assume that every woman should be attracted to you so long as you`re "nice". Everybody has a certain aesthetic they prefer, or a certain personality type, or.. well, there are a large number of factors that go into determining whether you like someone.

    But the `friendzone` complaint isn`t necessarily invalid. If you`ve been close to a girl for some time, watched her stumble into relationships that were doomed from day 1 (the guy was an obvious a*swipe and/or womanizer), and all the while she complained to you that ALL SHE WANTS IN A GUY is for him to be kind, gentle, attentive and loving...well, that doesn`t make a whole lot of sense. She`s most likely simplifying her description, but it`s hugely frustrating to see someone you really care about actively seeking the things she claims to despise, and ignoring you, when you seem to fit every criterion she`s given you.
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    icklevamp Female 18-29
    375 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:10 pm
    "Can`t say I agree. Any woman that offers you `friendship` when you`re seeking love is not "being nice" to you, she`s being patronising."

    So if a girl thinks you`re a nice guy, but doesn`t want to sleep with you, what would you rather she do? Kick you in the nuts and run away?
  11. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:11 pm
    That being said, the thing about the friendzone is that it`s usually a result of your own timidity. If you don`t present yourself to a girl as a sexual being, she will treat you as just a friend. You have to just stop over-thinking things and be flirtatious. If it doesn`t work, don`t take it too personally--it doesn`t mean you`re not attractive by any means. All it means is that this one particular girl has a taste in men that you don`t fit.

    Is it fair that men have to always make the advances and take the risks in forming a relationship? Not really, but it`s something we`re stuck with and our best bet is to learn how to make the best of it.
  12. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:25 pm
    So if a girl thinks you`re a nice guy, but doesn`t want to sleep with you, what would you rather she do? Kick you in the nuts and run away?

    No. When I`ve had to let several guys (and one woman) know that I didn`t reciprocate their feelings in the past, the way I did it was I said, "thankyou for asking me, but I`m not attracted to you". I`d never string somebody along, patronise them by pretending that their physical attraction to me was any kind of a basis for friendship, or presume to give them advice or platitudes to water down the message they needed to hear. That`s showing them real respect rather than pity, and it lets them move on.
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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:30 pm
    This has just come to mind--the `friendzone` complaint might be more based on the fact that in our culture, women are viewed (by both themselves and others) as a "prize" and in order to have a relationship with them, a man must "earn" the woman. So if a perfectly worthy guy is friends with a desirable woman, and she ignores him because he isn`t competing with other men to "earn her", he does have a valid complaint--why should he have to try and get her attention? Why can`t she initiate a relationship with this guy? In an age of "sexual equality", shouldn`t there be more... you know, equality? Why treat a man as though he should consider himself lucky that you chose him out of the pack of raging boners chomping at the bit to get in your pants?

    Why can`t two people who are close and emotionally attached to one another just be together, instead of having to go through the whole "proving ground" phase of courtship?
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    swoop408 Male 18-29
    1754 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:30 pm
    Sorry, but the "friend zone" is dedicated to men with no self respect who continually make sacrifices and do favors for a woman that will never sleep with them. A woman who knows full well what she`s doing and takes complete advantage. The "friend zone" is for men who have forgotten their way....
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    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:32 pm
    Something tells me you`re living right in the middle of TFZ, DrP.
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    8BitHero Male 18-29
    5414 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:45 pm
    I have to agree with you there swoop, but not as...harsh. I think some end up being blinded rather than forgetting their way.

    Honestly, I`ve never heard of "The Friend Zone" but if only females have, sounds like a double standard to me.
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    Atrayu4u Female 18-29
    1478 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:47 pm
    THIS IS WHAT I`VE BEEN SAYING ALL ALONG! Thank you, whoever made this.
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:50 pm
    The friend zone is where I keep the guys who willingly buy me nice things but are too ugly to actually get with. It`s not like they don`t know what`s going on, they`re just clinging to that nonexistent glimmer of hope in their minds and I`m clinging to their wallet. Win/win.
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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:56 pm
    Leesah, you`re quite a troll.
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    Crabes Male 30-39
    1285 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 3:59 pm
    Its simple for me, man and woman cannot be friends, friendzone is somewhere a man doesnt wanna be and its really bad for self-esteem,
  21. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:00 pm
    man and woman cannot be friends

    Of course they can. It`s just that one or both of them needs to be gay.
  22. Profile photo of Crabes
    Crabes Male 30-39
    1285 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:03 pm
    `Of course they can. It`s just that one or both of them needs to be gay. `

    1 internet point for you macguffin
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    darkmagic14n Male 18-29
    1625 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:05 pm
    for whatever reason

    its because you`re too nice to her, unlike the jerks she`s been dating
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:06 pm
    "Leesah, you`re quite a troll."

    Why? Because my opinions and how I conduct myself is not that exact same way as you? Well I`ll be damned, this place is full of trolls!
  25. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:09 pm
    No, because I would rather give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you say horrible things to get a rise out of people than believe you actually act the way you say. That`s a horrible, degrading way to treat a human being and is in no way win-win.
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    Solvent Male 18-29
    2842 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:12 pm
    All you need is a little bit of duct tape to bypass the friendzone.
  27. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:13 pm
    friendship se x always beats friendzone.
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    OddNumber Male 18-29
    201 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:14 pm
    I`m kinda surprised not many have figured this as "flippantly obvious", been there, it`s not bad, if anything, opens up easy doors for potential ladyfriends, think about it, you`re on good terms, and she`s likely to throw a good word about you to her friends
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    Zieveraar Male 30-39
    415 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:16 pm
    @Leesah: I quite agree, you are not a troll. A bitch, most likely, but that`s something entirely different.
  30. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:16 pm
    All you need is a little bit of duct tape to bypass the friendzone.
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    i don`t get this, what do you need duct tape for? bit of bondage?
  31. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:18 pm
    "The friend zone is where I keep the guys who willingly buy me nice things but are too ugly to actually get with."
    ----------------
    one of our primal instincts. chimps trade sex or the promise thereof all the time for favors. who knows, perhaps birds, snails and grasshoppers do that to, i haven`t looked into it yet.
  32. Profile photo of Crabes
    Crabes Male 30-39
    1285 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:18 pm
    But there is a difference between being in a friendzone and being a victim of a gold-digger like leesah over there
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    8BitHero Male 18-29
    5414 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:26 pm
    Crabes: Its simple for me, man and woman cannot be friends, friendzone is somewhere a man doesnt wanna be and its really bad for self-esteem,

    @Crabes
    I think it depends. Sometimes if you know she`s a nice person(not deceitful) then you can be in the friendzone and not have a low self esteem. Those are the kind of females you respect when they turn you down because they don`t crap on you in the process.

    Seems here though that the females have it easy. I wonder if they would go through the same lengths men would?
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:30 pm
    "That`s a horrible, degrading way to treat a human being and is in no way win-win."

    What part about "willing" did you not understand? I don`t ask for things. I am given things by guys who know they have no chance and think they can buy me. Why SHOULDN`T I take full advantage of that situation? It`s in their little men minds that if they keep showering me with jewelry and clothing and shoes I`ll hop in bed with them. That`s a pretty douchey mindset, don`t you think? But you go ahead and blame it on the woman if it makes you feel more secure and masculine. ;]
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:33 pm
    "being a victim of a gold-digger like leesah over there"

    bzzzzt, wrong, gold diggers give it up for their jewelry, my guys are merely getting thank yous.
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    marcus2 Male 13-17
    677 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:40 pm
    @leesah
    Maybe you should hop into bed with them. You sound in need of a good ol` fasioned d*cking.
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    5Cats Male 50-59
    32822 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:40 pm
    There`s nothing wrong with "the friend zone" so long as the guy understands that that`s it, no nookie for him!

    Then you treat her pretty much the same as your guy friends! Simple really.

    There`s a world of difference between being a friend and pathetically hopeing for some pity pussy...
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    skytz1337 Male 18-29
    687 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:46 pm
    Friend zone is torture for the guy in question who actually loves the girl.
    In my opinion and experience girls who do something like this are just cold hearted. Pure and simple.
    Also..may i say that the spelling in the text is awful
  39. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:50 pm
    I`m kinda surprised not many have figured this as "flippantly obvious", been there, it`s not bad, if anything, opens up easy doors for potential ladyfriends, think about it, you`re on good terms, and she`s likely to throw a good word about you to her friends

    Yes, because we`re always telling our girlfriends how good a partner our rejected beaus would make for them, and they`re always so flattered and grateful that we`d think to pass people we didn`t fancy their way.

    Attitudes like the above, guys, FWIW are *the reason* men and women can`t be friends, especially when one of them fancies the other. It`s *always* merely a rationalisation for one of them to further their personal goals (in this case, getting a cheap shag off of the object of your rejected affections` girlfriends).
  40. Profile photo of FoolsPrussia
    FoolsPrussia Male 30-39
    3446 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:51 pm
    This picture may be right in certain instances, but it is most certainly not always the truth.
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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:53 pm
    @Leesah--I`ll blame it on you, leaving your sex as an irrelevant piece of data. The men are admittedly foolish, for idolizing someone who would treat them like so much trash. Why shouldn`t you accept it? Because it makes you a parasite...which is something you obviously have no problem with.

    What exactly is it that you want? Gifts and kindness? "Ha! The guy is just trying to buy his way into my bed!" But on the other hand, you still expect him to court you somehow. You expect him to approach you and treat you in a manner calculated to get you to sleep with him. That`s how a man "earns" his way to be with you, right? Then by the very nature of this setup, anything they do to impress you is "pretty douchey".

    On a side note, you wouldn`t happen to get a raging hardon at the mention of Ayn Rand, would you?
  42. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 4:53 pm
    Friend zone is torture for the guy in question who actually loves the girl.

    It takes two people to be in love. When one person believes that they one-sidedly love another person that doesn`t reciprocate their feelings, that`s called obsession, not love.
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:06 pm
    "But on the other hand, you still expect him to court you somehow."

    No, I don`t. Every guy I actually date (and usually stick with for at least a year) have all been starving artist intellectuals who probably wouldn`t buy me anything even if they had money. It`s an abysmal thing to be attracted to, especially since I have a ton of cash of my own and I end up paying for everything, and they`re usually liberal, it`s like a fxcking nightmare. But you like what you like, and some guys really like buying me things, and I like letting them.
  44. Profile photo of ElectricEye
    ElectricEye Male 50-59
    2729 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:16 pm
    leesah = parasite = leech = leesah`s new name = leecha
  45. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:20 pm
    That`s actually really intriguing to me--you don`t seem the sort to be attracted to liberal starving artist types at all. From your posts around here, I`d have thought you`d scoff at idealistic, artsy types.
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    ElectricEye Male 50-59
    2729 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:23 pm
    leecha`s new profile pic: Doing what she does best, bleeding some poor guy dry.




    I present to you Ms. LEECHA


  47. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:23 pm
    That being said, I was stating that whether through actions, conversation topic or gift-giving, the desired and calculated end result is getting under your frock, meaning that any form of courtship is ultimately douchey. Which is actually something I agree with.
  48. Profile photo of OddNumber
    OddNumber Male 18-29
    201 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:25 pm
    easy mcguffin, not all relationships break on bad terms, not all men are sex pigs, and not all women are estrogen dripping emotional wrecks

    just stating something that`s been obvious, if you took that as me being rational human, well sorry
  49. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:26 pm
    pfff, why didn`t evolution endow us with a clear sex willingness indicator, like one`s nose turning bright orange or one`s ears inflating. things might be much simpler.
  50. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:27 pm
    @ElectricEye,

    are you about done with being childish?
  51. Profile photo of Crabes
    Crabes Male 30-39
    1285 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:27 pm
    Life is short, man need to conquer, respect womans but don`t waste youre precious time is my advice
  52. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:28 pm
    "easy mcguffin, not all relationships break on bad terms, not all men are sex pigs, and not all women are estrogen dripping emotional wrecks"
    ------------
    you`re definitely right about the women.
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    mon360 Male 13-17
    735 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:38 pm
    I don`t need a damn psychologist!
  54. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:40 pm
    easy mcguffin, not all relationships break on bad terms, not all men are sex pigs, and not all women are estrogen dripping emotional wrecks
    Do you know what a Straw Man argument is, Odd? It`s when you attack a point of view that bears no relation to the point of view expressed by another person, because you can`t find anything to criticise in what they actually said; like you just did there.

    ...
  55. Profile photo of MacGuffin
    MacGuffin Female 30-39
    2602 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:41 pm


    I didn`t say that "all relationships break on bad terms", or that "all men are sex pigs", nor that "all women are estrogen dripping emotional wrecks", so it`s pointless you making comment on those opinions that nobody has expressed.

    What I did say was that men and women can`t be friends, and that your somewhat wishful thinking and opportunistic observation that such an insincere `friendship` could "opens up easy doors for potential ladyfriends...she`s likely to throw a good word about you to her friends" was a perfect example of why such friendships don`t work.
  56. Profile photo of 8BitHero
    8BitHero Male 18-29
    5414 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:42 pm
    pfff, why didn`t evolution endow us with a clear sex willingness indicator, like one`s nose turning bright orange or one`s ears inflating. things might be much simpler.

    @LemonCurry
    We do have signs like that, just a shame they aren`t obvious.

    Also some people need to realise people like Leesah exist. No I don`t agree with what she does or says but people like that do exist. So just forget it and move on

    @Leesah
    Some men do it because they care. Showering them with jewellery is...generic. The way I showed affection was through giving her personal art (both did art). It means more than spending money because you made it yourself. Sometimes spending money isn`t always bad. Say you get her a book for £5 that`s not flashing the cash. It also doesn`t mean that you want to get into her undies because women aren`t walking sex toys for the sole purpose of scoring.
  57. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:47 pm
    "I`d have thought you`d scoff at idealistic, artsy types."

    I do. I actively encouraged my last boyfriend to quit art "school" and try for a real job. The artsy liberal types apparently like the abuse.

    "The way I showed affection was through giving her personal art (both did art)."

    Ugh, my first boyfriend gave me so much art, and the sick thing is that I kept all of it. That`s all my boyfriends ever have to give me. Maybe that`s why I like other guys buying me real presents.
  58. Profile photo of ElectricEye
    ElectricEye Male 50-59
    2729 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 5:52 pm
    LemonCurry look at what you are defending.
    VVVVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVV
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    OddNumber Male 18-29
    201 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:00 pm
    "What I did say was that men and women can`t be friends, and that your somewhat wishful thinking and opportunistic observation that such an insincere `friendship` could "opens up easy doors for potential ladyfriends...she`s likely to throw a good word about you to her friends" was a perfect example of why such friendships don`t work."


    my point was that not all flings/dates/relationships need not go into nuclear meltdown, but rather there`s good that can be worked out of it, I`ve got past girlfriends that are still on good terms with me, and maybe I`m some anomaly, but those non-stalker types (I`m serious when I say I`ve had a couple like that, stay away from them like the plague) have gave me good word to friends, and let`s just say good word of mouth can be better than good mouth

    *ba-bump-tsh*
  60. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:05 pm
    I generally go for intellectually stimulating gifts. I`ll pick a book that I think will particularly interest my girlfriend and impact the way she thinks about life.

    "What if your girlfriend doesn`t like books?"

    I don`t date anyone like that.

    For Christmas, I got my girlfriend an old hardcover copy of Franny and Zooey by JD Salinger, knowing full well that she had a strong dislike for Salinger after reading Catcher in the Rye in high school. I put a little hand-written note inside the cover, basically saying that I could understand why Holden`s character might have turned her off to the book, but that he was supposed to be a childish hypocrite because that`s how real humans behave at his age. I explained that there`s a lot more to Salinger and I hoped she`d give him another chance--this was one of my favorite books and giving it to her felt like handing her a bit of myself. (It was more detailed and eloquent than that--good enough to make her hug
  61. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:06 pm
    cont`d--...good enough to make her hug me tight and cry a little. After she read it she admitted I was right and said she really enjoyed it.
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    DuckBoy87 Male 18-29
    3243 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:11 pm
    I have enough friends, thank you. I want a relationship, and if you can`t give that, then I`m moving on.
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    HI-haole Male 18-29
    601 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:13 pm
    Like I said before, guys can put girls in friend zones too.. I have a couple of times..

    You can be just friends with a girl, if that`s your only real intention that is. She can even be your wing(wo)man.

    Even if there might be some sexual tension, it`s not hard if you`re actually dating other girls.

    Now, if you have an actual girlfriend, it`s hard to have another girl as just a friend because of jealousy issues.

    @Leesah
    I do actually agree with you that when a guy willingly buys you things and you never give him the intention that it`s a possibility that you`ll have sex, then more power to yas... For reals..

    If you`re telling him that there IS a possibility and he keeps on buying you stuff because you`re leading him on, then well... You`ll make a great stripper one day.. That is if you got the goods...
  64. Profile photo of Angelmassb
    Angelmassb Male 18-29
    15511 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:14 pm
    Im glad to have a stable relationship, so no more "Friends zone" BS for me
  65. Profile photo of LemonCurry
    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:17 pm
    @ElectricEye
    "LemonCurry look at what you are defending.
    VVVVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVV VVVVVVVVV"
    --------------
    now what exactly am i defending?
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    8BitHero Male 18-29
    5414 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 6:40 pm
    @ leesah
    When I say art, I mean stuff like drawing dicks. We`re immature. Doing artsy paintings is cringeworthy.
    Again I don`t know any females like that. All nerds (Y) Would rather play Mario Kart than go to a fancy BS restaurant.
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    jamie76 Male 30-39
    2345 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 7:04 pm
    no,no, the friend zone is where women put men when they want constant attention from someone what will do just about anything for them in the pathetic hopes that it will change the girls mind. it is where they put men that they are not interested in but still want someone round to remind them that they are attractive and worthwhile.

    A TRUE FRIENDSHIP with a woman IS VERY POSSIBLE but not when one has feelings for the other that are not returned.

    a real woman does not friend zone a guy she knows likes him...she moves away from him to spare him and herself the headache and heartache that come from it.

    do not believe this total BS about the friend zone being a good thing...this was most likely made by the type of woman that friend zones guys.
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    jamie76 Male 30-39
    2345 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 7:08 pm

    "Ugh, my first boyfriend gave me so much art, and the sick thing is that I kept all of it. That`s all my boyfriends ever have to give me. Maybe that`s why I like other guys buying me real presents."

    you truly sound like a self absorbed girl with a sense of entitlement.

    let me put it this way for you, "OOHHH I want guys to stop giving me this type of gift and give someone that is realy expensive and nice..."

    yeah that is you.

    you are still a child, grow up, accept the person for who they are AND NEVER crush a persons dream.

    encouraging your ;past boyfriend to quit art school is a I am a pretty pretty little girlED up thing to do.

    I am sure that guy is or will be very glad he is no longer with you so he can find a real woman that will care about him for who he is and not what he can give her...by the way...from your pic...yeah not so much. I think you get my meaning.
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    xiquiripat Male 18-29
    2422 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 7:22 pm
    You guys have managed to make 5Cats sound reasonable. It must be the end of days.
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    clockwork208 Male 30-39
    835 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 7:43 pm
    Clearly Obama`s fault.
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    Afugy Male 30-39
    199 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 7:57 pm
    Friend zone means you`re a tool and whom ever wrote this is a virgin or a woman.
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    lampshadshoe Male 18-29
    43 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 8:07 pm
    obviously written by a woman who doesn`t understand mans concept of the friend zone
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    whipplefunk Male 30-39
    1053 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 8:20 pm
    NEVER!!!!
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    keith2 Male 30-39
    2588 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 8:21 pm
    I`m never in the friend zone, what a pathetic waste of time.
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    SarahofBorg Female 18-29
    3564 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 9:19 pm
    It`s pretty clear that there are a lot of men here who hate women. Apparently if a woman doesn`t find you sexy and irresistible it`s because she`s a royal bitch whose too good to have sex with a guy who so clearly deserves her obsessive devotion. Women should know that you`re superior and amazing, any woman who doesn`t want the privilege of getting boned by you and then thrown in the kitchen to cook and give birth to your children is clearly a disgusting human being.
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 10:31 pm
    "you never give him the intention that it`s a possibility that you`ll have sex, then more power to ya"

    That would be correct. I blatantly, outright rejected each of the three guys who continues to buy me gifts. & one lives in the UK so I doubt he really believes he has a chance. That has not yet stopped him from letting me buy myself things with his money.

    "All nerds (Y) Would rather play Mario Kart than go to a fancy BS restaurant."

    Why is a fancy restaurant BS? You`d rather play Mario Kart than go to a nice restaurant, I`d rather play Mario Kart than cook for the friends you bring over to watch the game. Everyone compromises.
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 10:33 pm
    "you truly sound like a self absorbed girl with a sense of entitlement."

    I am. If that`s news to you, well...



    You`re telling me "accept people for who they are wahh wahh", well I`m throwing it back at you, accept me for who I am. All of my past boyfriends have, that`s why they stuck around for so long. It`s very cute and sensitive of you to care about the men I used to date though, you are more than welcome to pursue my broken sloppy seconds, with my blessings!
  78. Profile photo of YugureKage
    YugureKage Female 18-29
    1205 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 10:41 pm
    Huzzah DrProfessor! That was really well said. And it gets to the heart of one of the fundamental misunderstandings between men and women. Unfortunately women are "brainwashed" by culture, friends, family, media whatever to think that men only want sex and that men will only invest emotional time in a women if he expects there to be sexual gratification. It is a dumb stereotype and generalization that women need to figure out isn`t always true. That digression aside, the "friend zone" isn`t strictly for men either. What you described can happen with anyone and it is extremely frustrating regardless of gender. So (to SarahofBorg) the men on i-a-b may come off as pricks about this one, but try to see it from their view. After being in a friend zone it is understandable to be jaded and bitter. However, I did like the idea behind this post. Maybe not the execution of it, but it was trying to show the friend zone from another point of view at least.
  79. Profile photo of YugureKage
    YugureKage Female 18-29
    1205 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 10:57 pm
    hmmm seems that the quote I was "huzzah-ing" is not here anymore? Well damn. Now my comment doesn`t make sense. Oh well. Reading the back and forth between people on here was quite amusing :P
  80. Profile photo of Tobunshi
    Tobunshi Male 18-29
    678 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 11:05 pm
    @leesah
    You almost sound proud to be a "self absorbed girl with a sense of entitlement." I`ve never hated you more.
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    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 27, 2012 at 11:31 pm
    I`ve never cared less~~~
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    beternal Male 18-29
    2589 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:07 am
    ComplIment is spelled wrong
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    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:26 am
    Wow, 4 pages of comments! Well I can`t be bothered to read all of them so I`ll sum up what I believe.

    I do believe that men and women can be friends. I think you need to be honest with your feelings up front (e.g 1 person wants a relationship but the other doesn`t). If you are unable to "handle" a friendship after talking then you need to walk away. No one deserves their feelings hurt. Furthermore, being in a "friendzone" does not mean 1 party is being taken advantage of; that`s where being an ADULT comes in. Don`t send mixed messages and if you can`t handle just being friends then WALK AWAY from the "relationship". It`s really not that difficult.
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    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:27 am
    And BTW...1.7??? Come on....

    :-(
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    gummy161 Male 18-29
    8 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:38 am
    yeaaaaa.....noo this post is full of bulls#@$ i guess the person who post this has never been in the friend zone. The Friend zone is an annoying and awkward place to be in. Saying " The girl KNOWS how you feel" yet all she does is "lets be bestfriends and all the crap". Being in the friend zone is just being led on and on, either cuz they need someone to be emotional with or someone to hang out with cuz every one is busy. If the guy or girl really cared about your feelings He or She wouldn`t sugar coat it. He or she would say " I just want to be friends and nothig more" so please don`t post crap like this. thank you
    P.S. I do agree that people should move on if there in the friend zone.
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    thai510 Male 18-29
    9 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:38 am
    ...I`ve got plenty of friends who are girls. Most people just don`t understand how to be friends with the opposite sex unless they grew up with that experience. If you have the mindset that everything is about sex, you will never have a friendship with a girl.
  87. Profile photo of lostinkorea
    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:55 am
    ""Being in the friend zone is just being led on and on, either cuz they need someone to be emotional with or someone to hang out with cuz every one is busy.""

    ____

    People only treat you how you let them treat you. If she`s up front and declares she wants to just be friends, what the hell is wrong with that? Put on your BIG BOY PANTS and either be friends or MOVE ON! I think some people just really need to grow up.
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    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:55 am
    Exactly @Thai510!!
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    lostinkorea Female 30-39
    3727 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 1:01 am
    SarahofBorg
    Female, 18-29, Eastern US
    3019 Posts Sunday, May 27, 2012 9:19:23 PM
    It`s pretty clear that there are a lot of men here who hate women. Apparently if a woman doesn`t find you sexy and irresistible it`s because she`s a royal bitch whose too good to have sex with a guy who so clearly deserves her obsessive devotion. Women should know that you`re superior and amazing, any woman who doesn`t want the privilege of getting boned by you and then thrown in the kitchen to cook and give birth to your children is clearly a disgusting human being.
    ____

    WOW, put your hand on the computer screen cause I`m sending you a high five! Can we get some input from any of the mature males on IAB?
  90. Profile photo of Funkytoes
    Funkytoes Female 18-29
    170 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 1:15 am
    @thai510
    Thank you!
  91. Profile photo of Selous
    Selous Male 30-39
    1197 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 1:22 am
    drat that, chicks are poo friends anyway, if you couldnt drat them you would throw rocks at them
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    thai510 Male 18-29
    9 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 1:25 am
    I think there`s a large disconnect here between males and females. It`s fairly obvious that everyone (you too ladies) is under the assumption that men think differently than women. They don`t. Once you realize that, you can be friends with the opposite sex, and have happier relationships. Men and Women both think about sex constantly, don`t pretend you don`t. It`s only when two people of the opposite sex agree and realize that that isn`t everything, and that they can get other things out of a friendship with the opposite sex, that they can be friends. Misconceptions and misunderstandings happen because of bad experiences or learned assumptions, and those are just as prevalent with both sexes.
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    eduardoleon Male 18-29
    500 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 2:07 am
    thank you @lostinkorea
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    Listypoos Male 40-49
    3069 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 2:13 am
    @selous

    "drat that, chicks are poo friends anyway, if you couldnt drat them you would throw rocks at them"

    whilst that made me laugh my tits off, my female mates are great..... my g/f can`t stand them, but that`s her issue, not mine or my friends.
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    thatjimguy Male 30-39
    459 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 3:07 am
    or...you just like using guys and want them to keep them around knowing they will never leave because they want that chance you`ll change your mind. No. Be bold and tell the poor nerdling so he gets it so they can move on. Don`t prolong the inevitable.
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    regediT Male 18-29
    716 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 4:50 am
    It`s the instance where girls lead you on despite establishing said `Friend-Zone` because some are merely attention whores.
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    Reignblazer Male 18-29
    2334 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 5:35 am
    Tits..or GTFO!
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    Zerstiren Male 18-29
    28 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 5:50 am
    It`s the "she simply isn`t attracted to you" aspect of this I don`t get. I suppose people can stay friends when this is made clear, and it`s perfectly fine. Otherwise, I don`t see the point in still talking to the person who doesn`t like you. Talk to their sister or something.
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    LemonCurry Male 40-49
    1106 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 6:00 am
    @YugureKage
    "hmmm seems that the quote I was "huzzah-ing" is not here anymore? Well damn. Now my comment doesn`t make sense. Oh well. Reading the back and forth between people on here was quite amusing :P"
    ----------------
    i love a good huzzah, thanks! :)
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    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 7:56 am
    I actively encouraged my last boyfriend to quit art "school" and try for a real job. The artsy liberal types apparently like the abuse.
    Typical woman trying to change a guy to suit her wants. If you want rich men go find one, don`t try to ruin someone else`s happiness because you don`t like dating men with money.

    You`re telling me "accept people for who they are wahh wahh", well I`m throwing it back at you, accept me for who I am. All of my past boyfriends have, that`s why they stuck around for so long.
    The difference is that they are just doing what they`ve always done, which is being artistic. As opposed to being narcissistic like you.

    Also I doubt that`s why they stayed for so long.

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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 8:14 am
    @YgurueKage--I retracted my statement (a little reluctantly) because I gave SarahofBorg the benefit of the doubt and assumed she wasn`t talking to me. I`ll try to reproduce it as best I can though.
  102. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 8:22 am
    The thing about the friendzone is that it`s not just some guy trying to get laid--I`ve been there before, when I was younger and a lot more naive about women. You`re struck with hopeless puppy-love for this girl, and you spend hours every day with her talking about every little detail of your lives and futures. While she interprets it as you gossiping with her, the same way she would with any of her other friends, you feel as though you`ve been baring your very soul to her. You would face down an army of bear-cyborgs alone for her sake without flinching--and yet, you watch her make her way through a long line of guys who ill-use her and make her miserable. You can`t figure out why it has to be that way, why she doesn`t realize just how much she means to you, or what`s wrong with you that makes her ignore you.

    Of course, it`s a lot more complicated than it appears, something neither of you realize. Guys aren`t always out just to get laid. We know love and passion too.
  103. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 8:25 am
    "As opposed to being narcissistic like you."

    Which is what I`ve always done.

    Don`t act like I tied them down and screamed until they cried. No one forced them to hang around for over a year in each case, they stayed of their own accord and only left when I told them I was done with them. That`s life!
  104. Profile photo of patchgrabber
    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 8:49 am
    I do believe that men and women can be friends.
    Of course they can, if they`re both in committed relationships.

    Which is what I`ve always done.
    Being narcissistic isn`t ok just because it`s what you`ve always done. I`m struggling to not reduce my argument to ad Hitlerum, but if someone has, say, anger problems, is it ok for that person to yell and scream at people because it`s what they`ve always done? Maybe your bf`s have liked your narcissistic personality, maybe they haven`t, but that doesn`t make it a good personality. If guys are sending you gifts with no implied chance to get with you, just send them back. Sounds to me like you`re only keeping their gifts to feed your ego.
  105. Profile photo of swoop408
    swoop408 Male 18-29
    1754 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 9:05 am
    Oh Leesah, you`re either a great troll or just a horrible human being. I don`t care either way.
  106. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 9:12 am
    "If guys are sending you gifts with no implied chance to get with you, just send them back."

    Why? Are you jealous of my gifts? That`s the only logical reason I can think of as to why you`re so butthurt over the fact that guys are sending me things, even though they know they`re not going to get anything in return. According to you I`m only allowed to keep the gifts I get in exchange for sex! Slut souvenirs are A-OK but how dare I accept them when given freely!

    If my boyfriends have liked my personality, why is it "bad"? Because YOU don`t like it? Luckily, no one is forced to be with people they don`t like! You don`t have to acknowledge me at all if you can`t stand my personality, imagine that!
  107. Profile photo of swoop408
    swoop408 Male 18-29
    1754 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 9:57 am
    Leesah, clearly taking advantage of people`s kindness and affection is something that is looked down upon. Especially knowing full well what you`re doing and then trying to be a braggart about it. You`re a smart girl. I don`t think it`s hard to comprehend this.
  108. Profile photo of patchgrabber
    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 10:16 am
    Why? Are you jealous of my gifts? That`s the only logical reason I can think of as to why you`re so butthurt over the fact that guys are sending me things
    Jealous? Far from it. I`m also not suggesting that you can only receive gifts for sex. The point is that these guys don`t really even seem to be your friends. Are they friends that you hang out with? If not then one would think the best thing to do would be to sever contact with these individuals, because their pestering is pathetic and annoying. Part of this would be to send back their gifts, because by keeping them these idiots are like a stray cat that you fed once (with however much attention you initially gave them) and now they won`t stop. Even though you may have told them you aren`t interested, by keeping their gifts it could give them the impression that you`re doing something like playing hard to get.
  109. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 10:32 am
    "learly taking advantage of people`s kindness and affection is something that is looked down upon."

    I`m not taking advantage of anyone. These are three guys who I have blatantly outright rejected and they insist on continuing to buy me presents anyway. I don`t see why that`s so hard for you to comprehend, but then again I wouldn`t exactly call you a "smart boy".

    "because their pestering is pathetic and annoying."

    To who? I don`t think they`re annoying. If they`re clinging to their own made up false hope that`s hardly my problem, but none of them give that impression. I always tell the one from the UK that if he were richer and whiter we`d be the real Rhett and Scarlet and he always says "but then I`d have to like you". So clearly at least one of them is not about constantly kissing my ass. Maybe he enjoys buying me presents because he thinks I deserve nice things and he can provide them without the expectation of getti
  110. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 10:33 am
    -getting anything in return. Wouldn`t that make him the man you all keep championing, the guy who does these wonderful things because he`s sensitive and loving and not because he`s just looking for sex?
  111. Profile photo of patchgrabber
    patchgrabber Male 30-39
    5812 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 10:50 am
    I always tell the one from the UK that if he were richer and whiter we`d be the real Rhett and Scarlet and he always says "but then I`d have to like you". So clearly at least one of them is not about constantly kissing my ass.

    So you tell him that if he were richer you`d be the star-crossed lovers from Gone With The Wind? That sounds to me like you telling him he needs to be rich and buy you things for you two to be together. Also that would make you Scarlett and she professed her love of Rhett, so by your own analogy you like the man? I`m done with this conversation, I don`t know what I hoped to achieve, but you just go on having your ego stroked, because having an external locus of worth doesn`t seem to bother you. Bonne chance.
  112. Profile photo of faaaaq
    faaaaq Male 18-29
    693 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 11:25 am
    and if a guy only is interested in you because he wants to drat you, SUCK IT UP AND TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT, at least he is interested and finds you attractive.

    there. feel better ladies?
  113. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 11:31 am
    "Also that would make you Scarlett and she professed her love of Rhett"

    Out of desperation when everything else was taken from her and she had nowhere left in the world to turn. Let`s ignore the current conversation for a second here, don`t tell me you believe for a second that Scarlett really changed her ways. Ashley had nothing left to offer her, once her eyes opened to that she left him to mourn his own miserable life so she could get back to Rhett and his money. She only starts to repent when even Rhett leaves her and she`s left destitute again, and she doesn`t repent for what she`s done, she repents losing what she had.

    & I tell him we`d be like Rhett and Scarlett because he knows we`d never be together except to use each other for our own gains.
  114. Profile photo of Crabes
    Crabes Male 30-39
    1285 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 11:34 am
    I hate these posts who is trying to teach man how to behave with woman, its plain stupid
  115. Profile photo of NNoamfer
    NNoamfer Male 18-29
    1216 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 11:46 am
    Goddamn Leesah, you are a stupid bitch.
  116. Profile photo of leesah
    leesah Female 18-29
    1566 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 12:09 pm
    Do you kiss your mommy with that vulgar mouth, little boy?
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    maddux32 Male 30-39
    926 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 1:44 pm
    I`m with Leesah. And I respect that. Kind of weirded out by the guys trying to call her out.
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    ChiefRocka Male 18-29
    65 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 3:58 pm
    I wouldnt say bitchy men friend zone drating blows
  119. Profile photo of DrProfessor
    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 3:59 pm
    I kiss your mommy with my vulgar mouth.
  120. Profile photo of Shinymetal
    Shinymetal Male 18-29
    171 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 4:46 pm
    so here is what i read.

    Guys should stop complaining about being friend-zoned because I enjoy the special treatment I get from men who want to be with me. I obviously benefit from these relationships so i string the male along with just enough hope to keep him around but not so little that he stops helping me move my heavy property or fixing my car or computer/ loaning me money/ telling me how beautiful and worthwhile i am(though clearly not). in conclusion you should take this as a compliment and be grateful that I don`t care enough about you to tell you to move on to another woman who will return your love properly.

    unless he was told explicitly he has no chance, then whoever agrees with this is delusional.
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    Shinymetal Male 18-29
    171 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 4:48 pm
    chances are if a male is actively seeking companionship from a female, he is usually seeking more than a platonic friendship that he could do better at with his male friends. girls need to not worry about hurting a mans feeling and be honest with him. to be dishonest with someone for fear of hurt feelings seldom leads to a good ending. this also goes for men who lead on women.
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    mqRed Male 18-29
    6 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 7:27 pm
    Dear Men,
    If you wanted to have a sexual relationship with a woman and it didn`t happen in the first month of knowing her. Move on.

    Don`t bitch about the friendzone because you`re the one responsible for getting in it. If you want a relationship with someone don`t be a coward and tell them how you feel, that way you won`t be doing more damage to yourself for months and year s to come.
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    Squrlz4Sale Male 40-49
    6230 posts
    May 28, 2012 at 9:27 pm
    @LIK: I definitely think you hit an IAB nerve with this post. LOL!
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    Justin9235 Male 18-29
    1582 posts
    May 29, 2012 at 4:54 am
    @Shinymetal

    Lol, pretty much.
  125. Profile photo of Fojos
    Fojos Male 18-29
    170 posts
    May 29, 2012 at 2:43 pm
    "People only treat you how you let them treat you. If she`s up front and declares she wants to just be friends, what the hell is wrong with that? Put on your BIG BOY PANTS and either be friends or MOVE ON! I think some people just really need to grow up."

    That`s where you girls have it wrong. Being in the friend zone is when the woman doesn`t say straight up what she wants from someone. It`s when she doesn`t say she only wants to be friends, falsely leading someone on. It`s like you all believe women can`t be bad.

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