Why Men And Women Can`t Be Friends, Part 2

Submitted by: patvicious1 5 years ago in Funny

Is it OK for committed couples to have friends of the opposite sex? The game"s the same, only the players have changed.
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Male 526
dude dressed like a bear...
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Male 663
I think the guy in the video phrased it the best.

If you put someone in the position enough times, they will eventually fall. No matter how sincere or how much they love you, people aren`t perfect, and people make mistakes.

That being said, I don`t think it`s appropriate to hang out with the opposite sex alone when you`re in a relationship, but group settings are fine. Even if nothing happens, you`ll probably make your partner paranoid and jealous, which is mean in its own weird kind of way.
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Male 5,811
Just watch "When Harry Met Sally".
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Male 38,480

@ tttaylorrr - no, you`re right. I don`t know you, him, or your relationship.
But I know guys. We`re juvenile, posessive, agressive, territorial, and all those other caveman things. So if the boyfriend isn`t into you enough to care, he`s probably not that into you. But why does he have to be? You`re not marrying him or anything.

Tally the thread here and you`ll see most girls say "it`s okay" most guys say "it`s not".
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Male 741
Every one of these couples he interviewed probably got in a huge argument and broke up later that night :)
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Male 1,093
@ 2:04 Al Bundy quote
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Male 1,129
I have a chick friend whom if my girl friend didnt accept her then bye. cause ITs a totally platonic relationship always has been
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Male 2,419
men and women can`t be friends? you people are retarded
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Male 1,754
Insecurities are rampant here. wow lol
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Male 1,754
Me and my gf must be the exception to this rule then. This is all new to me.
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Male 12,365
[quote]I don`t easily get jealous, but at the same time, i don`t trust other guys, and I`ve had various girlfriends admit a similar distrust of my longtime female friends.[/quote]

If you think any of those guys would rape your girlfriend, surely the right thing to do is at least warn her and explain why you think he/they is/are rapists?

Likewise for the "various girlfriends" who, you claim, admitted that they thought your longtime female friends would rape you.

Or (and I think this is much more likely) you and those "various girlfriends" are lying about who it is you don`t trust. If you think your girlfriend might *choose* to have sex with some guy who`s offering, it`s *her* you don`t trust. Likewise for those various girlfriends you mention and you.
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Male 459
The problem is that women always want someone on the side "just in case". That way, they don`t cheat...officially, but they are there, waiting in the wings. It`s all about power. If a guy puts up with it, he`ll be gone because every relationship has it ups and downs and that grass is always greener.
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Female 3
its called having trust in your relationship.
if you can trust yourself around the opposite sex then why wouldn`t you trust your partner?
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Male 406
Most of my friends are girls, but thats just kinda how it`s always been due to some factors of my childhood. I had to learn to be able to get along with girls and have the ability to view them as just friends because thats what i was mostly surrounded by through out my time elementary school.

With that said, as I`ve gotten older, it has become increasingly difficult to remain just friends with many of the girls mainly due to outside expectations. When I`m dating a girl, I admittedly don`t like her to be hanging out with other guys one on one, and I try to hang out with my female friends in groups that include my current interest. I don`t easily get jealous, but at the same time, i don`t trust other guys, and I`ve had various girlfriends admit a similar distrust of my longtime female friends.
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Male 237
Here`s the deal ladies. When you say "but most of my friends are guys" that is not true. You have a line of guys that are willing to bone you if given the opportunity. The ones that aren`t in that line are probably gay.

Don`t believe me? Ask them.
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Male 12,365
[quote]It`s honestly never bothered me. I always looked at it in the way that he can have a lot of friends who are girls but he picked only me as his girlfriend, so why should I have anything to worry about?

Or maybe I`ve just been way too trusting...[/quote]

Well, there`s a fair chance you`ll be involved with some guy who is cheating on you, sooner or later.

But that could happen anyway and overall you`ll be better off with an abundance of trust than without enough of it. Few things kill relationships more effectively than trust issues.
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Male 2,841
BRING FORTH THE ANGRY COMMENTS.
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Male 714
women: it`s ok for me to hangout with my male friend one to one but not ok for my boyfriend to go out with just a female friend.

this is because women are insecure about their relationships and need to cultivate a `saftey net` guy who they can settle for if need be.

men are just realists: i don`t hangout with girls unless i want to have sex with them, therefore this `guyfriend` wants to have sex with my girlfriend. so drat that guy, let him get his own girlfriend the friendzoned loser.
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Female 170
You either trust your partner or you don`t. If you don`t then it`s something you need to deal with as you believe your partner is not entirely trustworthy or that you are insecure with the relationship. You cannot force anyone into staying with you, you have to accept they are their own person.
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Female 90
@Gerry1of1 we`ve been dating for 2 years, and i know it doesn`t bother him. also i`m pretty sure you don`t know him or our relationship, sOz... |:
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Male 25,416
Well... it depends on the friends. Friendzone friends are usually boyfriend wanna be;s
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Female 44
My best friend is a guy. He`s in he army, so our only correspondence is text messages and e-mail. The one time I told him my boy troubles he responded that he forgot I was a girl. Gender ain`t no big thing, baby
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Male 3,619
oh i-a-b, why do you have to rustle my jimmies so?
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Female 7,866
Of course- I have male friends, my partner has female friends. Not a problem at all- cannot think why it would be?
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Male 1,178
pretty stupid really, just because something bothers your other half doesn`t mean you shouldn`t do it. Couples can be irrational and often know that they are being stupid.
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Female 182
"Aren`t you the guy that went to the high school..."
Haha! Best line
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Male 1,429
Been with my wife since we started dating over 13 years ago. One of my best friends (from grade 2) is a female. Nothing ever happened. I have a number of female friends. She has guy friends. It`s all good.
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Male 4,807
"Men and women can`t be friends"??

Can`t wait to show all my female friends this.
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Female 3,727
Yes, men and women can be friends and be in a relationship. Grow up!

NEXT!
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Male 1,268
"That`s not the way most guys think"

Exactly. I mean, what works for you works for you, but if the general consensus of women say "Sure, my bf can hang out with all sorts of women who are at least as hot as I am and I have no problem with that." then they`re nuts. Most men will stray given time and motivation.

@Bunny. Does your boyfriend make considerably more money than your male friends? Are you considerably hotter than his female friends? If the answer to both questions is yes, fine. If either is no, someone should`ve at least doubted the fidelity at some point.
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Female 80
well, all my friends for the most part are guys haha.
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Male 3,445
"Dude, prussia, that just sounds like a recent large decrease is sex drive. All it takes is one woman secretly fawning over you, and that "maturity" is frequently tossed aside. "

Haha, I get what you`re saying but it`s not about sex drive. I`ve had a girl who fawned all over me and it was a miserable relationship, so I`m done with that. I guess I just want to find the right girl for me. That`s not the way most guys think, but I`m cool with it.
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Female 2,525
Doesn`t bother me, doesn`t bother my boyfriend. I don`t think it`s a big deal.
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Male 1,268
"matured" "romantically"

Dude, prussia, that just sounds like a recent large decrease is sex drive. All it takes is one woman secretly fawning over you, and that "maturity" is frequently tossed aside.

I`ve been on multiple ends of the "friends of the opposite sex" coin where things turned away from friendship for better or worse. It`s a silly conceited idea to think it`ll always work out perfectly where they/you will always be friends.
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Male 3,445
I think it`s about maturity. I used to think men and women couldn`t be friends, but as I`ve matured I`ve gained fewer male friends and more female friends. There are girls that I`ve been interested in or dated who are now friends of mine and who I`m no longer interested in romantically.
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Male 38,480

[quote]"my boyfriend knows all of my guy friends here on my campus ... and he`s never been too bothered with how much i hang out with them" [/quote]
Because he`s not that into you. If he was really in love it would bug the crap out of him. Sorry, that`s just how guys are.
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Female 90
adding to my last comment, my boyfriend knows all of my guy friends here on my campus (which are my best friends) and he`s friends with them as well, and he`s never been too bothered with how much i hang out with them, after he got to know them.
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Female 90
in their last video most of the guys said that they could never be "just friends" with guys, so yeah it`d bother me if my boyfriend was hanging out with some girl...oh no now i`m a jealous crazy girlfriend. ):
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Female 1,441
It`s honestly never bothered me. I always looked at it in the way that he can have a lot of friends who are girls but he picked only me as his girlfriend, so why should I have anything to worry about?

Or maybe I`ve just been way too trusting...
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Male 792
Bullsheit! I`ve got lots of platonic female friends, some hot, some not so much. Would I jump the hot ones` bones given the chance? You bet your sweet bippy...but, would I ever allow it if they or I were in a relationship? Nope.
Got drunk and stoned with a hot female friend...just the two of us all alone. Not a single thing happened other than watching stupid YouTube videos.
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Male 17,512
Men and women can be friends, but as the great Ronald Reagan once said, "Trust But Verify".
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Male 38,480

Easiest question in the world.
The answer is "It`s okay when she does it but not when he does."
Yeah, unfair. But I`ve seen it in all my straight friends relationships.

Me? I think it`s not appropriate.
Why? Because men are dogs.
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Male 1
Link: Why Men And Women Can`t Be Friends, Part 2 [Rate Link] - Is it OK for committed couples to have friends of the opposite sex? The game`s the same, only the players have changed.
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