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62 Responses to The Purity Bear: Dinner Date

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    fancylad Male 30-39
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    February 16, 2012 at 3:32 pm
    Link: The Purity Bear: Dinner Date - This PSA was made by Day of Purity--an organization that promotes teens to abstain from sex (and believable acting).
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    pfkdxius Male 18-29
    314 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 3:45 pm
    So you should wait to have sex so that he has to marry you, then when you do and he wants to dump you he`s stuck because it`s too late?

    Sounds more like a recipe for unhappy marriages to me.
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    msieg007 Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 3:47 pm
    I abstained as a teenager. Not by choice though... Sigh...
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    Pooptart19 Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 3:56 pm
    Ewwwww.
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    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:15 pm
    pfkdxius: I do not understand people who say that. A marriage should be based on a lot more then sex. In my eyes, sex happens when you`re in love. I have NOTHING against people who have sex before marriage, but it`s not what MAKES the marriage. I had a boyfriend who said, after the 4th date, that sex was part of getting to know a person. I married my husband without having sex first... high school sweethearts... it is possible... and we`ve been happily married for almost 5 years now.
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    Ripper398 Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:16 pm
    He totally picked up a hooker after he kicked that prude bitch out.
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    Kaagan Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:20 pm
    smooth moves
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    ScottSerious Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:24 pm
    bwhahaahahaha
  9. Profile photo of pfkdxius
    pfkdxius Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:40 pm
    HalfPintPoo: My criticism is against this video, not people who choose not to have sex before marriage. The bear says "he`ll throw you out like the pizza box" (paraphrase). So the implication is that he`s going to throw her out eventually. Is is better that that happens now or after they`re married?

    This video chose to make its point using a stupid argument. I have also heard this argument more explicitly. The guy my church brought in to talk to the youth group about sex basically said "most marriages fail in the first two years, so you should put off sex so it can get you through that time". I thought it was a stupid argument then too.
  10. Profile photo of CrakrJak
    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    February 16, 2012 at 4:44 pm
    I didn`t abstain as a teenager, but was careful not to make babies, back then, either. Of course this was before AIDS, hepatitis, and antibiotic resistant gonorrhea where of any real concern. Nowadays I think I`d take this videos advice.

    Ya, I can hear the IAB liberals shouting "Hypocrite" at me now, but at least we were being responsible about it, got contraception and discussed the risks beforehand. Most teens in the 80`s didn`t, it was wham, bam, thank ya ma`am and it left a lot of problems in it`s wake.
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    zombunny Female 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 5:07 pm
    I`m not against people choosing abstinence before marriage (though I think it`s a bad idea, it`s still their choice), but I am adamantly against abstinence-only education and a culture of slut shaming.
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    Squrlz4Sale Male 40-49
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    February 16, 2012 at 5:36 pm
    BOOGER!
  13. Profile photo of Draculya
    Draculya Male 40-49
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    February 16, 2012 at 5:45 pm
    He should ask for a refund of half the dinner`s cost plus gas money. Take that and head straight to the whore house. And never call that time wasting blond again.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
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    February 16, 2012 at 5:48 pm

    "Virgins are more successful" ?

    At what, video games?
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    HalfPintRoo Female 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 5:53 pm
    pfkdxius: sorry for not reading your response the way you intended it.

    I`m just so used to hearing it. On my wedding day, the hair dresser was shocked and said "How do you know you`re compatible if you haven`t had sex?!"... I don`t know how it even came up at this point but seeing as we have dated for 7 years... I was pretty sure without sex we were compatible!
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    Wowummwow Male 18-29
    265 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 6:12 pm
    Soo.... at what point was he propositioning for sex?
    All I saw was him going in to kiss her goodnight and her interpreting that as having the guy`s offspring.

    I abstained until marriage, maybe not completely innocent either. The driving factor for that one was the horrendously large statistical chance of catching any number of permanent viral infections.
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    ledzeppeloyd Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:26 pm
    sure.......
  18. Profile photo of zombunny
    zombunny Female 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:34 pm
    @HalfPintRoo, maybe in your case everything worked out fine, but a lot of married couples wait until marriage for sex and then find out they`re not the least bit sexually compatible. It`s unfortunate and avoidable.
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    swoop408 Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:37 pm
    Agree with Zombunny. Sex is sex. Love is love. Know the difference and quit putting them together.
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    meneado Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:40 pm
    GAAAAAAAAY.
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    ilurk Female 18-29
    220 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 6:40 pm
    Video could have been a lot better. Side note, I didn`t wait. Hell, I`m still not married but been with the same man for six years and we have a child. Worked out well for us so far.
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    Otto67 Male 40-49
    438 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 6:46 pm
    "Sorry, I gave my word, to stop at 3rd"
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    jendrian Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:49 pm
    @HalfPintRoo: that`s like saying you`ve passed beside a house for 7 years and you like it so much that you just "know" you`ll be happy living in it, so you take a giant mortgage without ever stepping foot inside. Sure there`s the possibility the house and you will be a great match, but it`s a giant gamble you`re making.
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    jendrian Male 18-29
    2516 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 6:53 pm
    young men who are sexually active experience chronic depression? that sounds like complete BS. It`s like saying "fish who swim in the ocean experience being eaten". There`s no such thing as a young adult who isn`t sexually active, if they`re not getting it with a girl, they`re masturbating. I`m pretty sure the guy in the video went home and jacked off like there was no tomorrow, and I mean both the persona on the story, and the actor.
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    jendrian Male 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 6:54 pm
    it should be obvious that in my post I`m talking exclusively about men. Girls are better at not masturbating (though most obviously do it), Penn & Teller already talked about it.
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    kittehdee29 Female 18-29
    803 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 6:55 pm
    I was fairly young when I lost my virginity and I don`t regret it in the slightest. I learned to differentiate sex from love early. I was "that clingy girl" with my first boyfriend/lover but other than that I haven`t been "that girl" since. Sex is a huge part of my life and I make sure to be smart about it. This group is teaching kids to not only not know the difference between sex and love, but is teaching them nothing of the real world.
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    swoop408 Male 18-29
    1754 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 7:05 pm
    kittehdee, I could not have said it better myself.
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    Squrlz4Sale Male 40-49
    6230 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 7:15 pm
    Ooh! Ooh! We can go to the "Day of Purity" website and order our Day of Purity wristbands, pledge cards, and t-shirts.

    What? No red sashes? Junior Anti-Sex League, anyone?
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    PsychGeek Female 18-29
    1798 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 7:22 pm
    What you didn`t see was the guy masturbating later that night. In the morning he wrote himself a note saying how he regrets what he did and thinks he should have waited longer. Then he got into his car and drove away.
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    Squrlz4Sale Male 40-49
    6230 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 7:24 pm
    Maybe I`m just cranky tonight, but reading stuff on the Day of Purity website is really ticking me off. If they want to advise abstinence, fine. But they`re setting up this whole dichotomy of, Those who pledge and abstain until marriage are PURE and enjoy all the benefits of PURITY; those who have sex before marriage are IMPURE and DIRTY and are probably going to suffer from a life of misery, horrible physical disease, divorce, and maybe schizophrenia.

    ~Squrlz decides to retreat into his oak tree hollow until his bad mood blows over~
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    tacks Female 18-29
    155 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 8:12 pm
    If you have sex before marriage, your penis will fall off and go into another dimension where it will be eaten my dogs. It`s science, derp.
  32. Profile photo of Draculya
    Draculya Male 40-49
    14657 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 8:20 pm
    Abstinence is not purity. A man or woman is no more or less `pure` if (s)he is a virgin or a whore. I`ve met pure souls that have had hundreds of lovers, and the most detestable people who were allegedly virgins.

    It`s just one of many bible things designed to give the church more control over our lives and state of mind.
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    North_Dak Male 18-29
    126 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 8:34 pm
    I also dump the boxes when I`m done with the pie
  34. Profile photo of jendrian
    jendrian Male 18-29
    2516 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 9:07 pm
    I guess 2/3 of all of us pre-marriage fornicators are just doomed to be depressed and unhappy, while virgins "win" at something? ... like Gerry pointed out.

    Or maybe sex is awesome and done responsibly should give you nothing to regret, and a lot of happiness.
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    PhOeNiX559 Male 18-29
    14 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 9:51 pm
    cock blocked by a teddy bear.
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    clamaato Female 18-29
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    February 16, 2012 at 10:18 pm
    I think the movie "Teeth" sends the best message about abstinence. I recommend it to everyone.
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    VictoryRider Male 40-49
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    February 16, 2012 at 10:49 pm
    I think that third point at the end may have been referring to staying married. I have read that before anyway.

    I also like jendrian`s take on it.
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    photomstr Male 50-59
    766 posts
    February 16, 2012 at 11:44 pm
    It is repression like this causes all our troubles. Ignorance is a disease. Only curable by knowledge and education. Not some 2000 yr old piece of fiction. I made damned sure my kids knew everything they needed to know to ensure a solid adulthood. This is neglect in all it`s religious glory . . .
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    Jerry1of1 Male 30-39
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    February 17, 2012 at 12:09 am
    Nice cardigan non-nice individual.
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    supersassyk8 Female 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 1:44 am
    "It is repression like this causes all our troubles. Ignorance is a disease. Only curable by knowledge and education. Not some 2000 yr old piece of fiction. I made damned sure my kids knew everything they needed to know to ensure a solid adulthood. This is neglect in all it`s religious glory . . . "

    Yes because being sexually active too soon is such a winner. 2/3 girls regret being sexully active too soon and from all the chats with friends I`ve had, I`d believe it.

    There are so many teenage parents now that are too young to have kids (children as young as 10 now!) Does this not set alarm bells off in your mind?

    There`s absolutely no harm in someone waiting to have sex through abstinance. There`s also a few hard lessons to learn from having sex too soon.

    Just because someone is educated about sex doesn`t make them ready for it.
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    Samsquanch Male 30-39
    792 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 3:26 am
    Yes because being sexually active too soon is such a winner. 2/3 girls regret being sexully active too soon and from all the chats with friends I`ve had, I`d believe it.

    Because of the stigma that "sex outside of marriage=bad". Thanks for that, church.

    "There are so many teenage parents now that are too young to have kids (children as young as 10 now!) Does this not set alarm bells off in your mind? "

    Because society puts so much pressure on children these days, it`s making them mature faster than they should.

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    jendrian Male 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 3:26 am
    @supersassyk8: You`re right, it just makes them knowledgeable about what sex is and what it entails, and gives them a good reason to wait, unlike the claim that abstinence will undoubtedly make you happier that`s on the video.
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    thubanstar Female 50-59
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    February 17, 2012 at 4:40 am
    Very well said, Draculya
  44. Profile photo of zombunny
    zombunny Female 18-29
    2525 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 4:43 am
    @supersassyk8, the issue isn`t that teens are having sex. The issue is that many of them do it for the wrong reasons, and they don`t do it safely. That`s why sex education and a sex-positive culture is so important.
  45. Profile photo of CrakrJak
    CrakrJak Male 40-49
    17514 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 5:10 am
    Samsquanch: Teenagers having sex is bad behavior, they are engaging in an activity that they don`t have the responsibility to handle the consequences of. We have way too many teen pregnancies, most of which lead right into the welfare rolls.

    Teens should be concentrating on their school books not their sexual satisfaction. Get an education, graduate college, get a job, then start a family.
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    smithno13 Male 18-29
    252 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 5:55 am
    Because some people enjoy trying to control how others live their life.
  47. Profile photo of Finker
    Finker Male 40-49
    505 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 6:01 am
    Get an education, graduate college, get a job, you can have sex with contraception during all of that if you are sensible, then start a family if you want to. If you are careless, or dumb then take extra precautions.

    Having sex and graduating are not two opposing choices.
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    MountainBord Female 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 6:24 am
    a higher success rate? success for what? Babies?
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    pmarren Male 40-49
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    February 17, 2012 at 7:06 am
    I`ve spent my life searching for the 1/3 girls.
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    LemonTarte Female 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 8:36 am
    Higher success rate...what the hell? For what??
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    imnakdjumpme Male 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 9:34 am
    what, no anal?
  52. Profile photo of CrakrJak
    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    February 17, 2012 at 10:19 am
    Finker: Every time someone has sex outside of marriage they are rolling the dice with their lives, roll the dice one too many times, or even get a bad roll the first time and your screwed.
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    imnakdjumpme Male 18-29
    598 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 11:22 am
    Crakr, every time you have sex with someone you dont know, you are rolling the dice, but it doesnt have anything to do with marriage. You dont have to married to be monogamous or to know the people you are sleeping with are clean.
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    number1man Male 13-17
    240 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 11:30 am
    pmarren the other girls just don`t think they should have waited
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    Fatninja01 Male 30-39
    25420 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 12:51 pm
    What not even a dirty sanchez :P
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    tatripp Male 18-29
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    February 17, 2012 at 2:03 pm
    That pervert never game back.
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    GParadox Female 18-29
    737 posts
    February 17, 2012 at 5:37 pm
    Guuuuurrrrll I know you didn`t just take advice from a stuffed teddy bear because that would be totally f`d up.
  58. Profile photo of CrakrJak
    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    February 18, 2012 at 5:42 am
    imnakdjumpme: I`m sure, do you ask every woman you have sex with for her VD test lab results ? Do they ask for yours ?

    Highly doubtful that you or they do, taking someone`s word for it doesn`t ensure that anyone is `clean`.
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    EgalM Male 30-39
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    February 18, 2012 at 5:43 am
    That was pretty terrible acting, and overall. Have these people never heard of mutual masterbation, or one step further, oral. Sheesh, don`t have to have sex to still have a good time.
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    Idlerlee2 Male 18-29
    135 posts
    February 19, 2012 at 3:24 am
    Nice moral compass america. Now accepting fundings to build a rocket that can shoot the entire country into outer space
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    PhotoKing Male 30-39
    526 posts
    February 19, 2012 at 2:14 pm
    that`s dangerous. neither one of them were wearing seat belts.
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    mcboozerilla Male 30-39
    646 posts
    February 22, 2012 at 7:06 am
    I dump the pizza box when I`m finished with the pizza too. It`s the only way to roll.

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