Mom`s 7-Year Old Son Announces He`s Gay

Submitted by: littlemissqt 4 years ago
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/when-your-7-year-old-son-announces-im-gay_b_1277910.html

He basically came out to his mom--pretty shocking, but it"s happening more than we know. How would you react, I-A-B?
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Female 357
And to this day he gets the Bronie salute everywhere he goes.
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Male 75
Eh. In 4th grade there was this kid who told all of us he loved Johnny Depp on 21 Jump Street because he was "hot" and he had a girl Cabbage Patch Kid and had the biggest collection of My Little Ponies in the whole school. He announced he was gay too, with no prompting from anyone else. He`s now 36 and still gay. Still loves Johnny Depp. It happens. Kids that age CAN know they are gay.
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Male 294
Honestly, if I had to guess, I`d say the kid is saying such stuff purely for attention. Really, just think of the kind of attention he probably got the first time he claimed he was gay.

Plus, rather than just getting attention from the other kids, like a kid does when he claims he knows karate or something, he`s got older individuals fawning over him and talking about him and giving him attention, and anything negative is pointed towards the parents.

If this was anything else no one would even care. If it was just a crush ppl would write it off as...*ahem*, `puppy love` and move on, and yet somehow because he says "I`m gay", people just magically forget that children like to get rises out of people.

So either it`s for attention, which I`m very, very much so banking on as I`m guessing someone that age barely grasps what being gay means, or he`s got some severe issues at home that would be causing him to seriously even think about those kinds of issu
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Male 36,400
Huff-post, oy!
TEaching your 7 year old child to run around telling people his sexual orientation should be considered BAD parenting, imho...
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Male 553
Yeah he`s not gay. At least not yet. He`s 7..
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Male 2,516
@ggolbez: it`s 1), it says so in the article. He just really likes watching Glee and one of his idols is one of the leads (I guess?... I don`t watch that sh*t) in the show.

I don`t even know why we should care about sexual orientation of anybody. Like I said before, if instead of labelling a person as "gay" or "straight" or "bi", we`d just think of them as having had a certain amount of homosexual and heterosexual experiences, that are for the most part completely unrelated to a person`s personality and character, this sort of thing, and the debate against "gay rights" would be completely moot.
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Male 1,931
At 7 years old sex is the last thing on any (normal not abused) child`s mind. Two possibilities here that I can imagine:

1) The child watches TV programming that idolizes certain aspects like homosexuality. Right or wrong, it`s what he has been exposed to. When I was 7 years old, I was convinced that I was a super hero and had super powers. Granted, I watched a lot of Batman and Superman.

2) Molestation of some kind that has preemptively thrust him into this type of mental state.

No child of 7 thinks, or for that matter should know, about sex. Let alone their orientation. He simply does not have the physical capability of having an erection, let alone know about his sexual affiliation.

If he turns out gay, fine whatever it doesn`t matter. But at 7 years old there is no possible way for him to know that. This is simply a product of his environment.
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Male 506
And a few anecdotal stories to counter some of the one`s posted earlier.

When I was a kid, my parents thought I was gay. I wasn`t, I was just painfully shy and introverted. They also thought I was on drugs. I wasn`t, I was just angsty. Parents don`t always know their kids. Most of them don`t even talk to their kids.

My son is 7 right now. He`s is NOT straight or gay. He sometimes thinks he`s a T-Rex, but I know he`s not. I don`t go around announcing to the world that my son is a T-Rex and I`m proud of him. Frankly, acting like a T-Rex annoys the poo of me sometimes and it`s very disruptive to class.

What we do as children does not determine what we do as adults. I`m not against kids thinking they`re gay or straight, I`m against the notion that kids really understand what that really means. But I`m very much against parents deciding for their kids and announcing it to the world.
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Male 506
Refuse to believe that any child knows their sexual orientation before they`ve even begun to sexually mature.

We`ve got to stop sexualizing our children. Whether it`s championing 7 year olds for coming out of the closet or those dreadful toddlers beauty-pageants.
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Female 1,803
I held hands with a boy I liked in first grade. I`d say that made me straight at 6. Nothing sexual about it but I wanted that kind of relationship with him and not a girl. But since that`s "normal" there was no reason to put a label on it. Didn`t change my mind at puberty. This boy wants to "hold hands" with a boy so that makes him gay. Pretty simple and I don`t understand people saying "HE CAN`T KNOW AT 7". Just shows what your own fears and prejudices are. You take for granted that you knew what YOU liked and never gave it a second thought because no one challenged you on it. Sure, he might change his mind later, doubt it, but I`m glad his parents love him either way. If they had flipped out and tried to change him, he`d be screwed up for life.
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Male 505
Maybe he is, maybe he isn`t, it`s not a problem either way so tell him you love him, that`s the important bit.
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Female 357
*Ahem* I`m not saying it`s a choice for everyone, I`m saying that I think there`s a scale that goes from "I don`t even want to think about it" to "a little bit" to "I`m cool either way" to "I`d be happier with someone of the same gender" to "I`m GAAAAAAAYYYYYYY", with lots of spots in between LOL. I think it`s silly to say that there are only three spots and that you`ve got to be pegged into one of them (DO NOT say that`s what she said). tehbionic is challenged.
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Male 3,364
Draculya: "Hand him some lube and a 4 D-cell maglite and tell him to get practising for when he`s 21."

Or, you could just loan him yours.
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Male 2,859
Give it a chance kid, you might be bi which would be much more fun.
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Male 792
At 7, you`re just starting to become aware of your sexual feelings. God, I hope the parents don`t label him as gay. Chances are, he could realize, "poo! I`m not gay!" when he`s 12, and puberty kicks in.
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Female 3,696
Musuko42
This.

I agree with you wholeheartedly. The point isn`t whether or not he is gay. It`s how we react to it and not treating it like it`s a negative. As long as you teach your kids that you love them for who they are, whoever that is then when they do go through puberty and start feeling sexually attracted to whoever, they won`t feel so terribly alone.
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Male 2,850
Why would anyone feel the need to tell him "no, you`re not"?

If he said he was an astronaut or a fireman, would people similarly rush to tell him he`s not?
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Male 6,737
Too young.

My son`s 7 and if he tried to come out to me I`d tell him to come back in 8 or 9 years.

Ultimately I`d accept it, but he knows that I want grandchildren at some point. ;)
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Female 74
@Drprofessor, let me repeat myself: little childhood "crushes" are completely different than having full sexual feelings for another person.
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Male 3,894
Anyone saying that 7 is too young to be emotionally attracted to anyone--I was in love with the neighbor girl at 4 years old, and was sure that I`d marry her. I even got jealous when the other neighbor boy liked her.
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Male 663
Sexual attraction doesn`t exist at age 7, so I`d think nothing of it to be honest.

When I was 7 I think I probably announced I was a secret agent or a bus driver or something. I`d wait till he went through puberty before taking it seriously.
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Female 185
I remember having crushes on boys when I was that young. I knew I liked boys and even had a "boyfriend" when I was five. Yes, kids that young may not fully understand what it means to have a partner or what it means to have sex, but they do understand that they have some kind of attraction to certain people. That`s all it is... innocent and a part of discovering who you are. I had MANY crushes on boys before I even his puberty. Every one is different. Maybe this doesn`t happen to every child, but it does happen, obviously.
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Female 6,381
PeachyxKeen, you`re quite right. I`ll grant that most gays (like the trans people being discussed recently) knew they were that way at a very young age. But that does NOT mean that every boy who is too young to have sexual feelings and claims to be "gay," is. In my school days, the first sign of attraction among students didn`t appear until 7th Grade! Just assuming your 7-year-old knows because he says so is brainless.
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Male 1,196
Come on. He`s 7. He doesn`t even know what gay is. I think his parents want him to be gay and he is picking up on it. These parents are probably worse than those toddlers in tiara parents.
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Male 10
Lois! Lois! Lois! Lois! Lois! Mom! Mom! Mom! Mommy! Mommy! Mommy! Mama! Mama! Mama! Ma! Ma! Ma! Ma! Mum! Mum! Mum! Mum! Mummy! Mummy! Mumma! Mumma! Mumma!

Whaddya want?!?!?!?!

I`m gay! (Giggles)
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Female 74
@landogriffin little childhood "crushes" is completely different than having full sexual feelings for another person. And as for your friend`s daughter, there are plenty of girls who go through a tomboy phase just like that around that age, and then eventually, AFTER going through puberty and a more sexual phase, do not feel that way anymore and become more feminine and do more feminine things. I for one, was one of those girls. I hated girl stuff, the color pink, and wanted to do ALL boy things. After going through puberty, my personality changed and I am a straight, 19 year old. Again, 7 year olds do not fully understand what sexuality is, and at that age, are just going through a phase.
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Female 3,696
This warmed me right through the core. Angelmassb, if you think this is a parenting fail I hope to god you don`t have children.

He`s not going to know for sure until he`s older and he truly starts to look at boys as potential boyfriends but the best thing a parent can do for their child is to accept them. You`re straight? I love you. You`re gay? I love you. You`re Sheldon? I love you.

Then they can grow up into reasonable human beings who aren`t afraid to just be who they are, instead of turning into hateful creatures that try to fight their own feelings and destroy other homosexuals around them you know liike.. George Rekers, Pastor Eddie Long, Troy King, Richard Curtis, Ted Haggard, Glenn Murphy Jr., Bruce Barclay, Roy Ashburn, Jim West, Larry Craig, Ed Schrock, Robert Allen, Mark Foley, Phillip Hinkle......need I go on?
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Female 74
A 7 year old does NOT know if he is gay or not. 7 year olds haven`t gone through puberty, don`t have an understanding of sexuality or what being gay really means. This is a child who is going through a phase or does not fully comprehend homosexuality.
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Female 313
Yeah, it`s a choice if you`re bi. Trillian is retarded.

Also, he isn`t gay. He`s seven. When he`s 12? Okay. But he`s drating seven years old.
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Male 14,773
Hand him some lube and a 4 D-cell maglite and tell him to get practising for when he`s 21.
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Male 15,510
Parenthood FAIL
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Male 37,888

When I told my mom I was gay she just said
"Don`t put that in your mouth"
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Male 2,516
and who knows, maybe as we get older we change tendencies too. It`s never to late to "turn" gay, straight, bi, ...
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Female 357
I`m with Cynthia Nixon; for me it was a choice. When I was little (under 7) I told my parents I wanted to marry a girl, but I wound up marrying a man. Crushes on both, but not Capt. Kirk, that`s just you Gerry.
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Female 138
(cont.) sexuality changed alot. I was lesbian, straight, bi. But think about it boys run around saying girls have cooties do you think they are going to admit they like girls? or are boys cooler cause they play with lego? My youngest son loves boobies and makes it SO EVIDENT (he loves older women with huge boobs (just like his dad) and if an adult woman with big badonka donks wants to pick him up he`ll get all sorts of touchie feely :P lil perv he is. But who knows as he gets older he might end up liking boys but right now is not the time for labels. this woman needs to wake up and talk to her son like we did ours. That being gay is a whole lot of other "adult" things. not just "liking" boys.
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Female 138
I hate this kind of stuff, you know why? because he honestly doesn`t understand the full meaning of the word gay yet. My step son is showing very "gay tendencies" he has tried to kiss other boys at school, he likes hanging out with boys more then girls but his best mate is a girl who they like to play barbies with. He asked me what gay was (because one of his mates called him) I said its a person who loves people of their own gender so girls who love girls and boys who love boys. He then said well I must be gay then. His dad then said no son, at the moment you are a kid, you have plenty of time to decide that later on in life, you be who you want to be. If when you are eighteen and you come to us and say "dad I`m gay" I will accept you for who you are. (His dad is in the army and a man`s man so it was really touching hearing that) But should we and the media be forcing sexuality on children. When I was 10 I made out with my best friend (a girl) and as I got old my s
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Male 25,416
no comment....
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Male 3,842
Anyone remember the SNL skit about "Lyle the effeminate heterosexual"

"Where`s my Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue?"
"I didn`t think you wanted it."
"Why not?"
"Well, Lyle, because you`re gay"
(lisps) "Why Does Everyone Think That?"
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Male 2,516
@LandoGriffin: 10 bucks (on your 10:1 odds). You`re on. I bet that girl will like boys by age 15.
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Male 3,842
Oh, yeah, and at the age of six I thought Debbie Harry (Blondie) was hot (the year was 1982) and I used to stare at this one record cover and think about how pretty she was. Six years old, I was straight before I knew what straight was.
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Male 1,083
I had crushes on girls way before I was 7, that being said I didn`t know what gay was until after 7 but things are different now I guess.
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Male 3,842
I have a seven year old son myself, and I can assure you that by the age of seven, a child knows whether he thinks girls or boys are attractive. My son definitely likes girls and has a crush on a little girl in his class (she`s really funny, I think he made a good choice). At the age of six, the little girls in his class at school all picked which boy in class would be their boyfriend. My son was disappointed because the girl he liked didn`t pick him.

If he liked boys, that would be fine with me, but it is clear that he likes girls.

We also have a friend who`s daughter (now 8) decided she wants to be a boy, always wears a baseball cap and jeans, and is a great athlete. I`ll bet you ten to one that she ends up liking girls when she grows up. She already has no interest in boys like the other little girls do.

TL;DR = orientation is clear by the age of 7
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Male 2,516
@DrProfessor: My mom thought I was gay for years haha. Guess not all moms get that right
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Male 3,894
(cont`d) ..and the mother says "I`m your mom. Of course I knew."
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Male 3,894
Alright, for anyone that`s skeptical, let me relate a story:
The mother of a good friend of mine visited the other weekend, and she was (characteristically of a mother) sharing stories about his childhood. She said that from a very young age, she used to tell her sister "oh just you watch. My little boy is gay, and one of these days he`s going to let us know." Her sister was skeptical, saying: "Oh come on! How could you know that? He`s just a kid." But his mom held onto that, didn`t say a word of it, and didn`t treat him any differently. Fast forward to his mid-teens. He comes up to her, as if he`s about to spill a huge secret, and tells her that he`s gay. She responds "I knew that, baby--I`ve known since you were a kid." And he goes "bullsh*t! There`s absolutely no way you knew!!" And so she goes and grabs his aunt, and asks her "what have I been saying all these years about him?" The aunt says "that... he`s gay?" And the
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Male 17,512
Gerry: [quote]I also had a crush on Capt. Kirk[/quote]

That explains a lot actually.
hehe
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Male 37,888

Well, I had a crush on my kindergarten teacher, a woman, so you never know. At that age crushes are about someone drawing your interest, not about gender. I also had a crush on Capt. Kirk, so . . . there`s that.
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Male 17,512
At 7 years old boys like playing with boys and girls like playing with girls, it`s natural. I don`t believe the kid really understands what `gay` means and there is a likelihood around puberty that he`ll have attractions toward girls instead.
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Male 19,842
Way too early to start ordering invitations for his civil ceremony, but at 7... I don`t know. He might just end up being a very effeminate breeder. Chances are the kid is gay, but I wouldn`t classify him as straight or gay for awhile.
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Male 599
It`s impossible to have a sexual orientation until you have gone through puberty.
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Male 598
I hope they have more kids so at least one of them has a shot at getting into heaven. :)
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Male 2,516
tru-dat GParadox. I read once that it`s misleading to classify people as "straight" or "gay", as a tenor of their personality; it`s far better to think of people as having had a certain number of heterosexual and homosexual experiences, and a personality that is completely unrelated to their sexuality.

That works for me.
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Female 737
I already understood the basics of heterosexual intercourse and had crushes on fellow class mates at that age. I find it plausible for a child to feel the same way about the same sex. Even if he doesn`t fully comprehend "sex," he can still harbor feelings towards other boys.
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Male 2,516
reading the article the kids really likes glee, fancies one of the boys in the show and their actions so when he asked his mom what "gay" meant she said: "it`s when two men marry".

Ergo the kid thought "oh, that`s what I want" and there you go, gay.

So sure why not, the kid`s gay. Just not a homosexual yet.

Nothing wrong with any of this I guess, it`s just viewing it from a different angle.
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Male 2,700
"this is stupid. How could you know at 7? His balls havent even dropped."

Talk about girls to a 7 year old llittle boy, and tell me he doesnt blush.

You can play off of your little rural beliefs, but the reality is, boys and girls minds are maturing faster than ever before. You can ask little asinine questions like your previous statement, or you can recognize a situation and deal with it accordingly.
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Male 2,700
I think too many people are equating being Gay to the word Sex.

As far as a reaction, if my little 5 year old daughter were to break this type of news to me, I would have to play the situation by ear. You do not plan for these things and honestly, there is no steps you can take that wont get you insulted by one side or the other.

On the other hand, the internet has brought more information to an increasingly younger crowd thus helping, or hindering, personal identification.
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Male 650
this is stupid. How could you know at 7? His balls havent even dropped.
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Male 2,516
I don`t think this kid equates "being gay" to "being homosexual".

If he means effeminate and likes to hang out with boys... sure. If he means he prefers gay sex, that`s messed up. Not because of the preference, but because a 7 year old is having sex.
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Female 1,330
Link: Mom`s 7-Year Old Son Announces He`s Gay [Rate Link] - He basically came out to his mom--pretty shocking, but it`s happening more than we know. How would you react, I-A-B?
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