Why Men And Women Can`t Be Friends

Submitted by: fancylad 5 years ago in

Answering the age old question, independent filmmakers Jesse Budd and Patrick Romero set out to simply prove a point.
There are 61 comments:
Male 7,774
women have been fooling themselves with this issue for ever
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Female 2,289
I have no guy friends. *feels ugly*

:-(
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Female 2,289
Trillian42 - "That`s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York."

loooooooooovvvveeee that movie.
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Male 663
This is true, it`s just the way our minds are built. Not our fault.
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Female 357
@Gerry - True Dat. Maybe I need to find a couple of daddies if I wanna get my hag on. That sounds all kinds of wrong, but I`m leaving it.
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Male 265
@Gerry

Not all [straight] men have sex as the reason for a relationship.
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Male 39,913

@ Trillian42 - because the married woman is now too busy to maintain a friendship with her personal gay. Happens all the time when people get married, single friends slip away.
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Female 357
@Jerry Why can`t a married gal have a gay friend? Surely it isn`t the fault of the husband... maybe married women are too boring? lol
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Female 357
That`s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
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Male 284
@Ruthless1990, its probably the latter with those curves. Start breaking some hearts :3
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Male 5,189
That ladder theory is so true. Hahaha.
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Female 3,001
damn it, nearly all my friends are male. so with this logic, either im ugly, or my friends fancy me. i dislike both of those options :P
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Male 75
I was going to say a guy and a girl COULD be friends if the guy is gay or if the girl is unattractive, like a lot of other people are saying, but you are forgetting one thing...Even if the guy is gay, that only means HE isn`t attracted to HER...but what makes you think SHE can`t be attracted to HIM gay or not? So the roles are just reversed. The GIRL could totally be in love with the gay guy...therefore, they aren`t equally "just friends." Same if the girl is ugly. HE may not like HER because she`s gross, but what makes you think SHE doesn`t like him? If she does, then they can`t ever be "Just friends" as long as ONE of them is attracted to the other.
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Male 500
Many women want to argue this point and say things like " I have lots of guy friends." Maybe. There are exactly 3 cases Intellectual Whores has identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:

1. The guy is gay
2. The guy does not find you attractive
3. The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder

Even Nietzsche knew this. Most guys know this intuitively. Most girls doubt. I have a challenge for all of you girls who still doubt. Pick a guy who does not meet any of the criterion on the above list that you think is your friend. Then ask yourself this question: If you were both alone at his place one night, and you excused yourself to the bathroom and came out naked and asked him to have sex with you would he:

1. Tell you he doesn`t want to risk the beautiful friendship you have created with messy physical entanglements.

2. Comply.

Taken from the ladder theory. I subscribe to the quoted text.
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Male 1,093
even not so actual girls could become mermaids, so you yeah, i agree with the video.
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Female 309
I don`t believe that. At all.
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Male 2,586
This all comes down to fundamentally the Ladder Theory
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Male 533
You can be just friends and still bone. DAMN.
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Male 112
I boned all my girl friends and I didn`t measure up, so now were just friends. Also one has a smelly front crack.
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Male 15,832
Gerry, sometimes I think you guys have it best. You can actually be as promiscuous as straight guys wish they could be.
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Male 469
Women use men that are just friends. They all know that the guy is trying for them.
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Male 39,913

@ Zepher - Unless your male friends are gay, they want to bone you.

just sayin...
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Male 483
I have one girl friend. My girlfriend HATES her, even though they get along just fine. to be fair though, i dated that girl briefly 3 years ago...
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Female 414
I have guy friends... I don`t understand why people of the opposite sex can`t be friends. I use to just not feel comfortable around men, but now most of my closest friends are guys and nothing would ever go on between us just because we don`t have a sexual attraction to each other
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Male 2,579
There is no such thing as "knowing someone too long" . That is more of a sign that you live in some fantasy where if it doesn`t happen just like your favorite movie you lose interest.
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Male 15,262
@the_windy "We`ve known each other for way too long, and it`ll just be weird"

Here`s a test. To a guy friend in that category, sincerely propose a non-exclusive occasional shag just for fun. You have to be ready to go through with it.

If he says "no, it`d be too wierd" then he`s either gay/hormonally messed up, or you`re blood related, under age, diseased, mental, or not hot.
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Male 15,262
I have a great many female friends. If they have great personalities, character and intelligence or shared interests, then that`s all I need; I am content. However, hotness makes up for a lot and I will make exceptions in the other criteria. However, without exception, if any one of my non blood related, of age, disease free, non-mental, hot female friends showed willingness, then for sure I`d hook up. For guy friends though, because there is no element of attraction, I`m more discerning of the character of company that I keep and that`s why the guy friends are the better long term friends. The acid test is if your friend had his/her face ripped off in a rogue chimp attack, would you still be friends forever?

I`d be lying if I thought I understood the female psyche, but I suspect partnership potential was also a selection criteria.
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Male 1,810
Friendzone ??? Is this grade ten ?? Now, if the interviewer and interviewees were mature adults, the answers would have been worth listening to....
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Female 1,589
Of course it can happen!
It my case with all my guy friends it`s either:
-They`re gay
-They have a girlfriend
-They are an ex-boyfriend to one of my friends (you don`t go there)
-We tried and it didn`t work out
-We`ve known each other for way too long, and it`ll just be weird
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Male 1,582
This has proved one thing. Men are shameless and hot women are just stupid... all kidding aside, I have friends who are girls that are "just friends".. then again they`re the ugly ones. I`d drat my best friends girlfriend if I had the chance, and any of my hot friends.. I guess men are shameless.
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Female 4,376

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Male 363
RodHQ - I think you meant to say "I am gay and I believe men and women can be friends"
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Female 583
Or just ugly. I`m that too. The friend zone is huge.
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Female 583
You can if the girl is fat. I know. I`m fat. XD
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Female 1,441
One of my best friends is male. We`ve been best friends since for 10 years. Yes he did like me once, but we were 11.
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Male 27
Bullpoo, I`m a guy and I believe men and women can be friends
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Male 1,243
True, so very true.
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Male 2,841
Too bad he only asked the attractive ones.
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Male 1,064
lol these girls are so delusional
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Male 168
This guy`s an idiot.
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Male 265
@Gerry

I`m married to an engineer in a male dominated workplace so it`s natural for her to have male friends. She does get hit on here and there by new-hires which gives me plenty of ammo to tease her with.
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Male 1,231
Can men and women be friends? Depends on how jealous your partner is...
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Male 265
"It doesn`t really matter what the guy wants when he`s already been put in the friendzone."

There are always exceptions to the rule. I was just friends with someone from high school, someone who I managed to keep in touch after graduation when she left town. The near nightly phone calls the following year often involved everything from the normal friendship stuff to sharing dating tips, secrets, and each other`s nightly endeavors. But it was purely on a platonic basis. Eventually we were pushed into trying out being together (by gagging friends) leading to the most awkward month of our lives as we really didn`t want to change anything.

All`s well that ends well and I can say I`ve been married my best friend for over two years now... best friend and more that is.
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Male 2,436
I have 1 female friend. I don`t want to have sex with her. She exceeds my weight limit.
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Male 1,129
I have a strictly platonic relationship with a girl. Is she pretty yeah. would i have sex with her? no i wouldn`t. I have the opportunity but didnt because shes a cool human and Im not into her like that.
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Male 402
it is possible but the circumstances are particular
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Male 737
This is idiotic and biased.
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Male 40,751
Harsh reality!

Why doesn`t the "pause" button work?
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Male 33
It sounds like you`re a very jealous, distrusting person, Gerry. My wife has male friends that she`s known for a long time, and I wouldn`t ask/tell her to just sever ties with them.
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Male 3,745
im friends with attractive and unattractive females :|
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Male 39,913

A girl can have her gay male friends, not straight ones though. But only until she gets a husband then it`s over.
That`s it, no others.
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Male 153
Apparently these men`s opinion`s precludes the possibility of female friends who are unattractive. Then it`s really, reeeaalllyyy easy to be just friends.
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Male 33
Edit. I have female friends that I`m not attracted to.
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Male 33
This is dumb. I have female friends that I physically attracted to. Besides, just because you`re attracted to someone doesn`t mean it`s more than friendship. Acting on those attractions is what makes it more than friendship...
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Male 38
He should ask an older male who`s not on a hormone high. I have female friends who are "just friends".
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Female 2,674
Of course men and women can just be friends. It doesn`t really matter what the guy wants when he`s already been put in the friendzone.
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Male 2,034
THANK YOU. And guys get the bad rap for being non-nice individuals. Ladies, do you have any idea what we go through when you say "Let`s just be friends?" Sometimes it`s like hell on earth. And of course we`re going to sit idly by and watch you date non-nice individuals when deep down we both know that you should be dating us. I`m going to end the rant here. This is just a perfect reflection for what`s happening in my life right now.
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Male 9
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Male 2,516
well that only proves that men and women these guys are attracted to, can`t be friends.

I`ve been friends with girls I had no interest in whatsoever, I found them quite unattractive
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Male 9,762
I have a lesbian friend. And she`s ugly.

Game. Set. Match.
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Male 20,909
Link: Why Men And Women Can`t Be Friends [Rate Link] - Answering the age old question, independent filmmakers Jesse Budd and Patrick Romero set out to simply prove a point.
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