Japanese Culture: Right On Or Backwards? [Pic]

Submitted by: hovalady411 5 years ago in Misc

What do you think, I-A-B? The Japanese have been raising their kids like this for centuries. Does the system work?
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Male 37,794
It`s a cultural thing, who`s to say if this ONE aspect of it is good or bad overall?
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Male 766
well . . . their kids mostly do waaayyyy better in school, our kids make better burgers though . . .
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Male 270
This made me laugh, at night mom works at the projectile vomiting scat eating porn studio.
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Female 3,727
carmium
Female, 50-59, Canada
674 Posts Tuesday, November 08, 2011 9:32:28 PM
I wonder if the kid knows how to spell "assinine"?
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I bet he knew how to spell it at 2 while you were just learning not to dribble on yourself.



Oh crap...HELL, here I come! :D
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Male 94
"This is my asinine son."

"Mom, what does asinine mean?"

"...that you are a darling dear."

"horkayyyy..."
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Male 500
@yanj1

Well, Honne and Tatemae refers to true intentions and what is shown or expected, in other words keeping a socially acceptable appearance versus expressing true opinion. This picture is more about the strict verticality of interpersonal and intergroup relations.

Honne and tatemae? I`d use this example:

A Japanese person accepts and thanks you for the tea you served him/her, when although s/he hates it and would have preferred a different beverage instead. S/he`ll go as far as compliment you for the tea, so that you as the host do not lose face, nor s/he won`t create a social tension, thus keeping the general harmony.

That`s how it`s been explained to me by our Sensei.

On a side note: this site does not support Kanji. Interesting.
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Male 500
Whilst the Japanese culture is strictly vertical, this might be a bit over the top nevertheless. Frankly, it IS normal to humble your own "in"group (uchi) when talking to someone from outside (soto) but I`m yet to see a mother call introduce her son as "bakamusuko" to a member of the "out"group.
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Female 2,549
My mother is Japanese!
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Male 297
`This is my asinine son.`
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"MOM?!"
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Male 5
It`s called Tatemae and Honne.
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Male 10,339
Right on.
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Female 412
Haha I have that book too. XD It`s pretty old, but they still do it these days as well. However, my boyfriend is Japanese, but if anyone told him: Your girlfriend is so pretty, he`d probably say `Thank you`. XD
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Male 144
Haha we had a similar thing in Turkey.
To not attract attention from the evil eye (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evil_eye) my sister was called ugly by strangers on the streets who then pinched our cheeks. This was a compliment!
Because she`s beautiful they HAD to call her ugly otherwise she might have been cursed (zomg)!

Since we were to little to understand what was going on, it did great things for the self esteem of my sister -.-`
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Female 298
It`s true... the japanese will play down things like that.
A: You`re girlfriend is so pretty!
B: No no... she`s really not that pretty.
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Male 4,902
@carmium, LOL fail
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Female 261
My mom has that book.
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Male 3,059
@ carmium: Apparently you don`t.
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Male 11,740
Which is why I smack my kids around in public and call them stupid. It does wonders for their self esteem.....and people wonder why we see such weird $hit coming out of Japan.
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Male 3,310
Yeah, that`s stupid.
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Female 6,381
I wonder if the kid knows how to spell "assinine"?
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Male 326
Hell of a lot better option than false ego inflating leading to a sense of unearned entitlement.
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Male 38,483

While in the west we`re proud of our kids and emberassed by our parents.

Well, they are very productive people...but with a really high suicide rate. I don`t know what that means.
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Female 500
XD This is something that my Japanese teacher drills into us students. We think it`s pretty funny, but it`s also definitely true.
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Male 1,686
This is m kid. He`s the whole ass.
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Male 65
Does it beat giving all the kids medals after the big soccer game so noone feels like a "loser"? Ehh... probably.
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Male 771
my family are just non-nice individuals
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Female 75
Sadly, right on as someone who was born in Japan. Similar in china. Though asinine might not the word of choice.
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Male 6,737
Japanese culture is very alien from the west, but, drat me, it works well.
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Male 144
They also spoil them and get them nearly whatever they want. The Oedipus complex is huge there
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Male 514
I say the same. But it`s only because it`s true }-)
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Female 1,262
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