Soldier Tells His Dad That He Is Gay, Live

Submitted by: fancylad 5 years ago

"I called my dad to tell him the hardest thing that gay guys will ever have to say."
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Female 298
i love this guy. good on him! this moved me.
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Male 646
He said he didn`t want to tell his dad on the phone, but it was ok to make a video and post it on the internet.
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Male 621
Lmao, my coming out to my dad consisted of this:

"Sean, there was gay porn on the upstairs computer. Is it yours? Because if not it`s your little brother, and he`s 11. Which is weird."

"Yes."

"Oh."

Then my mom cried for like a week.
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Male 1,610
@robosnitz

what do you mean `now`?
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Male 2,737
The military is gonna be one big sausage fest now.
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Male 663
As a gay guy myself, I never quite understood a reason to announce my sexuality to any of my friends or family, it`s my private life... why would they want to know my sex life? I don`t deny it if asked, but I just don`t see the point in announcing it.
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Male 2,416
@Gerry1of1
are you hitting on me? then i suggest you use a baseballbat.

This kind of media is not the best way to discuss matters such as these but i`m sure if you let your thought dwell on it, you could see the point i`m making. Self preservation is a strange and powerfull force. i do not doubt that many parents would sacrifice their lives to save their children, put them in room 101 and watch what happens...
http://youtu.be/M3U83QLoATU

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Male 37,888

@ MrOrange - you have violated the conditions of IAB.
I do not love you now.
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Male 2,586
No more grandchildren for mUm!!! mwuahahaha!!!

His dad took it well, my dad wouldn`t if I was... my best friend is gay and I know dad freaks out practically every time I see him.

I like gay guys... they`re all so fit that removing them grom the genepool helps all of us not-so-fit get the girls :) - Like the british woodland... we`ve cut down all the (for lack of a better word) straight trees, that it`s all the (again, bad choice of words) bent/ crooked ones that remain! - The more hot, gay guys there are, the better!!! :-D
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Male 2,416
@CrakrJak no i`m not mixing love and trust:
i`m going to give an extreme example here...
if a child of mine turns out to be a pedobear, or a pschycpathic killer, or a junkie i am pretty sure that out of selfprotection my love for my child would stop, i would forever mourn the child it was, but i doubt i could love the person it is.
it`s an extreme example, but i use it to make the point that love is conditional. what those conditions are depends on the person who sets/has them. I sure as hell don`t wish that on anyone.
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Male 675
Now that was something else. Its such a relief that men and women can be completely open about their sexual orientation and be able to defend the country that allows them to follow their hearts. After all, in many other countries these men and women would be executed just for admitting they are gay; and they are allowed to live here free of those fears. Now as soon as they make gay marriage legal, then we can put this whole thing to bed for good.

Call it marriage, call it civil union, call it what you want; if a civil union between two men or two women will grant the same legal rights as marriage... its a marriage. Its a word to describe a union of two lovers, who have found such security with the other that they make a vow to spend the rest of their lives together. If you don`t want to tell your children why their friend Billy has two fathers instead of a father and a mother, that`s your problem. "All men are created equal" means just that.
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Male 15,510
"and there goes another guy we can`t have ladies!"

And there are more chances for the rest of us, thanks openly gay people
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Male 17,512
MrOrange: I believe you are mixing up the word `Love` with the word `Trust`. A Parents love for their kid should be unconditional, trust may come and go, but the love remains.

You might have a spouse or lover break your heart and you fall out of love, but that is a different kind of love than parental love.
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Male 275
this vid made it to the daily show tonite
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Female 2,228
Saw this earlier today, cried for two reasons- it`s so sweet...and there goes another guy we can`t have ladies!
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Female 105
Parents usually know.
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Male 12,365
[quote]Not sure why that got cut off.[/quote]

IAB usually truncates posts before the 1000 character mark. It will always do so if you put in a link or quote. I think it counts every character in tags, URLs and labels when the post is made, but not in the editor.

It`s a crap system, but it`s not going to change any time soon.
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Male 945
I like this video. It is reassuring to hear a father`s reaction like this...especially since he`s from Alabama. Perhaps I need to rethink all my other stereotypes as well.
Oh and @ Gerry1of1...What were you getting ready to put in your mouth anyway?lol
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Male 1,540
Nope I didn`t tear up at all during that.
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Male 106
I applaud him. Not sure why that got cut off.
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Male 106
Try to understand this from his point of view... I served in the Army, alongside more than one fellow soldier whom I knew to be gay (largely because they had boyfriend pictures where others would keep girlfriends... it was something that was understood, if never spoken of) and the action he is taking, putting this personal moment out there on the net, is extremely brave.

His goal, I`m quite sure, is to bolster the nerves of those who come to the same crossroads after he departs it. The military is an extremely masculine place to be, and society bombards young servicemen with its expectations of them, even more-so than is done in the outside world. He`s putting his own potential embarrassment aside and trying to lead by example, something that is at the very core of how a soldier should behave. He`s having a "follow me!" moment; and I
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Male 194
What a sad world we live in. This person had this "horrible" secret all his life and was afraid that his parents will not love him any more.
WOW. No parents should react at all. There should not be these "shocks" at all. Sexuality is a private thing and any type of it shouldn`t ever be a shock for anyone. I can`t imagine what sadness I would feel if my son told me something like this. My first reaction would be that I failed as a parent...because I didn`t provide a humane environment for him so he didn`t feel guilty for his completely natural sexual preference - of being gay. WOW. I mean, this American puritanism is like dark ages compared to my country. Go Sweden, lead the way of progress. Freedom of choice for all. NO to religious primitive legacy that forms false morals.
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Male 3,081
And i`m not quite sure how I feel about the video.... fair play to the guy for having the courage to tell his dad, but in an ideal world it wouldn`t take courage because there wouldn`t be a fear of any backlash from society for who we are. A good mate of mine came out as gay in the British Military when we served together, and I do think he was brave for being honest because at the time it meant he lost all his security clearances and was marched out of the unit and down to the guardroom under arrest for it....thankfully things have moved on from that time and it`s not a crime here now either.

I think the moment would have been better private between the two of them...father and son. Not shared for everyone on the internet - If it was me in that situation I`d feel it would cheapen the moment to tell him over the phone whilst i was videoing it with the intention of putting it on the net.
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Male 3,081
@Krw888 "Love is unconditional "


Parental love may come the closest to unconditional love, but love in general isn`t by any means unconditional. We all place conditions on who we love...most of us would soon stop loving our partners for instance if we found out they abused children; that`s a condition isn`t it.

But yeah, personally I can`t imagine anything that would make me stop loving my little girl... I do know one thing for sure, it wouldn`t be something as trivial to me as her sexuality, so yeah I do kinda agree with you, I just don`t think unconditional extends to all love.
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Male 37,888

Draculya [quote]"Scott Bacula`s gay?" [/quote]
I wish, but darn it, no.

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Male 174
This is the way all parents should react.
Love is unconditional
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Male 2,416
@CrakrJak
Love is conditional, as harsh as that sounds, but that person you fall in love with.. meets certian criteria, otherwise you just keep walking..
There are things a child could do that could be so alien to you that it would alter your love for your child. This should not be one of them.
to me the fact that my kid was trained to kill someone by order would be the real concern.

@fatninja, you my friend will embarrass your kid way more then s/he will you :D
(anyone remember their puberty?)

@gerry10f1 : dude that sounds so funny, i hope it was!
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Male 2,033
@Gerry


Themesong?
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Male 1,053
Sorry but that wasn`t live. Caption fail.
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Male 17,512
Fatninja: Every kid will one day do something that embarrasses you, it`s just human nature. But be satisfied with the thought that one day you will return the favor in one way or the other.
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Male 25,416
They can be what ever they want to be... as long as they dont embarrass me!
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Male 37,888

When I told my mom she got real quiet, she put
down the book she`d been reading and said
"Don`t put that in your mouth!"
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Male 17,512
Love for your kids should never be conditional, otherwise is it still love ? The Dad took this news well and I applaud him for reassuring his son.
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Male 881
There is hope for humanity.
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Male 2,551
Skip to about 2:00 after his little intro talk. Couldn`t really hear what the dad was saying - not that I`m a big fan of recording stuff like this and putting it up on youtube.
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Female 6
-some things are better discussed in person.
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Male 4,793
Took him seven and a half minutes to say this? Will not watch.
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Male 2,416
Dad`s a Champ period.
Kinda sad that this would be the hardest thing he would have to say, not that he is afraid.. not that he killed someone, not that he is lonely, but that he is gay...
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Female 245
This is so sad and absurd.
He actually has to ask his father if he will love him even if he is gay.
What the f*uck is wrong with this society?
Situations like these shouldn`t be happening.
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Male 14,774
Scott Bacula`s gay?
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Male 19,850
Link: Soldier Tells His Dad That He Is Gay, Live [Rate Link] - `I called my dad to tell him the hardest thing that gay guys will ever have to say.`
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