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Date: 07/03/11 01:50 PM

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  1. Profile photo of kitteh9lives
    kitteh9lives Female 70 & Over
    8033 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 1:06 pm
    Link: Evil Email From The Mother-in-law From Hell - An email sent to Heidi Withers, after a weekend with her future mother-in-law Carolyn Bourne. What would you do I-A-B?
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    jadoig Male 30-39
    434 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 1:59 pm
    who?
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    Nitedal Male 13-17
    6 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:00 pm
    Am I the only one who holds witht he MIL here?
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    ggolbez Male 18-29
    1933 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:01 pm
    You can`t change people. If you try to change people you yourself will become a douchebag. Likme this fake letter written above here.
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    freddyferret Male 40-49
    11742 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:03 pm
    Mother in law is a royal bitch of the highest order. I would respond with a simple "f*** you bitch". Manners are one thing, but that is extreme. That is snobbery to the extreme.
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    ScottSerious Male 18-29
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    July 3, 2011 at 2:06 pm
    right and wrong
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    lolphotoshop Male 13-17
    392 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:07 pm
    Right, Heidi sounds like a bitch, and deserved it completely.
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    kribbe Male 18-29
    2006 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:07 pm
    who in their right mind would write an e-mail so long, too tired to read all of it
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    kitteh9lives Female 70 & Over
    8033 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:08 pm
    Here`s a few links for those of you who are interested:THE TIMES
    THE DAILY MAIL
    THE HUFFINGTON POST
    THE SUN
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    nayrbarr Male 18-29
    366 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:10 pm
    It was dreadfully rude of Ms. Bourne to send such a letter, don`t you agree?
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    ledgehead Male 40-49
    633 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:13 pm
    frankcunning is a liar!
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    JustDani Female 18-29
    409 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:14 pm
    Wow... yikes. I wouldn`t WANT to be in a family like that.
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    beternal Male 18-29
    2589 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:15 pm
    I agree with all of it except the castle comment... ok, if this girl is a gold digger and is trying to get the castle by having her inlaws pay for it, fine... but for the mother in law to say it`s for celebrities etc just makes her sound bad. I mean if it`s the girls dream to be married in a castle, all the best to her! - it`s romantic!
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    Fatninja01 Male 30-39
    25408 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:15 pm
    hmmm...... well that wasnt that bad, shes just being picky
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    Jade_Phoenix Female 18-29
    407 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:16 pm
    The first time I met my mother-in-law, I was CERTAIN she hated me. We ended up sharing a fifth of blue tequila one night (shooters) and worked everything out. We are now closer and I love her more than my own biological mother who abandoned me at the age of 8.

    See kiddies? Alcohol DOES solve problems!!!
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    Revolutioniz Male 18-29
    911 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:16 pm
    As i was reading, the paper seemed to turn from a blue-ish color to white, and back n fourth the whole time. happen to anyone else?
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    NotTHATbored Female 18-29
    1101 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:17 pm
    I would subtly advise my future mother in law to keep her opinions on etiquette to herself or she might not see her future grandchildren as much as she would like. Someone is begging to be uninvited to the wedding!
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    Tubby12370 Male 18-29
    1440 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:18 pm
    Wow that lady is Crazy with a capital C.
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    tehsusenoh Male 13-17
    31 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:19 pm
    Lulz @ Spam
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    NNoamfer Male 18-29
    1216 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:21 pm
    By the looks of it, the mother is right. Who the hell tells the person who invited you that his food is bad?!

    And I hate every person who wants a so called `royal wedding`... Her family can`t even pay her the least for a wedding...

    And if Heidi is the one that published this text, thinking that she is right; she is an utter bitch.
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    IRockYeah Male 40-49
    2619 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:22 pm
    TL;DR
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    Rawrg Male 18-29
    934 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:25 pm
    Apparently this old c*nt hasn`t heard of this little thing called a paragraph.
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    EdiMesic Male 18-29
    594 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:26 pm
    I fully agree with this.
    Mrs. Withers sounds like a tacky b*tch and
    deserves every stab written in this letter.
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    LazyMe484 Male 18-29
    10443 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:27 pm
    I would have replied with a hearty "f*ck you, where getting married anyway, and we won`t be living with the likes of you"

    :D looks like by kitteh`s posts this is not fake. Although its not particularly remarkable either. I`m sure there`s lots of people like this out there.
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    bacon_pie Male 30-39
    3061 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:41 pm
    the girl needs to run...and fast! if that old bag (i hear she makes around $800,000 or worth that much) is going to be like this now, she will be hell on wheels after they`re married. run! bitch!
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    Kiwigirl2 Female 30-39
    1048 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:45 pm
    Heidi did send this to her "mates" and they`re the ones that sent on to the whole world. And M-I-L to be, why not take your own advice and send a hand-written card. Don`t e-mail angry EVER! I`ve got no sympathy for either of them by the way.
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    Mindle Male 18-29
    77 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:47 pm
    Bourne Supremacy.
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    Maromi Female 18-29
    1095 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 2:59 pm
    I don`t know who any of those people are. But they could both use some outside counseling for conceitedness.
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    howlingwolf Male 18-29
    1351 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:20 pm
    Some suggestions and insults might have been on target. But more than that, some things were just plain excessive. Asking the host for additional portions while EATING seems strange and especially if the host is her freaking sister-in-law. Yeah, politeness is important but so is being comfortable enough to assume your future in-law doesn`t mind you taking more at the dinner table.

    And hand-written thank you notes? I`m not even going to touch this, it`s a polite but outdated nicety. I have never received anything more than a phone call (if that) when a guest stays at our house.

    Finally, the wedding. While I am slightly repulsed by the "fairy tale wedding", the wording "as befits both your incomes" suggests that Freddie and Heidi are paying for their wedding. And if that`s the case, then the old coot should just butt out. Heidi will have to settle for less if her parents can`t help. But let her figure that out for herself.
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    tommy2X4 Male 50-59
    3441 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:24 pm
    Freddie found some trailer trash and Mama is not happy. I don`t blame her. I have seen this happen.
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    randomxnp Male 30-39
    1293 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:25 pm
    A little OTT and old-fashioned in some points, but it sounds like Heidi is very rude.
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    plastinum Male 30-39
    329 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:28 pm
    Actually, though her approach was a bit scathing and rude I can see where the MIL saw fault in those actions and behaviours...if they were true and not exaggerated.
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    Thdot Male 30-39
    658 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:45 pm

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    kangoala Male 18-29
    702 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:45 pm
    I really don`t think anyone from the U.S. has much of a leg to stand on in commenting against the writer of this letter, unless you`ve spent a decent amount of time in Europe.
    Rules of etiquette to some Europeans, particularly the Brits, are almost a way of life. Some do take it a bit too seriously, but I think this letter`s author, assuming it`s truly indicative of the behaviour witnessed, is well within the realms of social acceptability to call her daughter-in-law out on what sounds like really inconsiderate behaviour.
    As for table manners, think mid 19th century Southern Affluence and you`re getting pretty close to the etiquette expected by some contemporary Brits (and you might be surprised at how pleasant it can actually make even the most basic meal!)
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    LandoGriffin Male 30-39
    3844 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:48 pm
    Dear future Mother In Law - you are a bitch. That`s why Freddie is marrying a piece of trash like me, because he hates you and is trying to rebel against your controlling tendencies by marrying an unrefined commoner of whom you do not approve. Once we are married, Freddie will never speak to you again, so enjoy your bitching now. Love, Heidi.
  36. Profile photo of LandoGriffin
    LandoGriffin Male 30-39
    3844 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:51 pm
    @ Thdot

    Who are those people in that picture?
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    benjbenj Male 30-39
    916 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:52 pm
    @kangoala
    The letter was rude. This mother-in-law lacks manners herself. Plus starting a new paragraph for every sentence is downright idiotic.
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    rlb707 Female 18-29
    10 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:56 pm
    they both sound like awful people to me.
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    Angilion Male 40-49
    12390 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:58 pm
    High-handed and insulting but not evil.

    If I was to marry into a family with particular customs, I`d take care to learn something of those customs beforehand and accomodate them to some extent while I was staying with them. If the family was so very different to me, I`d be as unobtrusive as possible because I wouldn`t be able to fit in.
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    tinki911 Female 18-29
    37 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 3:59 pm
    i say right on, her house, her rules. i hate people who don`t have good manners. tho the hand written thank you card is a little old-school, a phonecall would be enough
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    Angilion Male 40-49
    12390 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:04 pm
    I agree with all of it except the castle comment... ok, if this girl is a gold digger and is trying to get the castle by having her inlaws pay for it, fine... but for the mother in law to say it`s for celebrities etc just makes her sound bad. I mean if it`s the girls dream to be married in a castle, all the best to her! - it`s romantic!

    No, it isn`t. It`s crass commercialism for people with money and no taste. Come to think of it, that describes most of "romance" and most of the stuff added onto a wedding (the wedding itself is *only* the vows).
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    Angilion Male 40-49
    12390 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:10 pm
    who in their right mind would write an e-mail so long, too tired to read all of it

    I suggest that you seek professional help, either from a doctor or from a teacher. I`m not taking the piss - if reading a couple of hundred words is so difficult for you then you`re either borderline illiterate (and thus need a teacher) or severely ill (and thus need a doctor).
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    Pandabee Female 40-49
    857 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:12 pm
    It sounds like MIL doesn`t like being down graded to `extended family`. Doesn`t she know that commenting on someone else`s manners, is bad manners. Feddies needs to stand up to Mummy dearest, or Heidi has a bigger Fiance problem, than MIL problem.
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    Joolin Male 18-29
    1003 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:20 pm
    I feel like rolling around in mud and spitting on a stranger after reading that
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    Supricky06 Male 18-29
    50 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:20 pm
    TLDNR should be her response. Its definitely overkill in some aspects but in others i agree.
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    morrach Male 30-39
    22 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:22 pm
    I would probably try very hard to fart in this woman`s presence, whenever I could.
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    symbolica Female 18-29
    41 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:28 pm
    The following is according to several etiquette sites that I frequent:

    It is just as rude for this woman to `take to task` someone for what they perceive as rude manners. It does not matter if her manners are not up to standards with her own, the POLITE thing to do is grin and bear it or not invite them at all(no matter if her son is in love with her or not). There are several instances of `we have a classier family than you`re obviously used to` and it just goes to show what a backwards viewpoint of manners and good social graces that these peoples have. To send an email detailing ones shortcomings makes the mother in law no better than herself.
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    AtlasOtus Male 18-29
    417 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 4:40 pm
    "who in their right mind would write an e-mail so long, too tired to read all of it


    I suggest that you seek professional help, either from a doctor or from a teacher. I`m not taking the piss - if reading a couple of hundred words is so difficult for you then you`re either borderline illiterate (and thus need a teacher) or severely ill (and thus need a doctor). "

    @Angilion...

    Agreed. I doubt they read that if they couldn`t bare reading the letter for it being too long. ¬_¬
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    WickedSteak Male 18-29
    319 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:01 pm
    What a bitch.
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    lemurs366 Female 18-29
    385 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:07 pm
    she does make a few good points, but a polite person would never mention the social infractions
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    shizzamX Female 18-29
    2697 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:21 pm
    who is heidi withers? regardless, no one should ever be so rude. whether offended or not, you do not confront someone so brashly, let alone in an email.
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    lunaticlover Female 18-29
    354 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:23 pm
    But apparently it`s perfectly ladylike to criticize and pick apart the customs of someone not used to your own?

    Hm.
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    nubblins Female 18-29
    1743 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:25 pm
    She could`ve shortened this to:
    Dear Heidi,
    I am a self-righteous mean person.
    Sincerely,
    Your future Mother-In-Law
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    blargfrit Male 18-29
    79 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:26 pm
    I want to hear the future bride`s point of view. I recently had to end a friendship due to similar behaviours. At least that woman wasn`t entering my family.
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    Oscola Male 18-29
    349 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:29 pm
    I agree with the mother in law. If some fat loud bitch with hoop earrings and chubby wrankles (hand cankles)was eating open mouthed at my table and making knob jokes with the asparagus, I`d have a go.
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    broizfam Male 60-69
    4756 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:32 pm
    @ morrach,
    I would probably try to crap on this woman`s floor whenever I could.
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    Gerry1of1 Male 50-59
    36208 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:37 pm

    Rude Email.... she`s right, but it`s still rude.

    The only excuse for it would be if the Tarte asked her future mum-in-law for the advice. Even then it could be delivered more politely.
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    slut_etta Female 50-59
    3775 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:42 pm
    a story has 2 sides & right now i have to side with future mom-in-law. let me tell you why. my man`s niece is staying with us for an indefinite period. she is lazy, stupid, rude, & has no ambition beyond watching cable & eating. she eats whatever she wants whenever she wants it, regardless of the other members of the household. she has her 4 month old baby with her & refuses to bathe herself or baby; nor does she EVER wash her hands, including after changing diapers. she lies most outlandishly & steals things that catch her fancy. (lost my job & home 2-1/2 years ago; only had a very minimal amount of inexpensive jewelry the pawn shop wouldn`t take, but katy did. i can get more jewelry; i can`t replace the sentiment attached to those pieces.) the only reason i put up with this crap is because i won`t give her the satisfaction of moving out of my own home. constructive criticism does not work, nor does anything else. so yes, in this case, i side with the
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    PopsySoku Female 18-29
    388 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 5:51 pm
    Bitch didn`t have the decency to HAND WRITE THIS? How absolutely disgraceful. Tsk tsk.
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    paperduck Male 18-29
    1745 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 6:41 pm
    That`s not how you teach someone. Good intention, bad execution.
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    emmettyville Female 40-49
    4345 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 7:02 pm
    wow, is it really that bad over there? class systems suck ass
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    jamie76 Male 30-39
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    July 3, 2011 at 7:21 pm
    slut_etta,

    you are right every story has two sides and you are assuming because your family member is a waste of space that this girl must be a well...I am pretty sure you and this mother-in-law would get along well...you both seem to have everyone else all figured out without even knowing them/

    oh and umm a diabetic has to declare what they can and can`t eat...that isn`t rude it is called survival...
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    limphotdog Female 18-29
    673 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 7:52 pm
    I would laugh at this e-mail and delete it immediately after reading it.
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    xCYBERDYNEx Male 18-29
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    July 3, 2011 at 7:54 pm
    She should punch that b*tch in the mouth
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    Draculya Male 40-49
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    July 3, 2011 at 8:14 pm
    I bet MIL wishes she`d specified "A lady does not forward or republish emails on the internet". That`s just one of many reasons why difficult advice should be delivered face to face. As to whom is more deeply in the wrong, I don`t know enough to judge.
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    kittehdee29 Female 18-29
    803 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 8:47 pm
    When I read the excerpt last week I was on the bride`s side, but after reading the entire letter I don`t blame the MIL for writing it. For the record, the bride to be didn`t submit the email; she sent it to a few friends while fuming and one of her friends posted it.
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    LemonTarte Female 18-29
    1441 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 9:10 pm
    Wow, that`s infuriating. I agree with a lot of what the mother in law said but writing that letter was way out of line.
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    Solvent Male 18-29
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    July 3, 2011 at 9:30 pm
    Dear Mother-In-Law,

    drat YOU WHORE!
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    Groogle Male 30-39
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    July 3, 2011 at 9:41 pm
    I would wipe my ass with that letter and send it back to my mother with "best regards" written with a sharpie infected with aids.
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    Plangkye Female 18-29
    258 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 9:45 pm
    So that statement about being a picky eater, and that later statement about diabetes...
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    strangergoat Female 18-29
    588 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 10:20 pm
    the people on the pub were just shocked that she was willingly entering this family.
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    DixxyRarr Female 18-29
    2674 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 10:30 pm
    No thanks. I don`t do drama like this.... love of my life, or not.
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    spultra13 Male 18-29
    174 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 10:37 pm
    Honestly the mother actually doesn`t sound like she`s at fault. Sure, calling someone out about manners is a bitchy move, but it sounds like this fiance is pretty awful herself.
  74. Profile photo of Angilion
    Angilion Male 40-49
    12390 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 10:45 pm
    wow, is it really that bad over there? class systems suck ass

    Everywhere has class systems. Sometimes it`s just a matter of money, but that`s still a class system.

    This is unusual, which is why it`s attracted so much attention.
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    psychoti Male 18-29
    198 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 11:12 pm
    They both sound like bitches, really.
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    356094 Male 18-29
    109 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 11:21 pm
    this mother is awesome. people really do need to learn their manners in this day and age.
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    Baalthazaq Male 18-29
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    July 3, 2011 at 11:32 pm
    "Wow, is it really that bad over there? class systems suck ass"

    No, it isn`t. Having said that, I`m guessing this has nothing to do with what "class" people are in. I`m guessing they`re both Middle Class, and one knows her manners, whilst the other is a "Ladette".


    I don`t think there`s many Mothers who`d appreciate a British Ladette.
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    Baalthazaq Male 18-29
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    July 3, 2011 at 11:43 pm
    " umm a diabetic has to declare what they can and can`t eat...that isn`t rude it is called survival..."

    Ok, excellent. I`ll remember that for when it is relevant, but right now, it`s not, because that is not what is happening.

    It`s not CAN it, it`s WILL eat. The food is already laid out. It is inappropriate to: "ANNOUNCEMENT. Hello everyone! I will be eating the chicken but not the beef! I will not be eating anything with that much sauce! Cheese gives me gas! Ugh I don`t see how anyone can eat Broccoli! EWWW, EWWW, OMG YOU TOTALLY EAT FISH?! EWWW! EWWW!"

    You just do, or don`t eat accordingly. It`s not about survival, at all.
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    savemejebus Female 30-39
    143 posts
    July 3, 2011 at 11:56 pm
    I personally wouldn`t put a defaming email on the internet, unless I got paid FAT. Daughter in law must... no.. IS a gold digging shiester/ gypsy. It`s true because I read an article about her. And everyone knows that if It`s found on the internet, it`s undoubtedly true.
  80. Profile photo of NotTHATbored
    NotTHATbored Female 18-29
    1101 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 12:01 am
    @Baalthazaq I think you`re exaggerating what was in the letter a bit. I don`t recall seeing anything at all like what you just posted in there.

    We also don`t know if she had a choice. Maybe the mother-in-law simply offered the beef and she refused.

    Also I think it`s terrible of the mother in law to jump to conclusions and criticize her for eating before everyone else. Maybe she had low blood sugar or had just taken an insulin shot and had to eat within a certain time period. The point is, the woman is diabetic, give her a freaking break when it comes to eating!


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    Zeegrr60 Male 40-49
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    July 4, 2011 at 1:26 am
    I Love when people think it`s polite to point out other`s faults.Whoever this woman is,she would do well to tell "Mummy" where to stick that note.
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    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    July 4, 2011 at 1:26 am
    This soon-to-be mother-in-law sounds like she going to be as bad as if not worse then Raymond`s mother from the TV show `Everybody Loves Raymond`.
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    ChrisMunich Male 18-29
    383 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 1:27 am
    I`m inclined to side with the mother in law. As someone mentioned we don`t know all of the details, and I imagine the MIL and DIL had met before this. The girl does indeed sound very rude and perhaps the MIL could not take it anymore. I don`t agree with the tone of the e-mail, as it is not as composed/controlled as it ought to be, but she does make fair points. The Daughter in Law sounds spoilt and rude, despite the letter perhaps not being too appropriate.
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    razbitom Male 40-49
    912 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 1:34 am
    i`d find it impossible to take any advice on behaviour and etiquette from someone with such atrocious grammar.
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    varietyweasl Male 18-29
    35 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 1:41 am
    Frankly I find the mother-in-law`s comments to be unmannerly. She belittles the girl`s illness because she has diabetes and may be somewhat hypochondriac. Then completely demeans her family, insinuating that they are both poor and ignorant. Yes to be honest the girl seems a bit of a chav but still, its no excuse for this pretentious bullpoo.
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    bucklandlady Female 60-69
    70 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 2:06 am
    It appears now that it was all a publicity stunt as the guy in the middle of all this is starting a wedding-planner business
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    photomstr Male 50-59
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    July 4, 2011 at 2:08 am
    I never have trouble with people like that cause I tell them to STFU! Works . . . mostly . . .
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    Atrayu4u Female 18-29
    1478 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 2:08 am
    Hmmm. Pretentious, yes, but I admire her spunk. If I were idiotic enough to tell the same stupid joke every day to my friends and were told that it was annoying, I`d eventually get the point and change my habits. You can be whomever you want to be, but if you expect to be liked at all, life is one large chunk you and many little chunks other people, not just all you. Perhaps this will help the daughter-in-law to realize she`s probably portraying herself poorly. I also might feel bad for the groom.. is he -that- desperate? Or maybe I`m completely off and the mother-in-law`s just a c**t ;)
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    Baalthazaq Male 18-29
    4548 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 2:51 am
    NotTHATbored:

    Yeah, probably, but I don`t think many of our America users are quite familiar with Chavs and their ways.
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    krisley Male 18-29
    525 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 2:52 am
    @razbitom that`s what I was thinking. I haaaaaaate people that try to sound smart when they write and fail atrociously.
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    EntrE Male 18-29
    535 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 3:48 am
    ok some of the points she made were actually quite understandable, but other arguments were really unnecessary. she should not bitch about not getting a HANDWRITTEN card! who the hell is still writing cards anyway? and also you should do the right thing and host a guest (especially one that is that close to the family), not because you want to be patted on the back for it, but because it`s simply the right thing to do. and don`t tell someone to keep quiet about something and be modest when you just asked for compliments for your great hosting skills
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    jadedtortois Female 18-29
    779 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 3:48 am
    I don`t agree with the delivery, but the points she makes are absolutely correct. The future daughter-in-law sounds like an ungrateful bitch, especially considering the mother-in-law was TRYING to help. The fact that the daughter-in-law posted this on internet only tells me one thing....

    They both lack class.
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    Sinclair Male 30-39
    269 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:22 am
    That Heidi, she must be doing something right!
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    sgst Male 18-29
    7 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:33 am
    From the looks of it, the daughter in law is hardly a chavette or ladette - this woman should try living round here for a while. If cracking a joke, having slightly poor table manners and not writing bloody thank you cards gets this mother in law this mad, she would go drating mental with people round here. She sounds well posh... get real bitch. Mother in law from hell indeed.
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    jravity911 Male 18-29
    23 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:37 am
    for everyone who thinks that she made a good point...was correct...or won anything. This lady seems like her manners are through the roof...so anything that might seem like good behavior to us might not be good enough to her....YOU WEREN`T THERE. F-ing internet
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    davedamon Male 18-29
    5 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:48 am
    When I read this letter, I read the first 5 `pointers` in manners, I thought "Yes, this girl does seem quite rude to be honest`, but then when I reached the line about her having diabetes, I doubled back and re-read them. She wasn`t being rude, she was dealing with her blood sugar. Diabetics have to control their food intake, the time the eat and the amount, and are often sluggish in the morning. The mother-in-law was being an ignorant bitch.
    The rest of the email was just arrogant rudeness in general.
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    paddy215 Male 18-29
    1677 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:51 am
    They both come across pretty badly. The mother in law seems like a stuck up, Hyacinth Bucket, kind of lady who would find an excuse to complain no matter what. The daughter seems like a money grabbing chav. The only main point I really agree with though is that if her side of the family can`t afford to contribute much to the wedding then they should go for a cheaper wedding that the couple can both afford. Having your wedding in a castle is ripping the arse out of it.
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    splurbyburbl Male 30-39
    2798 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:20 am
    Good on the Mom. Someone needs to take that dumb bitch down a notch or two. Anyone who disagrees is wrong. Thia is an intrisic value... you cannot and may not argue it. nuff said...
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    splurbyburbl Male 30-39
    2798 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:24 am
    "she should not bitch about not getting a HANDWRITTEN card! who the hell is still writing cards anyway?"

    The very few people alive that have character and know they have character. You don`t know what that is, so don`t worry about it. Enjoy your trailer and fast food, fatass.
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    pizzaroll Male 18-29
    232 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:52 am
    @davedamon, re-read the email. It never said to not have diabetes, and nothing bad was ever said about the woman having diabetes. The mother in law was simply telling this dumb ass chit to not make a big deal out of her disability.

    Personally, I can agree. I hate it when the first few minutes I meet someone they`re already telling me about their problems and "disabilities". Honestly, like that`s what I want to hear, a f*cking sob story. Also, if you`re so redefined by your condition that you feel it`s a huge part of who you are, and that you absolutely must discuss it with people, that just shows how low and pathetic you really are. The only people who deserve any real pity and sympathy are those who don`t want any.
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    November_Rai Male 30-39
    321 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 6:05 am
    I think that this mother-in-law should be given an award. There is nothing wrong with trying to maintain the levels of civility and politeness that one has come to expect within their family. That`s just a sign of respect for where you have come from.
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    mykunter Male 40-49
    2424 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:20 am
    Bad manners on both sides. It`s a draw.
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    krisbrown Male 30-39
    161 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:26 am
    paddy215 pretty much summed it up. don`t think i`d be clamoring to spend time w/ either of these ladies.
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    RobSwindol Male 30-39
    2510 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:41 am
    No reaction. This is a family issue, not a public issue.
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    kairobert Male 18-29
    1626 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:43 am
    Snob bitch, and/or bitch snob.
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    Steelgrid Male 30-39
    2700 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:50 am
    I notice the part about her talking about what she couldnt eat. Then being diabetic. Then TALKING about being diabetic.

    This could have all happened when MAYBE she was talking about not being able to eat something because it would mess with her sugar count. Once people started taking offense she had to TALK about her diabetes to make people understand.

    Simply put, screw the mom that wrote this.

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    Steelgrid Male 30-39
    2700 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:53 am
    "Good on the Mom. Someone needs to take that dumb bitch down a notch or two. Anyone who disagrees is wrong. Thia is an intrisic value... you cannot and may not argue it. nuff said..."

    Oh well enjoy you cookie cutter day with your plastic smile, paper suit, oh and make sure you start on your right foot like EVERYONE. Make sure you make the status quo, make sure you are exactly like EVERYONE.....

    The person that needs to be taken down a notch or two is the snobby lil "Old-money" bag that forget that not everyone was raised in a convent.
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    Midarc Male 30-39
    26 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 7:55 am
    All a bit one sided.
    To be expected.
    Even from this though, the pair of them sound bloody awful.
    Poor poor Freddie indeed.
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    pip-pip666 Female 18-29
    420 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 8:12 am
    I am so glad my mother-in-law is absolutely lovely.
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    carmium Female 50-59
    6381 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 8:24 am
    This sounds like something right out of a British movie! Very proper "Upper class" matron vs. loudmouth self-centered "working class" girl. I hate the whole class idea, but some people seem determined to perpetuate the stereotypes on both sides.
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    EgalM Male 30-39
    1707 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 9:15 am
    Wouldn`t call the email "evil" nor would I say the mother-in-law was from "hell". I think she handled it quite well, it`s not easy to correct someone and not be insulting. Which I feel she certainly was not, she knows this girl doesn`t understand their culture, so she`s being nice enough to fill her in.

    She could of easily said nothing and told her son she does not approve and will not support the marriage. This was the better of the two options.
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    flyducks Male 13-17
    231 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 9:29 am
    i clicked on kitteh9lives and saw this before it got on the front page. Confusion!
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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 9:33 am
    "you do not declare what you will and will not eat- unless you`re positively allergic to something."
    "It is tragic that you have diabetes. However you are not the only person in the world to have diabetes."

    Uhm..... ahem?
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    greekhop Male 30-39
    116 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 9:39 am
    Sounds very much like the daughter in law from hell. Mother in law sounds exquisitely cultured, a very rare specimen these days. I have the exact opposite values of the people admonistering this site.
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    Wonderwmn Female 18-29
    164 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 10:29 am
    Daughter-in-law from hell would be more apropriate I guess. There is nothing wrong with what the mother is asking. She wants a good woman for her son and not some low life trash.
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    CoyoteKing Male 18-29
    2988 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 11:43 am
    this mother in law has her head stuck too far up her own ass for her own good. i pity the soon to be wed couple. Freddie obviously doesn`t want someone like his mother, good for the 2 of them and drat that lady.
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    madduck Female 50-59
    7421 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 12:44 pm
    I would listen to the advice and learn some manners before I stayed again.
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    Mailbox Male 18-29
    255 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 2:55 pm
    reminds me of mrs. birling form an inspector calls
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    NotTHATbored Female 18-29
    1101 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 3:16 pm
    Ugh- How can anyone side with the mother-in-law? In what polite society is it considered acceptable to write a stuffy letter critiquing your future daughter-in-laws parents financial matters, her eating habits, and her sleeping habits?

    She`s diabetic. That explains it for the most part. A good host would have been prepared for that so that it didn`t have to become a topic of discussion.

    Really I think the mother in law is a fool because when they do get married and baby makes three, Momma Heidi might not want to bring her child to stay at such an uncomfortable environment. Really how bad could the future daughter-in-law be? In the one article it says she is a physician`s assistant. She can`t be totally classless.


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    SmilinSam Female 18-29
    3599 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 3:57 pm
    i hope heidi and freddy go buck wild and have a las vegas wedding just to spite this hateful bitch.
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    PringleMan Female 13-17
    1356 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 4:34 pm
    meh, they`re both bitches. I pity Freddie.
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    PopsySoku Female 18-29
    388 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:06 pm
    WTF, you`re all assuming Heidi is a bitch. The ACTUAL mother of her fiancee has quoted that she is not rude whatsoever.
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    darkhawk Male 70 & Over
    260 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:23 pm
    Agree with PringleMan
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    AlexTron Male 18-29
    534 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 5:29 pm
    What a bitch.
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    Ches47 Male 18-29
    302 posts
    July 4, 2011 at 6:03 pm
    Wow, some of that stuff is a little over the top. Some of it is understandable. Either way, sending an email to the person about it is probably way more rude than anything she did
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    Thonious Male 40-49
    987 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 4:38 am
    PringleMan, "meh, they`re both bitches. I pity Freddie."

    Freddie chose a woman his mother hates. Isn`t that always the way? Someday, many years from now, Heidi will say something similar to her son`s fiancee.
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    DJL Male 30-39
    134 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 5:36 am
    Good for the mother-in-law but she should have sent the message through he son, if he can`t do it then it`s her fault for raising what she would consider to be a rude son.
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    hvf26 Male 18-29
    192 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 5:39 am
    arrrrr tl;dr
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    ragebot Male 18-29
    32 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 7:26 am
    This lady needs a drating job.
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    nikkuchan Male 18-29
    144 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 8:41 am
    A lot of the stuff she says is just plain manners, and would probably piss me off too, but I wouldn`t write a letter like this about it; I`d just wait until a nice opportune time after they are married to start a big fight and make everyone hate each other. Isn`t that what most people do?
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    Ajikan Male 18-29
    1526 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 11:23 am
    Repressed bitch much?
    Bottling up anger and farting it out in an emial.
    If I was Freddie I`d ask Heidi to only reply "You should have sent this in hand writhing, learn your manners.
    /the girl who drats your son"

    Great lulz to be had.
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    ruthless1990 Female 18-29
    3001 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 2:23 pm
    if she has problems with her manners, there are less horrid and mean ways to let the lady know, i would presume. the letter is vulgar in itself

    *skips off to lala-land*
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    ruthless1990 Female 18-29
    3001 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 2:27 pm
    also, possibly just a PR stunt
    source
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    zombunny Female 18-29
    2525 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 5:25 pm
    Who is this Heidi person and why is she marrying someone whose mother is so annoying?
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    SarahofBorg Female 18-29
    3564 posts
    July 5, 2011 at 9:19 pm
    Really, she`s angry this diabetic woman chose not to eat everything they threw at her, or that she might not have enough food to keep from going into a coma? How extremely intolerant of them. I don`t care how amazingly rich that man is, this is clearly not worth the effort. Wow, there`s a lot of insane expectations here.
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    NoLifer Male 18-29
    12 posts
    July 6, 2011 at 2:58 am
    all i hear is whine-whine whine whine-whine.
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    BiGpHiL Male 18-29
    261 posts
    July 6, 2011 at 12:05 pm
    too long didn`t read
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    BlooGreen Female 18-29
    31 posts
    July 7, 2011 at 11:12 am
    hahaaaaaaaa
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    NotHerAgain Female 18-29
    127 posts
    July 8, 2011 at 1:04 pm
    Gotta say, I kinda agree with the mother-in-law. Heidi sounds like a spoiled annoying twat. "I sleep in all day and have a special diet and want to be married in a castle! But don`t worry, I know what a tough life is like because I`m diabetic, and that`s like, totally debilitating."

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