Teen Sex At Home

Submitted by: kitteh9lives 5 years ago

Should teens be allowed to have sex in their parents home? Is is safer or does it put them more at peril?
There are 63 comments:
Male 1,803
My parents were so open minded they even bought my condoms for me. Which saved me money. They weren`t open minded enough to get why I wanted strawberry flavoured ones. I had to explain that one. :-/
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Male 243
So where are we meant to have sex then??!!
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Male 128
"So what if Both the Teenagers Parents want them to have sex in thier respective houses? do they set up an appointment at a designated area?"

maybe they will have to have sex twice, once in each house, every time.
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Female 1,682
I don`t think it really matters...They are going to have sex either way. I guess the best pro to teenagers doing it at their own home is that they will have access to condoms (If they have some, which they should!) and this way they aren`t screwing in public and running the chance of getting caught. .-.

My parents are very open and reasonable with this. I can have sex in the house. There are just two conditions. I don`t do it while they are home (and they really do not want to know about it) and I use protection and act responsible. Those are both fine by me and so far it has worked out great. So I really don`t see what the big deal is :/
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Male 1,196
this is nasty. these are the people of my country. how depressing
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Male 71
for all that us brits have a reputation for being awkward and straight laced, americans have a bizarre relationship with sex. it`s NATURAL. as long as th people r mature enough to know what they`re doing and the potential consequences thereof, let them do it!

my parents have always been really open about it and educated me and my siblings. i think let them make their own decisions, as long as they know wha
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Female 1,441
Ew having sex in the house you live in with you`re family is so un-sexy.
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Male 25,416
wow, crazy people
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Male 65
i have sex in my house
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Female 683
Teenagers are always going to have sex and to ignore that is pure stupidity. They`re hormonal and out of control. Give them a condom, birth control, and let `em go wild. The reason why teen pregnancy is so bad is because no one will teach them how to be safe. Cramming abstinence into a teenager`s head is like asking a dog not to hump your leg. They can`t help it.
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Female 1,101
@Baalthazaq Good point, and that`s exactly why teenagers should be taught how to use a condom correctly! It`s also why they should be taught to use the pill and emergency contraceptives as a back up method. If a condom breaks or comes off, and they`re not on birth control as a back up, then there is always good old plan B. Unplanned pregnancy is 100% preventable with the proper precautions and there`s no need to be celibate.
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Female 7,838
I agree- no debate. Of course you allow your teenagers to have sex in your house. You will not stop them doing it, all you will do is pretend it is not happening. If your children can bring their partners home they may actually think about their partners... this is a conversation people should be having from when their children first begin to even think about sex.
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Male 535
how in hell is this even a discussion? how is there more than one opinion about this? how much of a douche bag parent would you have to be to kick your kid out of the home for when they are having sex? why would you think that sex is something that could be compared to taking drugs? why would you think sex is a bad thing? there are so many questions coming to my mind when i hear these morons saying they don`t want to have they kids have sex at home! it doesn`t show respect towards home? where the F*CK did you have sex when you conceived your kid then? I smell so much hypocrisy and douche baggery here it blows my mind!
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Female 2,674
Hm. Interesting. I`ve had both situations: A boyfriend whose parents allowed us to do whatever we wanted in their house, and a boyfriend whose parents wouldn`t let us close the bedroom door. And guess what? We had the same amount of sex. Safe and healthy sex. Not in any nasty hotels (like we could afford that). Horny teenagers sure do get creative.

I also don`t buy this `sex in the home is likely to be safer`. That sh*t is all up to you. Dudes are going to give the `Aw baby don`t you trust me...` speech whether you`re in a bed in his house or the back seat of his Mommy`s borrowed minivan.
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Male 237
I love how everyone is talking about sex as just a purely physical thing.

No one ever considers the emotional side of premarital sex (no matter what you believe about religion).
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Male 1,737
I smell hippies, dirty dirty hippies.

Using the excuse "Their going to do it anyways, may as well be at home" is one of the stupidest things you can say. Just swap from sex to drugs, alcohol or even the more extreme of guns. Would this still sound like a good idea?

Well if their going to shoot up heroin it may as well be at home where it is safe.
Well if their going to get drunk it may as be at home where it is safe.
Well if their going to shoot off guns, may as well be at home where it is safe.

I was drinking and doing drugs at home from the age of 12 under the excuse it was better to do it at home. Now that I`m an adult, it would of been far better for me to wait till I was out of the house. I don`t even drink anymore cause I don`t want to turn out miserable like my parents.
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Male 1,305
I agree...difficult subject. Anything that`s bad for you is "better" if you do it in a controlled manner, but does that mean that we should be accepting of it? If I had kids, I could also ban my kids from taking drugs, yet if my kids were already doing drugs behind my back, I`d prefer it if my kids were taking drugs in a controlled, sterile environment and was on an educational program to understand the dangers of addiction.
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Male 76
my mum shouts at my gilrfreind because she`s too loaud hehe
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Male 128
"So what if Both the Teenagers Parents want them to have sex in thier respective houses? do they set up an appointment at a designated area?"

maybe they will have to have sex twice, once in each house, every time.
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Male 173
tommy2x4
... you completely missed the point.

Sex at home means sex under controlled conditions WITH contraception... Not somewhere in a car some random place in secrecy...

The point is exactly that kids dont have kids...
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Female 113
This is a really difficult subject I think. I`m a 17 year old girl brought up from a fairly Christian background and my mum has `banned` me from having sex. I still do it anyway because it`s my own decision but I know that it would never ever be permitted in our home. It`s a shame really because like those teenagers said I probably wouldn`t feel comfortable if my parents were encouraging me to have a boyfriend stay round and have sex with him, I`d prefer it if my parents would atleast let a boyfriend stay over and trust me not to have sex with them at home because I wouldn`t actually do it, I respect that they wouldn`t want me to have sex in the house and yeah it would be pretty weird having them so close by...
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Male 232
It should be completely up to the parents until the kid is an adult - but that`s only in a perfect world lol.
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Male 3,472
And that`s how kids have kids...
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Male 147
This is a dumb discussion. If my parents didn`t let me have sex in my bedroom when I was younger, I`d kick them out of the house. (Not that I ever asked them if I could).

Sex exists. Everyone does it. Your son and daughter will do it anyway. So, is it better if they do it in public places / spend money on a hotel / do it uncomfortably in a car, or at their home?

I had one girlfriend parents would only let me sleep over when we had to get up very early in the next morning to family weddings and such, and would spend the whole night monitoring if we still were in separate bedrooms. Why did they thought they could avoid us having sex in the house? Of course they couldn`t.
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Female 362
@Baalthazaq: The pill is easier to use properly than a condom (just put it on your nightstand and take it when you get up in the morning), is around 99% effective or better, and might even give the young lady the perk of lighter, easier periods. True it doesn`t stop STDs, but if we`re talking about two people who know each other and not strangers having one-night stands, it doesn`t matter.
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Male 4,547
"Two words.

Birth Control."

I`ll see your two words and raise you two stats.

Abstinence: Perfect usage, 100%.
Condoms: Perfect usage, 98%.

Assuming your answer is: "Abstinence doesn`t work <blah blah blah> human nature <blah blah blah>".

I agree with you. That`s why "Perfect usage" is a terrible measure.

So you compare typical usage.

Condoms: 85% protection rate per year. Any knowledge of math at this point should let you know that you`re probably having a kid about every 4 years at that rate.

People who talk about abstinence are often accused of naivete. Quite frankly, people who just say "Birth control" and think it`s some sortof magic fix all are far more.

Don`t get me wrong: Abstinence ONLY programs, have never been shown to succeed, but that`s not the same as "Let em drat".
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Male 128
"So what if Both the Teenagers Parents want them to have sex in thier respective houses? do they set up an appointment at a designated area?"

maybe they will have to have sex twice, once in each house, every time.
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Male 1,182
im sure that kid gets laid
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Male 2,290
"I am aware that someday my children will turn into adults but let me tell ya, if my kid is still at the point where I need to ground them or punish them, they aren`t ready for sex!!! Sex (aka playing house) is only to be done by a responsible adult. One that could care for a child if "accidentally" created. It`s ok to have fun and "be young", but only if you actually are responsibly "young" to deal with any and all consequences. "

Two words.

Birth Control.
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Female 245
Only Americans are having an issue with sex.
This vid was so absurd, lol.
And seriously, girls can`t say "no, I`m not ready" to their boyfriends?
Get a grip.
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Male 201
So what if Both the Teenagers Parents want them to have sex in thier respective houses? do they set up an appointment at a designated area?
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Female 803
you don`t know how to say no? you say no! i understand that not all girls are...strong enough to straight up say no, but come on. i`ve been in the situation where i don`t want to have sex with the guy i`m with, and i tell him no. if he asks why, i say because i dont feel ready, not because my parents would kill me.
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Male 346
Who else`s house are they going to have sex in?
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Female 470
I`m 21 years old, live with my parents, and I -still- don`t want to have sex in my parents` house unless they aren`t here. It`s just weird.
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Female 2,764
I am aware that someday my children will turn into adults but let me tell ya, if my kid is still at the point where I need to ground them or punish them, they aren`t ready for sex!!! Sex (aka playing house) is only to be done by a responsible adult. One that could care for a child if "accidentally" created. It`s ok to have fun and "be young", but only if you actually are responsibly "young" to deal with any and all consequences.
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Male 10,845
The law was supposed to prevent adults from having sexing with teenagers not each other. Now obviously it would be a crime for teenagers to have sex with anyone YOUNGER than that age group. The current set of laws got IMO does not protect anyone and seriously need to be reformed.
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Male 19
ya...why dont they interview non-white parents... we`ll see then...
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Male 934
When I was 18, a senior in highschool, my 16 year old (junior in highschool) girlfriend`s mother let me stay the night several nights a week. We even talked to her together about getting her daughter on the pill.

We were considerate about it and kept it quiet, but it felt really normal because it happened at night when everyone was in bed. Her mom was just glad that she knew who her daughter was spending her time with and that it was with a responsible person who cared about her.

Society needs to take sex off the pedestal and realize that it`s a perfectly natural act and not some shameful guilty indulgence of sin. Parents and their children shouldn`t be so uncomfortable on the subject.
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Male 511
God, I had to go to the damn ABC website to even view the video. But it raises an interesting question, and I feel like I would respond to it the same way as with smoking weed or drinking alcohol - I don`t want you to do it, but if you`re gonna do it you should do it at home.
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Male 182
i love how the girls in this video talk about how they like to use their parents as an excuse not to sleep with their boyfriends. "well its not like i can just say no." yes actually it is exactly like that you have more then enough power and responsibility to say no if you dont want to. grow the drat up.
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Male 2,592
If it`s a daughter, HELL NO. A son, that`s mah boy! Yes, I am all about that double standard. No daughter of mine is gonna get porked while she`s under my roof..
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Male 101
It`s going to happen. It`s natural. People are largely through puberty by their late teens, and nothing`s going to stop them if they want to do it that badly. So, let them do it in a safer environment. Their going to be better off.

Etc etc, stuff that`s already been said, etc blah blah etc.
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Male 161
Just because they are allowed to have sex in there homes doesnt mean that is the only place they are going to have it. Of course parents should talk with their teens, but I wouldn`t tell them it`s ok to do it in the house we share.
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Male 154
this is so fking stupid. hahaha... there gonna do it anyway. it doesnt matter if the parents say yes or no.
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Male 1,311
Do it in your mothers bed, if your mothers bed can`t be provided for you, please use your grandparents.
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Male 553
I`ve had sex in plenty of public places, in buses (was fun ^^) but she didn`t have the courage to come to my house for some reason. Basically once we went to uni and lived at the dorms we did it like rabbits. I would feel a lot more secure at home but we both liked the risk involved at the time =P
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Male 12,365
[quote]Hummm do people really forget they were young too?[/quote]

Every generation is the first one to invent sex, apparently.

I`m with PsychGeek on this. It`s part of being a parent to deal with the fact that your children become adults, so you should give them enough slack for that and some of the knowledge you gained from experience (although they`ll probably ignore it anyway, as people do). But no sex while I`m in the house unless we live in a house large enough for "in the house" to be far enough away.
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Male 49
I don`t necessarily think that this attitude is safer than letting them figure out where to bone, but I do feel like a parent that allows this will have had the presence of mind to actually talk to their kid about sex and not just assume their kids won`t know anything about it unless they tell them. I guess it can`t hurt, though.
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Male 59
Haha I`m gonna be honest, I`m usually the one that is freaked out by parents being around than the girl. I mean I had a girl practically rape me (in a good way haha) when her rents were asleep and not 10 minutes into it the mom slammed on the door and screamed at me to get out, buzz-kill
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Male 1,523
i saw this on tv!!!!
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Male 483
What are you supposed to say to your boyfriend if he wants to have sex and you dont have "my parents will kill me!" as a card to play? Tell them "no". I`ve been shut down by my own girlfriend of 2 1/2 years multiple times, granted I`m not a teen anymore, but c`mon ladies, be strong.
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Male 773
Also, there are parents who don`t let their kids do it at home? Shiiiiiiit, prudes man, prudes.
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Male 256
People have sex, o`my! how did this ever happen.... O` wait yeah I was "knocking" around when I was young in my parents house. Hummm do people really forget they were young too? Maybe it`s me but com`on get real world, sec really does make the world go around!
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Male 599
Most teens are going to have sex behind their parents back anyway. Crap society needs to realize this has been going on for millenniums. The only difference was most societies had them married as soon as a girl entered womanhood. Heck less than 130 years ago. Kids were getting married at 12 and older in the pioneer days. They were kicked out and told to make it on their own and forge their life in the frontier.
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Male 773
Meh, i`ll let my parents deal with the images of me buckin` my woman poppin up in their head. Cuz i got it in real time ;)
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Female 1,798
if my teen is going to have sex, she`s going to have sex. i would want her to be safe by using birth control and a condom---and of course we`d talk about STD`s and all that jazz.

however, she would need to respect me and my home by not having sex while i`m there. it`s a hard decision to make, but i`d rather her have sex in our home than in a seedy hotel.
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Female 407
it`s pretty gross that you would even WANT to have sex while your parents are in the other room..
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Male 77
What BS discussion. It shouldn`t be about where you do it, but how and why; and parents being open about it with their children. Sure you don`t have to allow everything, but with kids in their teens there will be sex... and a lot.

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Female 2,027
i would of liked too, would of been comfier
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Female 191
this is news? As long as both are of age, who gives a drat?
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Female 595
Eww, I couldn`t have sex knowing my parents are in the other room knowing I`m having sex.
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Male 762
The stand behind closely monitoring in case the condom breaks.
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Female 8,044
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