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60 Responses to I-A-B Question: Does Sexting Equal Adultery?

  1. Profile photo of kitteh9lives
    kitteh9lives Female 70 & Over
    8033 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 11:57 am
    Link: I-A-B Question: Does Sexting Equal Adultery? - Most have done it, but if there`s no physical contact can it be considered cheating? Many say it is emotional infidelity
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    basketkase Male 18-29
    1182 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:37 pm
    yes
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    hwkiller Male 18-29
    490 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:38 pm
    To me, it`s the intention that matters most, not the physical event.

    It`s still lusting after another and acting on it. :/
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    SmagBoy1 Male 40-49
    4432 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:41 pm
    I`d say it depends on good it was! :-P
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    JDKIAB Male 18-29
    21 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:42 pm
    While there is no physical cheating, there is certainly mental infidelity...it depends how far a person takes it, and it can quickly become phsyical.
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    Reignblazer Male 18-29
    2334 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:43 pm
    No, it`s not. If it is we might as well call everyone who has ever fantasized or thought about shagging someone else while they were in a relationship cheaters as well.
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    paddy215 Male 18-29
    1677 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:44 pm
    Its cheating.
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    LordJim Male 60-69
    6662 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:46 pm
    So he got his dick out and put in on the interthingy? End of career for stupidity.

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    Listypoos Male 40-49
    3069 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:47 pm
    Yeah, I think the rule of thumb is - if you wouldn`t be comfortable with your partner knowing what you were doing, then it`s probably going too far.

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    xiquiripat Male 18-29
    2423 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:47 pm
    If you`re confused just ask yourself: do I want my girlfriend to find out?
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    LordJim Male 60-69
    6662 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 2:51 pm
    JDKIAB

    <i>mental infidelity</i>

    Yeah, but that would be `thought crime`, like coveting your neighbours ass.

    This is more like standing outside your neighbour`s window and twirling your meat. While she is entertaining guests. With a mariachi band, if you are also a senator.

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    moefreak Female 18-29
    1963 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:03 pm
    Cheating is a pretty flexible concept, it just depends on the relationship. I "sexted" (ugh at that term, but I guess that`s what it was) once with someone, while in a relationship with someone else. I felt immensely guilty about it, and confessed. He forgave me very quickly because he didn`t think it was really a big deal. He didn`t consider it cheating.
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    Baalthazaq Male 18-29
    4548 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:04 pm
    "If you`re confused just ask yourself: do I want my girlfriend to find out?"

    Perfect. If you tell your girlfriend and she is totally ok with you sleeping with someone else, it`s not really cheating.

    I was gonna go with "Would you be ok with your partner doing it?", but I prefer yours.
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    Baalthazaq Male 18-29
    4548 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:05 pm
    BTW, there was actually no sarcasm in that last comment.
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    fancylad Male 30-39
    18502 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:21 pm
    I`d like to think I know a thing or two about the ladies and I know, if I did what Weiner did, yes--every girl I`ve ever been with would consider it cheating.

    What do I think? Yeah--sending photos of your junk to other girls (as of my writing this, nude photos have surfaced) is cheating.
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    Tekinette Male 30-39
    273 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:36 pm
    If you can tell your wife/gf about it without feeling guilty then it`s not cheating.. well unless you`re an non-nice individual.
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    SmagBoy1 Male 40-49
    4432 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:36 pm
    What did the Weiner get out of the deal? Did he get any nude photos in return? If he was just sending out pictures of his junk, that`s less cheating and more just ego-bation, IMHO.
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    malikymoo Female 18-29
    2029 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:38 pm
    yes,i think you have to ask yourself if it would be okay if youre partner did it to you, but then again, people do have different morals.
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    Angilion Male 40-49
    12390 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:46 pm
    It`s a very subjective area and something to be sorted out in the relationship. Some people are going to see it as infidelity, some people are going to see it as not significantly different to thinking about sex.

    Personally, I probably wouldn`t care if it was a few times with any one person but probably would if it was a longer-term thing. It`s like the difference between sex and a relationship.
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    hatface Male 18-29
    605 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 3:55 pm
    Most have done it? Really? Am I missing out here?
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    Rick_S Male 40-49
    3275 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:14 pm
    I can`t talk about your relationships, but in mine, yes, it would be cheating.
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    DrProfessor Male 18-29
    3894 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:17 pm
    That Second-Life dude totally traded up.
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    IrishJesus Male 18-29
    483 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:21 pm
    Yeah, I`d say it is. It`s being explicitly sexual with someone other than your partner. I couldn`t do it with anyone else because it`s putting my intimate attention in the wrong direction.
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    vetteguy007 Male 18-29
    48 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:33 pm
    I think this whole thing is blown way out of proportion. Yeah, he is a public figure and it reflects on his public image. Really, just as he does his job and can please the masses what does it matter? He is human and he screwed up and did something he shouldn`t have done. What about these girls/women that he had shared these online messages with. Why don`t they get more negative wrap for being involved with them? Clearly they had to know he was married and knew who he was and continued to be involved with him despit. Why is it when stuff comes up like this the media makes the men look like perverted sexual preditors when these women took part in lengthy conversations with the men involved. I don`t know how the women can show up in interviews and talk about it and nobody thinks differently of them.
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    rickbub Male 40-49
    293 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:34 pm
    uh-huh...
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    _kiersten_ Female 18-29
    1684 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:47 pm
    Personally, I say it is. If I went through my boyfriends phone and saw `sexy` text messages between him and another girl, I would be absolutely livid. Not only that, but I would be upset that he is doing something like that with someone else as opposed to me. It would make me feel like he isn`t sexually attracted to me anymore/he finds our sex-life boring.
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    Kaagan Male 18-29
    1596 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:49 pm
    no way is that worse than sexual cheating!
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    Norris Male 18-29
    1011 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 4:57 pm
    I say it is..because part of it is to go meet the person..why else would you be talking to them?
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    KittenCereal Female 18-29
    956 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 5:19 pm
    Doesn`t anybody think of the fact that everyone has different views on what the representation of ANYTHING is?

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    goaliejerry Male 30-39
    4019 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 5:49 pm
    Reignblazer - there is a significant difference between fantasy - mere thoughts as you say - and communicating with another actual person, somewhere, in real time, and showing them your c*ck.

    There is a huge difference between thinking to yourself "damn I`d love to f*ck that girl," and telling that girl "yes, I`d like to f*ck you with my c*ck. Since we`ve exchanged words that convey emotion, I now know we would be having sex now if we were together. Here`s a picture so you can visualize it. Please send me a picture of your breasts and vagina so I can visualize being inside."

    GTFO of here. Why do you send a picture of your balls? The answer: to get a picture of tits and vagina.
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    goaliejerry Male 30-39
    4019 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 6:00 pm
    "Personally, I probably wouldn`t care if it was a few times with any one person but probably would if it was a longer-term thing."

    Suuuuuuurrrrrrreeeeeeeeeee. Tell me that when it happens to you.

    "Hey sweetheart? What is this picture in your phone of your naked breasts sent to John? And the later one of you bent over spreading your lips? Oh, you only did it twice and promise not to send photos to the same guy again? Yeah, I guess you`re right - he IS several states away, so obviously you couldn`t be having sex with him. You`re right, his dick is bigger than mine, but my balls are more swollen usually. I like how he shaved his sack, maybe I`ll try that. Super, whats for dinner? I love you."

    All your comment tells me is you are more likely to do it yourself and want to rationalize it as "not so bad." Or you have no self-respect. Or both.
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    goaliejerry Male 30-39
    4019 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 6:08 pm
    "He forgave me very quickly because he didn`t think it was really a big deal. He didn`t consider it cheating."

    Awwwww, you didn`t connect the dots and realize he was cheating too, or totally intending to at the first opportunity. That`s sad.
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    goaliejerry Male 30-39
    4019 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 6:13 pm
    All you sad people saying "it depends" are the epitome of The Offspring`s "Self-Esteem."

    In your head it doesn`t matter - in your partner`s head, they are cheating and loving it and view you as so pathetic and weak they know you`ll take them back and be happy for the chance. BUCK THE F*CK UP.

    "When she`s saying, oh that she wants only me-eee, then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends. When she`s saying, I don`t let up like a disease, then I wonder how much more I can spend. Well I guess, I should stick up for myself, but I really think it`s better this way. The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care........ri-igh, yeah yeah yeah."
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    RoboPatton Male 30-39
    2424 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 6:13 pm
    its not cheating anymore than showing chicks your junk at the park.

    Cheating no, but the act of a pervert, yes.

    PS- heard his wife is prego! Gonna have a little Wiener running around the house.
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    madest Male 40-49
    7379 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 6:50 pm
    Cheating? No, if you`re a guy in a relationship. Yes, if you`re chick in a relationship. Double standard because it`s a man`s world ladies.
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    LazyMe484 Male 18-29
    10443 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 7:18 pm
    got 45 seconds in. I`m not watching this. I`ve already given my opinion on it, and it`s basically that this doesn`t matter and it shows how the media, the political system and the people are all stupid.

    If I could give this `post` a rating of -10^10^50 I would, but there is no button for it.
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    Swaywithme Female 18-29
    3696 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 7:23 pm
    It`s not cheating but it`s a breach of trust and I`d dump a guy I was in a relationship with for it. Don`t engage in sexual acts with other women!.....without me dammit! >=(
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    16comets09 Male 18-29
    91 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 7:54 pm
    "If I could give this `post` a rating of -10^10^50 I would, but there is no button for it."

    any negative number raised to a positive even number will be a positive number...come on man
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    tommy2X4 Male 50-59
    3441 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 8:14 pm
    He just wanted to show off his skivies.
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    Oldfrt Male 50-59
    747 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 9:31 pm
    So let me get this straight: It doesn`t matter where or how I get my jollies, as long as I only GIVE jollies to my significant other? Sounds like half a relationship to me.
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    I-IS-BORED Male 18-29
    2419 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 9:31 pm
    @16comets09
    -10^10^50 is negative, it`s -10^10^50 not (-10)^10^50
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    Plague555 Male 18-29
    553 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 9:59 pm
    I used to sext with my ex all the time. Kinda like foreplay only over the course of the day. But would i sext with someone else? No I wouldn`t, I would feel like i`m cheating. I`d expect the same from her.
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    LazyMe484 Male 18-29
    10443 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 10:52 pm
    -10^10^50 is negative, it`s -10^10^50 not (-10)^10^50
    Thanks for clearing that up! I thought it was fairly obvious, also given the context that it was written in.
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    xCYBERDYNEx Male 18-29
    4903 posts
    June 8, 2011 at 11:12 pm
    who cares that guy is an idiot
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    Fatninja01 Male 30-39
    25408 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 3:29 am
    Over it
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    zombunny Female 18-29
    2525 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 4:47 am
    Yes, it is cheating. If you wouldn`t do it in front of your partner, it`s cheating.
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    SapphireHart Female 18-29
    412 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 5:26 am
    @madest:

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    EgalM Male 30-39
    1707 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 7:33 am
    Pretty sure if the word "sex" is in the act, than it`s cheating. Didn`t we go over this nonsense with Clinton? Yes it`s different, but it`s matter of where the heart is, if it`s with someone else at the time, than it`s cheating.
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    pip-pip666 Female 18-29
    420 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 7:38 am
    Yes, yes it really is.
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    missPWNAGE Female 18-29
    298 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 8:17 am
    If you`re intentionally seeking out another partner - through whatever medium - it`s cheating... isn`t that what cheating is all about?
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
    14273 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 8:31 am
    So if you sext yourself is it cheating??? Or would it be considered sexterbation?? Not that I do that sort of thing <_< >_>
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    Ozmond Male 18-29
    3 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 10:30 am
    0:14 "Weiner may be an extreme case of internet misbehaviour"
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    Joolin Male 18-29
    1003 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 10:39 am
    Anyone who actually had to think about this question has never had and will never have a healthy, happy relationship.
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    meepmaker Male 30-39
    6694 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 1:05 pm
    Its like a gateway drug to cheating.
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    obeydarklord Male 18-29
    1360 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 2:44 pm
    i would say it`s sleazy and you might as well be having physical contact. it`s obvious that sending a girl a pic message of your bits indicates sexual consent.
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    obeydarklord Male 18-29
    1360 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 2:47 pm
    @meadest, i call it the other way around, if a girl sends you pics of boobs or vag, it doesn`t necessarily mean they want sex, just attention. guys are a bit more blunt with their motives.
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    DShephard Male 18-29
    1595 posts
    June 9, 2011 at 2:56 pm
    It`s hopeful adultery.
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    human_exile Male 13-17
    875 posts
    June 11, 2011 at 7:37 am
    teehee `weiner`
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    SmilinSam Female 18-29
    3599 posts
    June 11, 2011 at 7:43 pm
    weiner`s weiner. that is all.
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    8BitHero Male 18-29
    5414 posts
    June 12, 2011 at 1:20 am
    So....?

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