I-A-B Question: Does Sexting Equal Adultery?

Submitted by: kitteh9lives 5 years ago

Most have done it, but if there"s no physical contact can it be considered cheating? Many say it is emotional infidelity
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Male 5,413
So....?
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Female 3,598
weiner`s weiner. that is all.
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Male 875
teehee `weiner`
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Male 1,595
It`s hopeful adultery.
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Male 1,360
@meadest, i call it the other way around, if a girl sends you pics of boobs or vag, it doesn`t necessarily mean they want sex, just attention. guys are a bit more blunt with their motives.
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Male 1,360
i would say it`s sleazy and you might as well be having physical contact. it`s obvious that sending a girl a pic message of your bits indicates sexual consent.
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Male 6,694
Its like a gateway drug to cheating.
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Male 1,002
Anyone who actually had to think about this question has never had and will never have a healthy, happy relationship.
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Male 3
0:14 "Weiner may be an extreme case of internet misbehaviour"
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Male 14,330
So if you sext yourself is it cheating??? Or would it be considered sexterbation?? Not that I do that sort of thing <_< >_>
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Female 298
If you`re intentionally seeking out another partner - through whatever medium - it`s cheating... isn`t that what cheating is all about?
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Female 420
Yes, yes it really is.
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Male 1,737
Pretty sure if the word "sex" is in the act, than it`s cheating. Didn`t we go over this nonsense with Clinton? Yes it`s different, but it`s matter of where the heart is, if it`s with someone else at the time, than it`s cheating.
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Female 412
@madest:

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Female 2,525
Yes, it is cheating. If you wouldn`t do it in front of your partner, it`s cheating.
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Male 25,416
Over it
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Male 4,902
who cares that guy is an idiot
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Male 10,440
[quote] -10^10^50 is negative, it`s -10^10^50 not (-10)^10^50 [/quote]
Thanks for clearing that up! I thought it was fairly obvious, also given the context that it was written in.
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Male 553
I used to sext with my ex all the time. Kinda like foreplay only over the course of the day. But would i sext with someone else? No I wouldn`t, I would feel like i`m cheating. I`d expect the same from her.
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Male 2,419
@16comets09
-10^10^50 is negative, it`s -10^10^50 not (-10)^10^50
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Male 749
So let me get this straight: It doesn`t matter where or how I get my jollies, as long as I only GIVE jollies to my significant other? Sounds like half a relationship to me.
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Male 3,472
He just wanted to show off his skivies.
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Male 91
"If I could give this `post` a rating of -10^10^50 I would, but there is no button for it."

any negative number raised to a positive even number will be a positive number...come on man
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Female 3,696
It`s not cheating but it`s a breach of trust and I`d dump a guy I was in a relationship with for it. Don`t engage in sexual acts with other women!.....without me dammit! >=(
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Male 10,440
got 45 seconds in. I`m not watching this. I`ve already given my opinion on it, and it`s basically that this doesn`t matter and it shows how the media, the political system and the people are all stupid.

If I could give this `post` a rating of -10^10^50 I would, but there is no button for it.
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Male 7,378
Cheating? No, if you`re a guy in a relationship. Yes, if you`re chick in a relationship. Double standard because it`s a man`s world ladies.
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Male 2,424
its not cheating anymore than showing chicks your junk at the park.

Cheating no, but the act of a pervert, yes.

PS- heard his wife is prego! Gonna have a little Wiener running around the house.
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Male 4,014
All you sad people saying "it depends" are the epitome of The Offspring`s "Self-Esteem."

In your head it doesn`t matter - in your partner`s head, they are cheating and loving it and view you as so pathetic and weak they know you`ll take them back and be happy for the chance. BUCK THE F*CK UP.

"When she`s saying, oh that she wants only me-eee, then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends. When she`s saying, I don`t let up like a disease, then I wonder how much more I can spend. Well I guess, I should stick up for myself, but I really think it`s better this way. The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care........ri-igh, yeah yeah yeah."
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Male 4,014
"He forgave me very quickly because he didn`t think it was really a big deal. He didn`t consider it cheating."

Awwwww, you didn`t connect the dots and realize he was cheating too, or totally intending to at the first opportunity. That`s sad.
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Male 4,014
"Personally, I probably wouldn`t care if it was a few times with any one person but probably would if it was a longer-term thing."

Suuuuuuurrrrrrreeeeeeeeeee. Tell me that when it happens to you.

"Hey sweetheart? What is this picture in your phone of your naked breasts sent to John? And the later one of you bent over spreading your lips? Oh, you only did it twice and promise not to send photos to the same guy again? Yeah, I guess you`re right - he IS several states away, so obviously you couldn`t be having sex with him. You`re right, his dick is bigger than mine, but my balls are more swollen usually. I like how he shaved his sack, maybe I`ll try that. Super, whats for dinner? I love you."

All your comment tells me is you are more likely to do it yourself and want to rationalize it as "not so bad." Or you have no self-respect. Or both.
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Male 4,014
Reignblazer - there is a significant difference between fantasy - mere thoughts as you say - and communicating with another actual person, somewhere, in real time, and showing them your c*ck.

There is a huge difference between thinking to yourself "damn I`d love to f*ck that girl," and telling that girl "yes, I`d like to f*ck you with my c*ck. Since we`ve exchanged words that convey emotion, I now know we would be having sex now if we were together. Here`s a picture so you can visualize it. Please send me a picture of your breasts and vagina so I can visualize being inside."

GTFO of here. Why do you send a picture of your balls? The answer: to get a picture of tits and vagina.
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Female 956
Doesn`t anybody think of the fact that everyone has different views on what the representation of ANYTHING is?

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Male 1,011
I say it is..because part of it is to go meet the person..why else would you be talking to them?
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Male 1,627
no way is that worse than sexual cheating!
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Female 1,682
Personally, I say it is. If I went through my boyfriends phone and saw `sexy` text messages between him and another girl, I would be absolutely livid. Not only that, but I would be upset that he is doing something like that with someone else as opposed to me. It would make me feel like he isn`t sexually attracted to me anymore/he finds our sex-life boring.
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Male 293
uh-huh...
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Male 48
I think this whole thing is blown way out of proportion. Yeah, he is a public figure and it reflects on his public image. Really, just as he does his job and can please the masses what does it matter? He is human and he screwed up and did something he shouldn`t have done. What about these girls/women that he had shared these online messages with. Why don`t they get more negative wrap for being involved with them? Clearly they had to know he was married and knew who he was and continued to be involved with him despit. Why is it when stuff comes up like this the media makes the men look like perverted sexual preditors when these women took part in lengthy conversations with the men involved. I don`t know how the women can show up in interviews and talk about it and nobody thinks differently of them.
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Male 483
Yeah, I`d say it is. It`s being explicitly sexual with someone other than your partner. I couldn`t do it with anyone else because it`s putting my intimate attention in the wrong direction.
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Male 3,894
That Second-Life dude totally traded up.
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Male 3,314
I can`t talk about your relationships, but in mine, yes, it would be cheating.
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Male 605
Most have done it? Really? Am I missing out here?
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Male 12,365
It`s a very subjective area and something to be sorted out in the relationship. Some people are going to see it as infidelity, some people are going to see it as not significantly different to thinking about sex.

Personally, I probably wouldn`t care if it was a few times with any one person but probably would if it was a longer-term thing. It`s like the difference between sex and a relationship.
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Female 2,027
yes,i think you have to ask yourself if it would be okay if youre partner did it to you, but then again, people do have different morals.
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Male 4,431
What did the Weiner get out of the deal? Did he get any nude photos in return? If he was just sending out pictures of his junk, that`s less cheating and more just ego-bation, IMHO.
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Male 273
If you can tell your wife/gf about it without feeling guilty then it`s not cheating.. well unless you`re an non-nice individual.
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Male 19,873
I`d like to think I know a thing or two about the ladies and I know, if I did what Weiner did, yes--every girl I`ve ever been with would consider it cheating.

What do I think? Yeah--sending photos of your junk to other girls (as of my writing this, nude photos have surfaced) is cheating.
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Male 4,547
BTW, there was actually no sarcasm in that last comment.
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Male 4,547
"If you`re confused just ask yourself: do I want my girlfriend to find out?"

Perfect. If you tell your girlfriend and she is totally ok with you sleeping with someone else, it`s not really cheating.

I was gonna go with "Would you be ok with your partner doing it?", but I prefer yours.
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Female 1,963
Cheating is a pretty flexible concept, it just depends on the relationship. I "sexted" (ugh at that term, but I guess that`s what it was) once with someone, while in a relationship with someone else. I felt immensely guilty about it, and confessed. He forgave me very quickly because he didn`t think it was really a big deal. He didn`t consider it cheating.
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Male 7,123
JDKIAB

<i>mental infidelity</i>

Yeah, but that would be `thought crime`, like coveting your neighbours ass.

This is more like standing outside your neighbour`s window and twirling your meat. While she is entertaining guests. With a mariachi band, if you are also a senator.

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Male 2,422
If you`re confused just ask yourself: do I want my girlfriend to find out?
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Male 3,081
Yeah, I think the rule of thumb is - if you wouldn`t be comfortable with your partner knowing what you were doing, then it`s probably going too far.

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Male 7,123
So he got his dick out and put in on the interthingy? End of career for stupidity.

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Male 1,678
Its cheating.
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Male 2,332
No, it`s not. If it is we might as well call everyone who has ever fantasized or thought about shagging someone else while they were in a relationship cheaters as well.
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Male 21
While there is no physical cheating, there is certainly mental infidelity...it depends how far a person takes it, and it can quickly become phsyical.
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Male 4,431
I`d say it depends on good it was! :-P
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Male 490
To me, it`s the intention that matters most, not the physical event.

It`s still lusting after another and acting on it. :/
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Male 1,182
yes
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Female 8,044
Link: I-A-B Question: Does Sexting Equal Adultery? [Rate Link] - Most have done it, but if there`s no physical contact can it be considered cheating? Many say it is emotional infidelity
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