Dear Girl... Sex & Relationship For The People

Submitted by: fancylad 6 years ago Tech

Socially retarded? Fear of intimacy? Cheating pregnant fiancee? These questions answered today. Need help? Send in yours
There are 55 comments:
Male 1,837
so... its not MMM, fancy changed to "girl"?
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Female 130
maybe some girls fall victim to the ladder theory bullpoo but most either dont or grow out of it very quickly. Or are the type to enjoy twilight.
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Male 415
Dayum. That last guy is in such a predicament. This girl seems pretty wise
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Male 4,680
"gorgack that`s not at all true"
It is. I used to do the Nice Guy act myself, until I read that comic and realised how deceptive it is.

There`s nothing wrong with being a nice guy of course. It`s just wrong if you`re acting nice towards a girl to try and get her to become your friend.

It`s something to do with girls classing guys as proper friends whilst guys, unconsciously, treat any attractive girl friends as potential mates. Befriending a girl, earning her trust and then revealing that you only made friends with her so you could try and hook up with her is a massive shot in the metaphorical balls for the girl.

It`s just best to play it straight and ask them out tbh, as the comic explains.

Also thanks sbeelz even if I didn`t make the comic. I read some of your posts on an earlier thread, you`re an awesome person by the sound of it.
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Male 1,193
gorgack that`s not at all true
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Female 275
My credentials: I`m a writer that studies gender theory and sexuality. I`m in a community of sex educators who approach sexuality from multiple angles that are not only influenced by cultural constructs and hetero-normativity. Even us accomplished people get bored and waste some time on forums.

I think it`s strange that one person thinks that pursuing actual information about sexuality means your life is troubled. I also think it`s strange that you bristle at anyone pointing out these links provide troubling and ill-informed advice. All I did was quesion "Girl`s" authority. It`s the same as if she were on here giving medical advice with no training. (And if you say it isn`t, then you don`t understand the complexity or seriousness of sexuality.)

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Male 2,868
@gogack2000
That comic was awesome. I can`t tell you how many times I`ve had the same conversation with a friend and thought "If you were only being friends with her because you expected something in return, then you were never her friend."
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Male 1,023
trust your instincs, just not blindly. Your gut is right most of the time, just don`t walk into something bad when your gut is wrong.
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Male 1,023
it`s a sad day when it`s weird for 2 people to not be living together when they are having romantic relations.
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Female 3,828
I dont think shes cheating on him. i think he may be paranoid because he has had someone cheat on him in the past. It seems weird they dont live together, eventhough she is pregnant and they are engaged.

Best thing to do is trust her, unless you find obvious proof, or a witness that she is cheating. You cant build a relationship without trust, dude. I think counseling will help also
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Female 152
damn i was hoping this one would still have the address....i have some issues and need advice lol...
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Male 716
I knew he spelled "plethora" wrong!
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Male 4,290
Ah, the "you don`t trust me" cop-out.
Get a paternity test mate. Or get all private investigator on her ass. Or just straight up ask her who the unfriendly guy is.


And to all the "MOAR FUNNIEZ PLZ" people - this site is for relieving boredom. Humour is not the only way to do that. Things can be interesting without being funny. That`s why we also occasionally link to current affairs and news reports.


cagel: until you provide credentials, I`m not going to follow your advice and go to any other website.
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Male 25,416
meh!
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Male 774
Nidonemo,

Naming volcanoes are we?
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Male 833
how can you say some guy broke a girls heart when she doesnt even consider what they had as a relationship?
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Male 9,306
"tl;dr"

*smacks upside the head*

OUT! OUT! OUT! DEMONS OF DISTRACTION! ENLONGATE THY ATTENTION SPAN! IN THE NAME OF THE INTERNET, THE WEB, AND THE HOLY NETWORK I CLEANSE THEE! HABAHNARFABELJAADDA!
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Male 15,510
Cagel .... Center V2.0?
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Male 115
tl;dr
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Female 15,763
I`d do a guy who used fancy words like plethora, but not one that spells it wrong.

HA!
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Male 4,807
@ cagel>>>> " I recommend people go to Good Vibrations (website or store) and talk to somebody who probably has a Ph.D. "


Sooo... we ARE to take YOUR advise (recommendation) then??
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Male 40
More.
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Male 187
That guy who thinks his pregnant fiancee is cheating on him (judging on what he`s written) is being a paranoid idiot.
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Male 716
Boring questions are boring
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Male 4,867
hey cagel, no one has to listen to a word Girl says, no one has to take any of her advice as `expert` advice. But its here if anyone wants help; i think its great that your life is so troubled that you know every single place to receive relationship advice, but Girl is here for IAB, and if you dont think she knows what shes talking about - the simple solution is to not click the link.
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Female 275
Also, what are "Girl`s" qualifications for this? Is she a trained sex educator? When I need advice on this stuff I ask a sex educator; i.e. someone with training.

Unless "Girl" can provide some credentials I recommend people go to Good Vibrations (website or store) and talk to somebody who probably has a Ph.D.
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Female 275
I am sick of this stereotype and generalization of women/men liking jerks.

I dislike jerks.

Again, monogamy sucks.
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Male 328
"he`s the guy that every girl eventually wants"

Its such bull but sadly true, why is it that girls have to be treated like hell before they realize it isn`t really worth it
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Female 275
Monogamy sucks.
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Male 509
@Davymid and readmyname
Too damn true!

I`d probably tell the last one to tell his fiancée his REASONS for doubting her, so she can give an explanation. The foundation of any relationship, whether it`s between lovers or families, is trust. When that breaks down, if someone thinks there is a secret or something else, then the whole relationship will break down.

I`d probably say he should confront her about it but don`t sound too aggressive or suspicious. He says he`s a logical person. Prove it to her; be honest and tell her your reasons for doubting her.
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Male 516
Aww Davy. =( If you wanted advice, you could`ve just come to me.

=)

All jokes aside, I think the more times I read this column, the less I think of it as something to criticize and delve into. It`s more of a user-site interactive gateway to me now.

I can`t really think of a good example right now, but it reminds me of something like

`E-mail your questions to Jack from LOST and see what he has to say!` - ABC

And then on the other end there lies Jack Shepherd, among about 20 other Jack Shepherds who sit in a room full of computers and answer the flooding e-mails. You know what I mean?

Actually I`m not too sure I know what I mean myself.

Hmm...

I`d reread and edit all that, but frankly it`s a bit daunting.

Uhm...Go Huskies!

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Female 654
i dont understand this.
who confronts the internet with life questions? its just a general question
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Male 134
yahhhhhnnnnnnn ..............
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Male 365
"Always practiced protective sex and she still gets pregnant? Weird. "


Half of all unintended pregnancies are by women who used some form of birth control.
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Male 695
Soo...? Where do we send in questions for this? It really should say somewhere...
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Male 8
1. he das already given her an excuse as "defense mechanism" for potential cheating.
2. next time your girl has the house to herself drop by as a surprise... "Bring flowers" It has been my unfortunate expirience that when a woman crys thay easily it`s because she has no argument.
3. One month pregnant will not turn your girl into emotional goo.
4. Woman are stronger than they want us to know.
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Male 36,394
[quote]genuine, heartfelt advice[/quote]
That sux! And ignores the obvious: GET IT TESTED!
And stuff like that there.
I don`t mind either format; serious or comedy. But PLEASE if you`re trying to be serious GET A CLUE! And if you`re trying to be funny, don`t appear so serious that 3/4 of the `joke` is lost!
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Female 1,593
Hopefully Coincidental - Get a paternity test ASAP!
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Female 133
Regarding the last question and answer. What in the original question gave even the hint that preggo is "burdened"? Is it just because she`s pregnant? If so I call bull, I am so sick of people using pregnancy as an excuse for everything. (Before all you damn rib thieves get on me about "YOU JUST DON`T UNDERSTAND!!! BEING PREGNANT IS HARD!!! RAAAAAAAAAWWWWRRRR!!!" I`ve had three kids so save. it.)
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Male 12,138
vv Hear ya readmyname. I like DearGirl`s column. It`s meant in good stead, and it`s a deviation from the norm of nutshots, treadmill faceplants and photos of generic WTFness. Hey, it all relieves boredom in one form or another, and that`s why people come here. Right? At least, that`s all we`re trying to do...
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Male 18
This column isn`t a drating comedy forum. "More funny"? People said that on the last column, too, and "Dear Girl" is obviously not here to provide a bucket of laughs. She`s trying to provide genuine, heartfelt advice for people, it seems. She`s more Dan Savage than Dane Cook, thank drating god.

Hey britt566, I agree with you, this advice is sound and kind!
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Male 322
i feel sorry for the last one but they need to take it easy with the parenthesis. geez
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Male 36,394
[quote]we need a zero on the scale to rate these[/quote]
I`ve been saying that for ages too! If IAB charged 0.05$ for a vote of ZERO or a vote of TEN (five is just not enough to sway the haters, lolz!) they`d be rich!
Other than that: HopeCoin: GET A PATERNITY TEST! NOW NOW NOW! Do not wait for the marriage/baby to get there, do it NOW! Did I mention you should hurry? How can DeerGirl NOT suggest this? WTF is she pulling a "dear Abby" and giving BAD answers ON PURPOSE? I don`t want to type in so many CAPS! We need italics dammit!
If the baby is yours: well, there you go!
If the baby is a stranger`s: dump that slut ASAP! And never look back!
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Male 12,138
vv Aww, poor Bram was an accident... Only kidding bro, I was too. My dear father always used to refer to me as "the hole in the sock". Which probably explains why I`m such a well ba- ba- ba- ba-lanced individual.
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Male 577
"Always practiced protective sex and she still gets pregnant? Weird. "

Not really. It happens fairly often, that`s how I was conceived.
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Male 418
Maybe HC shouldn`t keep his condoms in his wallet :)
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Female 1,515
I`m always disappointed by these. I wish they were more funny advice (ala the podcast Mbmbam). The seriousness of the responses throws me off and makes me uncomfortable...:s
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Female 2,289
I liked the advice on all of them. :-)
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Male 15,510
I have more fun watching people trolling over this than reading those letters and advices
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Female 525
Always practiced protective sex and she still gets pregnant? Weird.
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Male 12,138
[quote]...I talk to a plethera (cool word, huh?) of pretty, nice women...

Thanks, David[/quote]
Before anyone gets any funny ideas, I want to point out that this is not me. I know how to spell "plethora".
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Male 1,610
David, here`s a tip:

Try not to plan it out, if that is what you are doing. I think you might be building the moment to make a move up in your head. Just start by making subtle compliments, and over time get more and more aggressive with how you flirt with her. Eventually you`ll be in such a situation where you don`t feel quite so anxious, and then is when you just make a move. Even if she doesn`t like you, she`ll respect you for being bold, which is what women want more than anything from a guy.
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Male 37,888
we need a zero on the scale to rate these
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Male 19,842
Link: Dear Girl... Sex & Relationship For The People [Rate Link] - Socially retarded? Fear of intimacy? Cheating pregnant fiancee? These questions answered today. Need help? Send in yours
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