A Guide to Reading Flirting Body Language for Guys

Submitted by: SaintPatty 7 years ago in
http://www.asylum.com/2010/05/27/how-to-read-women-flirting-body-language-signals-how-to-guide/

I-A-B guys, you NEED to read this. I-A-B girls, is this list accurate? We need confirmation NOW!
There are 61 comments:
Female 854
I say those are all BS!
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Male 193
@moefreak - sure but many girls just like to show off their breasts and be the center of attention. And it may nothing to do with their desire to have sex with someone.
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Male 193
This is just retarded. And all wrong. You can`t judge someone from an isolated posture. Also postures` meanings depend on context (i.e. off balance might mean - tired leg; touching neck - might mean tired neck)
Also most if not all people have individual body-language. Also most cultures have different body-language. Also the face is PREEEEETTY important when you are trying to see what the body language means, and cutting it out is just stupid.
If someone wants to understand body-language - he must learn the underlying reasons, isolated postures mean NOTHING by themselves.
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Female 1,963
genericuser, I don`t agree. There is no way I would make my boobs as prominent as that if I didn`t want them to be noticed. That might be just a big boob thing, though. It`s impossible for me to talk to a straight guy without feeling very conscious that they`re noticing my boobs, and as such I either try to sort of conceal them (by crossing my arms or just holding one arm somehow in front of them), or I use them to my advantage (by just standing normally, holding my arm behind my back to push them forward, or squeezing my arms to my side to push them together).

This is making me sound very conniving.
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Female 317
incredibly inaccurate. When you cross your arm behind your back, it`s a version of crossing your arms in front of you. Means you are uncomfortable, definitely not that I want you. Body language is fairly easy: tilted or facing towards you = good, tilted or facing away = bad.
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Female 160
This isn`t at all the way I move.
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Male 5,194
They left out the one where she flips you the bird and walks away.
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Male 571
"i wouldnt follow it...only one could be taken seriously the others are just me standing around or sitting in a chair..no alternate meaning here."

Or so you think. This stuff is supposed to be subconscious. Don`t be such a tease.
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Female 4,376
Not very useful to me honestly. I cross my legs a lot and it has nothing to do with being ready to be obedient. Also if my hand is on my neck it`s because it freaking hurts it`s not some sexual invitation.
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Female 1,682
When I touch my neck and stuff like in the first one, it actually means I am uncomfortable and wish the person would just go away...So yeah. The other ones are just meh.
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Male 2,748
very interesting... but useful? idk...
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Female 654
lol lion
the hostory one is still funny
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Female 654
i wouldnt follow it...only one could be taken seriously the others are just me standing around or sitting in a chair..no alternate meaning here.
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Male 6
I wouldn`t take too much heed in this tripe. If unsure read a body language booklet or else go outside and learn first hand.
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Male 877
heres one...shes rubbing her eyes, slightly tired...indecicive, heading for the door...means;the rohypnol finally kicked in an i got meself a date....yipeeeeeee!
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Male 8,302
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Female 407
when i put my hand on my hip, it means "i want you bad". this is really wrong..
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Male 12
The arrogance on this site is astounding, so I`ll phrase this carefully. I`ve studied body language and consciously observed it for a few years and this seems about 75%(?) reliable. But I am certainly no expert and definitely could be wrong.

Four things to look for from my study and experience:
1) Proximity - Closer = more comfortable
2) Openness - Less physical barriers = more comfortable with you. This could be crossed arms and crossed legs while standing. However while sitting crossed legs can be a good sign or mean nothing
3)Feet and Shoulders - Toes pointed toward you shows interest. Pointed toward the door shows ready to leave. Shoulders squared toward you shows interest.
4) They maintain eye contact while you talk to them shows interest.

Final notes: Use common sense, nothing is conclusive given individual differences. These are general guidelines.

I thought these may be a littler simpler, I hope these help.
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Female 120
I have terrible posture so I stand like the last one often to "improve" that.
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Male 25,416
or just go all out and just ask her to dance!
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Male 2,436
O.o I`m even more confused by women now.
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Male 53
VVV you say it`s because it is comfy, but the only reason it is comfy is because your inner feelings match your body language. though not infallible, exposed wrists work much like exposed necks.
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Female 109
Just because I cross my legs when I`m sitting doesn`t mean I want to stay there for a long period of time. It means that`s the only way I can get comfy.
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Female 1,515
Um yeah...I don`t agree with any of those. Most have a grain of truth, but come on "her feet are still pointed towards you, forgiving your boorish behaviour" ?!?! ugh, this is totally BS.
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Female 1,963
Well there is one thing completely wrong here I think. If I`m partially turned away from someone, that usually means I`m not interested.


I do tend to touch my neck or face when I`m flirting. And it`s true that I`ll push my chest out a little when flirting, while crossing my hands over it when I`m not interested.

The easiest and most obvious way to flirt is to just touch the person, subtly or not so subtly.
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Female 80
I would say don`t read too much into any of those things. What if a girl is shy?
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Female 125
Accurate if you ask me.

"My anthropology teacher told us about the neck thing. Like if she touches her neck, or plays with her hair or necklace, it`s go time."

True too I notice I do this without even knowing I`m doing it.
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Male 236
Every single gesture means a good thing, and every one means something too symbolic for every person to process before they do it. Flirting is more natural than that.
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Male 686
How about we get confirmation befroe i waste my time reading it
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Male 15,510
No need for me to have to read those any more
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Female 318
OMG! I`ve been aggressively flirting w/ everyone all this time??
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Female 89
since when does flirting meaning getting to know one-another?

gross
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Male 14,334
If she sprays you in the face with mace she might not be interested.
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Male 7
Wow. People worry about the stupidest sh*t. Just talk to the girl.
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Male 2,034
My anthropology teacher told us about the neck thing. Like if she touches her neck, or plays with her hair or necklace, it`s go time.

Strangely, that`s the only thing I remember from that class.
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Female 203
Wow...pretty spot on. Though I have to say that part of flirting is learning about THE GIRL and everything about HER, not "just because she`s sitting like this means this..." Old school I guess.
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Male 2,549
"Why would you sit on your foot?"

To let a man know that you`re available for as long he`d like and that you want him but you`re not going to give yourself away without a bit of resistance of course!! ;-)

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Female 4,039
Why would you sit on your foot?
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Female 1,077
man i hate asylum.
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Male 2,549
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Look how far 19 books on the subject got the guy...absolutely bloody NOWHERE!!!
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Female 248
Does anyone find it suspicious that NONE of those poses mean "Get the drat away from me, you freak?"
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Female 133
Not accurate at all. At least not in my case. He is basically saying no matter how we sit or stand, so long as one toe is pointed towards you, we are all just begging to be taken home. Nonsense.
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Female 255
pmarren: As a woman, I think that is probably more of a facial expression/hand gesture combo. lol
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Female 255
For the most part, I find this to be true of myself, especially the last five...they left out the most crucial of signs, though. Probably because it is the most obvious... If she touches your arm, she is totally flirting. Some of them should really be paired with expressions to be accurate.
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Female 1,386
I sit Seiza style most often (at home)...
I...guess that might be sexy somewhere? >_>
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Female 857
As Shirley Valentine said;"Men are full of Sh*t!"
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Female 956
hmmmm.
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Female 1,172
The second one is weird...The "stiff upper body" while talking one. Usually if I`m into someone I lean in or to the side, stiff upper body means I`m uncomfortable. But that`s just me.
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Male 38,429
[quote]Which is a fairly common phrase heard from chicks... Right guys?

...Guys?[/quote]
Lolz, pmarren. I`d like to see the pose that says "don`t bother talking to me unless you got a big fat... bank account!"
I mean a photo of the pose, I see it IRL a lot...
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Male 38,429
MEH! Far from useful.
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Male 2,005
the only one i`ve seen so far is the 2nd, 7th and the 10th pose, and mostly in that order
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Male 784
is this for the deaf people?
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Male 3,842
How come every single one of these translates to "I want you" - this might NOT be such a good message to give to guys.
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Female 1,604
i never notice how I stand,
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Female 728
I think this is overstating. It looks at some stances that someone might assume under non-romantic circumstances. Further, if I assume a more comfortable posture, it doesn`t mean that I want the guy I`m talking to. I could be enjoying the conversation or maybe even feel attraction to the guy, but it doesn`t mean I want him to take me home. This guide might work for a bar, but I think it is overstated for the purposes of other locations.
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Female 9,496
"I don`t pay much attention to my own body language."

Same here.
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Female 1,593
Meh. If I dig someone, I tell him.
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Male 4,594
So what is the stance that says "Get the Fu*k away from me creep or I`ll kick you in the seeds, mace you, then call the cops"?

Which is a fairly common phrase heard from chicks... Right guys?

...Guys?
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Male 203
so any way a woman stands or sits mean they probably want you to give them a good seeing to?
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Female 3,574
I don`t pay much attention to my own body language.
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Male 970
Link: A Guide to Reading Flirting Body Language for Guys [Rate Link] - I-A-B guys, you NEED to read this. I-A-B girls, is this list accurate? We need confirmation NOW!
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