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61 Responses to A Guide to Reading Flirting Body Language for Guys

  1. Profile photo of SaintPatty
    SaintPatty Male 18-29
    970 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 8:34 am
    Link: A Guide to Reading Flirting Body Language for Guys - I-A-B guys, you NEED to read this. I-A-B girls, is this list accurate? We need confirmation NOW!
  2. Profile photo of pui
    pui Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:09 am
    I don`t pay much attention to my own body language.
  3. Profile photo of paddyboom
    paddyboom Male 13-17
    203 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 9:14 am
    so any way a woman stands or sits mean they probably want you to give them a good seeing to?
  4. Profile photo of pmarren
    pmarren Male 40-49
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:16 am
    So what is the stance that says "Get the Fu*k away from me creep or I`ll kick you in the seeds, mace you, then call the cops"?

    Which is a fairly common phrase heard from chicks... Right guys?

    ...Guys?
  5. Profile photo of OmgZelda
    OmgZelda Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:16 am
    Meh. If I dig someone, I tell him.
  6. Profile photo of panth753
    panth753 Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:28 am
    "I don`t pay much attention to my own body language."

    Same here.
  7. Profile photo of green_batman
    green_batman Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:32 am
    I think this is overstating. It looks at some stances that someone might assume under non-romantic circumstances. Further, if I assume a more comfortable posture, it doesn`t mean that I want the guy I`m talking to. I could be enjoying the conversation or maybe even feel attraction to the guy, but it doesn`t mean I want him to take me home. This guide might work for a bar, but I think it is overstated for the purposes of other locations.
  8. Profile photo of CoffeeDiiva
    CoffeeDiiva Female 40-49
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:48 am
    i never notice how I stand,
  9. Profile photo of LandoGriffin
    LandoGriffin Male 30-39
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:49 am
    How come every single one of these translates to "I want you" - this might NOT be such a good message to give to guys.
  10. Profile photo of bored-am-I
    bored-am-I Male 30-39
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:49 am
    is this for the deaf people?
  11. Profile photo of kribbe
    kribbe Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 10:06 am
    the only one i`ve seen so far is the 2nd, 7th and the 10th pose, and mostly in that order
  12. Profile photo of 5Cats
    5Cats Male 50-59
    33070 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 10:26 am
    MEH! Far from useful.
  13. Profile photo of 5Cats
    5Cats Male 50-59
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    May 27, 2010 at 10:28 am
    Which is a fairly common phrase heard from chicks... Right guys?

    ...Guys?
    Lolz, pmarren. I`d like to see the pose that says "don`t bother talking to me unless you got a big fat... bank account!"
    I mean a photo of the pose, I see it IRL a lot...
  14. Profile photo of CmdrBittles
    CmdrBittles Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 10:38 am
    The second one is weird...The "stiff upper body" while talking one. Usually if I`m into someone I lean in or to the side, stiff upper body means I`m uncomfortable. But that`s just me.
  15. Profile photo of KittenCereal
    KittenCereal Female 18-29
    956 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 10:49 am
    hmmmm.
  16. Profile photo of Pandabee
    Pandabee Female 40-49
    857 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 10:51 am
    As Shirley Valentine said;"Men are full of Sh*t!"
  17. Profile photo of Loxen
    Loxen Female 30-39
    1387 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 10:53 am
    I sit Seiza style most often (at home)...
    I...guess that might be sexy somewhere? >_>
  18. Profile photo of CrzyWhtGrl
    CrzyWhtGrl Female 18-29
    255 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 11:20 am
    For the most part, I find this to be true of myself, especially the last five...they left out the most crucial of signs, though. Probably because it is the most obvious... If she touches your arm, she is totally flirting. Some of them should really be paired with expressions to be accurate.
  19. Profile photo of CrzyWhtGrl
    CrzyWhtGrl Female 18-29
    255 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 11:22 am
    pmarren: As a woman, I think that is probably more of a facial expression/hand gesture combo. lol
  20. Profile photo of Hellioness
    Hellioness Female 18-29
    133 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 11:27 am
    Not accurate at all. At least not in my case. He is basically saying no matter how we sit or stand, so long as one toe is pointed towards you, we are all just begging to be taken home. Nonsense.
  21. Profile photo of bmh
    bmh Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 11:28 am
    Does anyone find it suspicious that NONE of those poses mean "Get the drat away from me, you freak?"
  22. Profile photo of Geogypsy
    Geogypsy Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 11:50 am
    BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Look how far 19 books on the subject got the guy...absolutely bloody NOWHERE!!!
  23. Profile photo of Vindictive
    Vindictive Female 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 11:52 am
    man i hate asylum.
  24. Profile photo of Oystah
    Oystah Female 40-49
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    May 27, 2010 at 11:54 am
    Why would you sit on your foot?
  25. Profile photo of Geogypsy
    Geogypsy Female 18-29
    2546 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 12:08 pm
    "Why would you sit on your foot?"

    To let a man know that you`re available for as long he`d like and that you want him but you`re not going to give yourself away without a bit of resistance of course!! ;-)

  26. Profile photo of kiriluv
    kiriluv Female 18-29
    203 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 12:28 pm
    Wow...pretty spot on. Though I have to say that part of flirting is learning about THE GIRL and everything about HER, not "just because she`s sitting like this means this..." Old school I guess.
  27. Profile photo of msieg007
    msieg007 Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 12:29 pm
    My anthropology teacher told us about the neck thing. Like if she touches her neck, or plays with her hair or necklace, it`s go time.

    Strangely, that`s the only thing I remember from that class.
  28. Profile photo of donswald
    donswald Male 18-29
    7 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 12:52 pm
    Wow. People worry about the stupidest sh*t. Just talk to the girl.
  29. Profile photo of McGovern1981
    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    May 27, 2010 at 12:53 pm
    If she sprays you in the face with mace she might not be interested.
  30. Profile photo of paulyshore
    paulyshore Female 18-29
    89 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 1:03 pm
    since when does flirting meaning getting to know one-another?

    gross
  31. Profile photo of odc
    odc Female 18-29
    318 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 2:07 pm
    OMG! I`ve been aggressively flirting w/ everyone all this time??
  32. Profile photo of Angelmassb
    Angelmassb Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 2:09 pm
    No need for me to have to read those any more
  33. Profile photo of puppies04
    puppies04 Male 18-29
    686 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 2:12 pm
    How about we get confirmation befroe i waste my time reading it
  34. Profile photo of CapnAwesome
    CapnAwesome Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 2:24 pm
    Every single gesture means a good thing, and every one means something too symbolic for every person to process before they do it. Flirting is more natural than that.
  35. Profile photo of Ria25
    Ria25 Female 18-29
    125 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 2:30 pm
    Accurate if you ask me.

    "My anthropology teacher told us about the neck thing. Like if she touches her neck, or plays with her hair or necklace, it`s go time."

    True too I notice I do this without even knowing I`m doing it.
  36. Profile photo of CitizenXt99
    CitizenXt99 Female 18-29
    80 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 2:57 pm
    I would say don`t read too much into any of those things. What if a girl is shy?
  37. Profile photo of moefreak
    moefreak Female 18-29
    1963 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 3:56 pm
    Well there is one thing completely wrong here I think. If I`m partially turned away from someone, that usually means I`m not interested.


    I do tend to touch my neck or face when I`m flirting. And it`s true that I`ll push my chest out a little when flirting, while crossing my hands over it when I`m not interested.

    The easiest and most obvious way to flirt is to just touch the person, subtly or not so subtly.
  38. Profile photo of inaria
    inaria Female 18-29
    1515 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:00 pm
    Um yeah...I don`t agree with any of those. Most have a grain of truth, but come on "her feet are still pointed towards you, forgiving your boorish behaviour" ?!?! ugh, this is totally BS.
  39. Profile photo of xxlittleme
    xxlittleme Female 18-29
    109 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:07 pm
    Just because I cross my legs when I`m sitting doesn`t mean I want to stay there for a long period of time. It means that`s the only way I can get comfy.
  40. Profile photo of apolloapk
    apolloapk Male 18-29
    53 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:21 pm
    VVV you say it`s because it is comfy, but the only reason it is comfy is because your inner feelings match your body language. though not infallible, exposed wrists work much like exposed necks.
  41. Profile photo of mykunter
    mykunter Male 40-49
    2424 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:25 pm
    O.o I`m even more confused by women now.
  42. Profile photo of Fatninja01
    Fatninja01 Male 30-39
    25420 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:44 pm
    or just go all out and just ask her to dance!
  43. Profile photo of rawrarrg
    rawrarrg Female 18-29
    120 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 4:47 pm
    I have terrible posture so I stand like the last one often to "improve" that.
  44. Profile photo of Powderdd
    Powderdd Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 5:13 pm
    The arrogance on this site is astounding, so I`ll phrase this carefully. I`ve studied body language and consciously observed it for a few years and this seems about 75%(?) reliable. But I am certainly no expert and definitely could be wrong.

    Four things to look for from my study and experience:
    1) Proximity - Closer = more comfortable
    2) Openness - Less physical barriers = more comfortable with you. This could be crossed arms and crossed legs while standing. However while sitting crossed legs can be a good sign or mean nothing
    3)Feet and Shoulders - Toes pointed toward you shows interest. Pointed toward the door shows ready to leave. Shoulders squared toward you shows interest.
    4) They maintain eye contact while you talk to them shows interest.

    Final notes: Use common sense, nothing is conclusive given individual differences. These are general guidelines.

    I thought these may be a littler simpler, I hope these help.
  45. Profile photo of haveheart
    haveheart Female 18-29
    407 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 5:38 pm
    when i put my hand on my hip, it means "i want you bad". this is really wrong..
  46. Profile photo of Lionhart2
    Lionhart2 Male 40-49
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    May 27, 2010 at 6:11 pm
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    aseirinn Male 70 & Over
    877 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 6:23 pm
    heres one...shes rubbing her eyes, slightly tired...indecicive, heading for the door...means;the rohypnol finally kicked in an i got meself a date....yipeeeeeee!
  48. Profile photo of Fenris_Wolf
    Fenris_Wolf Male 18-29
    6 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 8:24 pm
    I wouldn`t take too much heed in this tripe. If unsure read a body language booklet or else go outside and learn first hand.
  49. Profile photo of rakoonhat
    rakoonhat Female 30-39
    654 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 8:39 pm
    i wouldnt follow it...only one could be taken seriously the others are just me standing around or sitting in a chair..no alternate meaning here.
  50. Profile photo of rakoonhat
    rakoonhat Female 30-39
    654 posts
    May 27, 2010 at 8:44 pm
    lol lion
    the hostory one is still funny
  51. Profile photo of DarkFerret
    DarkFerret Male 18-29
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    May 27, 2010 at 9:28 pm
    very interesting... but useful? idk...
  52. Profile photo of _kiersten_
    _kiersten_ Female 18-29
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    May 28, 2010 at 1:04 am
    When I touch my neck and stuff like in the first one, it actually means I am uncomfortable and wish the person would just go away...So yeah. The other ones are just meh.
  53. Profile photo of GothicQueen
    GothicQueen Male 13-17
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    May 28, 2010 at 2:08 am
    Not very useful to me honestly. I cross my legs a lot and it has nothing to do with being ready to be obedient. Also if my hand is on my neck it`s because it freaking hurts it`s not some sexual invitation.
  54. Profile photo of bridog6996
    bridog6996 Male 18-29
    571 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 9:15 am
    "i wouldnt follow it...only one could be taken seriously the others are just me standing around or sitting in a chair..no alternate meaning here."

    Or so you think. This stuff is supposed to be subconscious. Don`t be such a tease.
  55. Profile photo of duffytoler
    duffytoler Male 40-49
    5195 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 9:17 am
    They left out the one where she flips you the bird and walks away.
  56. Profile photo of Isseepy
    Isseepy Female 18-29
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    May 28, 2010 at 9:41 am
    This isn`t at all the way I move.
  57. Profile photo of genericuser
    genericuser Female 18-29
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    May 28, 2010 at 10:52 am
    incredibly inaccurate. When you cross your arm behind your back, it`s a version of crossing your arms in front of you. Means you are uncomfortable, definitely not that I want you. Body language is fairly easy: tilted or facing towards you = good, tilted or facing away = bad.
  58. Profile photo of moefreak
    moefreak Female 18-29
    1963 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 11:18 am
    genericuser, I don`t agree. There is no way I would make my boobs as prominent as that if I didn`t want them to be noticed. That might be just a big boob thing, though. It`s impossible for me to talk to a straight guy without feeling very conscious that they`re noticing my boobs, and as such I either try to sort of conceal them (by crossing my arms or just holding one arm somehow in front of them), or I use them to my advantage (by just standing normally, holding my arm behind my back to push them forward, or squeezing my arms to my side to push them together).

    This is making me sound very conniving.
  59. Profile photo of KucheKlizma
    KucheKlizma Male 18-29
    193 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 3:05 pm
    This is just retarded. And all wrong. You can`t judge someone from an isolated posture. Also postures` meanings depend on context (i.e. off balance might mean - tired leg; touching neck - might mean tired neck)
    Also most if not all people have individual body-language. Also most cultures have different body-language. Also the face is PREEEEETTY important when you are trying to see what the body language means, and cutting it out is just stupid.
    If someone wants to understand body-language - he must learn the underlying reasons, isolated postures mean NOTHING by themselves.
  60. Profile photo of KucheKlizma
    KucheKlizma Male 18-29
    193 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 3:09 pm
    @moefreak - sure but many girls just like to show off their breasts and be the center of attention. And it may nothing to do with their desire to have sex with someone.
  61. Profile photo of CHICOMIMI
    CHICOMIMI Female 18-29
    854 posts
    May 28, 2010 at 4:57 pm
    I say those are all BS!

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