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117 Responses to Kid Forgets Lunch At Home, Mom Teaches Him Lesson

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    wildhunt Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:06 am
    Link: Kid Forgets Lunch At Home, Mom Teaches Him Lesson - Well, she would have if this Florida elementary school didn`t think her lesson was cruel. I-A-B, mom? Right or wrong?
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    SephirothA83 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:14 am
    at least the parent was trying to teach the child some responsibility, around here the hoochies train their kids to be little gangbangers and its ok to hit kids if they deserve it.
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    SephirothA83 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:14 am
    goddamn mexicans
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    jadedtortois Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:16 am
    When I was in Elementary school I rarely brought lunches (didn`t eat lunch much) My school never gave a poo. :/
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    K3vin Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:21 am
    well that`s typical... Disregard the parents wishes to teach the kid something meaningful. Instead, do the opposite and then tell the kid that their parent is wrong. I don`t care if you don`t agree with the method but this woman obviously cares about teaching her kids values.
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    KannaLilly Female 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:22 am
    MEH.
    Way to post stuff that just dosen`t matter, IAB.
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    Morrigann Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:26 am
    Obsessive mom is obsessive. I would be more concerned for the kid living on such a rigid schedule. That`s a mental disorder waiting to happen
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    cobrakiller Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:40 am
    the best lesson would be to take the videogame away that distracted him. not giving him lunch isnt a very good lesson.
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    tenty Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:40 am
    A punishment for forgetting his own food? That`s just petty...
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    McGovern1981 Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:46 am
    So I guess the mother never forgets anything. She sound like a control freak.
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    edana42 Female 50-59
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:46 am
    OMG like she NEVER forgot anything in her pathetic life. BEOTCH
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    a1butcher Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:50 am
    Morrigann " I would be more concerned for the kid living on such a rigid schedule. That`s a mental disorder waiting to happen "

    Doing chores and having some responsiblity is a mental disorder waiting to happen???
    Give me a break.
    Parents a WAY to soft on children lately

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    LtFurpie Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:50 am
    "I don`t expect them to agree with me, but I expect them to support my decision," she said.

    I whole heartedly agree! No one should be upset that the kind teachers gave the kid a free lunch. All in all, it`s not a big deal, but I agree with the mom.

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    HAHAyousuk Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:56 am
    I think it was great that mom was trying to teach values and whatnot. I also think that it`s great that the teacher fed the kid. Not because it would improve his scholastic achievement for that day, but just because she`s a teacher. While her job is one of the most thankless, and I`m sure she doesn`t make nearly enough money for the crap she puts up with (both from kids and parents). Her job doesn`t include being the one to mildly torture small kids who (SURPRISE) forgot to do something that morning.
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    keith2 Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:56 am
    I`m all for teaching kids responsibility, but that isn`t the way to do it. Thats showing the kid how one grows up to be an anal douche.
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    Saragato Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:58 am
    "MEH.
    Way to post stuff that just dosen`t matter, IAB."

    I love irony.

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    IkeRay Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 10:59 am
    "dropping him at the bus stop."

    firstly, where is this bus stop that a 4th grader can`t walk to it himself? secondly, how lazy is the mom that she can`t assemble lunches for her kids, she obviously doesn`t work if she sees the kids off in the morning, and is at home when they get home at 2:30pm. finally, how lazy is she that she couldn`t have thrown the lunch together, brought it to him at the bus stop (assuming the bus hasn`t come yet) and bring it to him...she could holler at him at home.

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    lucu Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:04 am
    "firstly, where is this bus stop that a 4th grader can`t walk to it himself?"
    I went to school in Florida. The bus stop just has to be a mile or two away from your house. I had to walk 2 miles to and from my bus stop. Appreciate life.
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    wordmcsee Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:06 am
    As a childcare provider in Washington State, I know I have to call Child Protective Services if a parent admits to withholding food as means for corrective discipline...
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    ggolbez Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:11 am
    1) Why is this news?
    2) Why is this on IAB?
    3) The mother is a bitch.
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    MrTwidget Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:16 am
    Boring. Mildly irritating.
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    garbug Male 50-59
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:18 am
    Most of the replies here are from "18-29"year olds so they probably don`t have school age children of their own.One of the first and most important things taught to a child is consequences for actions.The mother did the right thing as a parent and the school usurped her authority as a parent.If the child forgets to study for a test,then should the parent be allowed to supply the test answers? A parents prime responsibility is to TEACH a child the answers to life,not provide them.
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    duffytoler Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:22 am
    A lot of them are more into being punishment and control freaks than parents.
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    The_Garuness Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:26 am
    For once, im on the schools side.
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    The_Garuness Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:27 am
    mabe be grounded for a few days or something but ffs dont starve him
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    CinematicD Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:27 am
    Well, i think she might have overreacted.

    If this was the first time it happened, it shouldn`t have been such a big deal.

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    The_Garuness Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:28 am
    maybe*
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:29 am
    pshh. Garbug, I may be in the category you`re referring too, but I`m an educated person. I have also been a live in assistant to a foster parent and know quite a bit about discipline and curbing deviant behaviour. I stand by what I said, If a kid forgets his lunch once, it would be more important to teach forgiveness, and impress the importance of helping someone out rather than punish him for something everyone does occasionally. If it were a recurrent problem with him, then you might consider taking action, but seeing as this seems to be an isolated incident I think the mom is over the top. Since when are parents always right about how they raise their kids anyway? I`ve never met a perfect parent.
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    APJ311 Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:31 am
    I`ve missed lunch the past couple of days to catch up on coursework. It didn`t kill me. It`s probably not the best method of discipline but unless it happens everyday it won`t do much harm, especially if he`ll get fed an hour or two later. But I suppose that the rules stop you not feeding kids lunch.
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    ScottSerious Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:38 am
    i forgot, she was born an adult and never forgot to do anything! unlike your stupid son, who`s stupid and in fourth grade. stupid 9 year-olds, they never remember to do every single thing that is planned out for them for the next month.
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    Mantistador Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:39 am
    i dont know about you guys, but the last thing that was on my mind after eating at school was learning, its more like time to power nap...
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    dukorider1 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:46 am
    -->spoiled only child, never had to prepare lunch until i was like 16 :) <--
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    jinxiejae Female 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:48 am
    actually the school was looking out for themselves. even with the mothers permission some one could`ve complained and the school would`ve gotten into trouble.
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    tozfttoz Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 11:49 am
    i hate those stupid children services bull$hit cuz they always think they care more than parents. these faggots just interfere way too much with family matters. i mean who the f-ck are you to tell me how to raise my child
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    TxP Female 70 & Over
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:11 pm

    dukorider1
    Male, 13-17, Europe
    122 Posts Wednesday, February 24, 2010 11:46:17 AM
    -->spoiled only child, never had to prepare lunch until i was like 16 :) <--

    hell yeah! :D

  36. Profile photo of CrakrJak
    CrakrJak Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:21 pm
    Ok, Here goes. Yes, It`s her responsibility to teach her child responsibility. However, That does not include not feeding her kid as punishment.

    As anyone that`s been here awhile knows, I`m a conservative. So, I`m all for parental responsibility and teaching their kids. But, Withholding meals as punishment isn`t right period.

    Extra chores that day or withholding any afternoon snacks or desert (Which are not meals) at home would`ve been sufficient. Also, expecting a school to follow your rules when it violates their rules is parental stupidity.

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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:26 pm
    for once I kinda agree with cracka
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    Peveo4589 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:28 pm
    On one hand would a day without eating really be that harmful/wrong in the long run? it is definitely harsh parenting but I don`t know that it is wrong (provided The boy ate before school and was going to eat at 2:30). On the other hand A school does not know what really goes on with students after they leave so I feel that they have a obligation to help students with these sorts of things especially at a younger age.
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    Peveo4589 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:30 pm
    Ggolbez, I agree with #3.
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    britt566 Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:32 pm
    Okay if a kid FORGETS to do something, he FORGOT. It doesn`t mean he did it on purpose. Punishment for forgetting is wrong. Everybody forgets. Adults forget just as much as any child. With holding ANYTHING for simply forgetting to do something ONE time, is freaking retarded. Yes... retarded.
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    britt566 Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 12:37 pm
    If the kid knew what he was doing was wrong, and did it anyway, well then you have a good reason to do what you feel the right punishment is. BUT he didn`t know what he was doing was wrong because he FORGOT.. which means it completely skipped his mind. Humans are not perfect. Things like this happen.

    I HATE PEOPLE

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    howlingwolf Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:02 pm
    Wow...leave it to a mom to teach her kid the rule, "Tough nuggets, chump".
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    daisy822 Female 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:04 pm
    i actually agree witih the mom. i was expecting much worse.
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    Fatninja01 Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:08 pm
    Its 2 perspectives, yes they could have respected the mothers choice and yes they could have fed him, Personally if its a routine that was being utilixed constantly and one day he forgot it, i dont think the mum should have been a dick about it and said to not feed him! I think the mother was doing the wrong, more than the school or the boy
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    ElDavo Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:12 pm
    I don`t even have an opinion on this one. The mom was probably being a bitch, but the school should respect her parenting decisions. I don`t know, whatever.
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    StarDagger Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:18 pm
    Parenting should be a process of helping the child develop, and increasingly making their own decision, not a way for people to indoctrinate others in their own belief systems.
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    bmg09 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:21 pm
    isn`t learning to adapt to changing conditions a good lesson to learn too? i mean what happens when the kids realizes that the world outside his mom`s isn`t planned ahead for him months in advance. I understand the mom`s intentions, but i don`t believe that they are good for her son in the magnitude she serves it.
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    SarahofBorg Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:29 pm
    You simply can`t expect a school to not allow a kid to eat lunch any more than you can expect them to allow the kid to not wear clothing. It`s a basic right that the school enforces. It`s simply more important for a kid to eat right than it is for him to learn about not forgetting their lunch.
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    Javien Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:32 pm
    Um....this is something that SHOULDN`T be punished for imho, if ANYTHING she should of told the people at the school tell to him that his mother said not to forget his lunch.

    Yea, being organized can be helpful, and make things go quicker. But kids forget. That`s just how it is. All kids get distracted by something and can easily forget.

    Also, the mother has zero right to force the school to withhold a lunch from him. They`re required to provide a lunch for a reason.

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    GlooStikk Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:37 pm
    this was dumb. on everyone`s part
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    madest Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 1:56 pm
    Yeah well mom they don`t support your abusive child rearing habits. Poor kid is stuck living in your obsessive compulsive household until he 18. Don`t expect the the school to bow to your needs sweetie because it turns out you`re crazy.
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    Sassi826 Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:07 pm
    I went to school, elementary through high, in Florida. They have a free and reduced lunch program so EVERYONE can have lunch. If someone forgot theirs they were still given, at least; a sandwich, fruit and milk. Actually they usually just gave them a normal school lunch for free for the day.
    The school would not deprive the kid of lunch, especially in elementary school.
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    Crawdaddy197 Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:08 pm
    Well concidering what schools feed kids these days the 2:30 meal he would have received when he got home would have been much healthier.
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    _kiersten_ Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:17 pm
    Jeez. Thats a bit extreme...Oh no, my young child was forgetful O: since when are children forgetful! Some people should just not have kids...
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    piiink1 Female 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:17 pm
    that mother is a crazy bitch, my mom just asks me what I want to eat and if I dont answer I dont get food and just make myself a sandwich, same for lunch
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    skypirate Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:22 pm
    no lunch? welcome to my life!
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    lockedup Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:31 pm
    OMG, so he misses one meal in his life, big deal! And he only would have missed it for 3 hours or so. Missing one meal is not abuse. Now, if mom were withholding food for long periods of time on a regular basis, then I`d be concerned. But, the way I see it, she just wanted to show a little tough love. Kids don`t get enough of that nowadays.

    What`s he going to do when he forgets his lunch on the job? Is his boss going to feel sorry for him and give him lunch? Not likely.

    My sister regularly holds off dinner until 8 or 9:00 until the kids (younger than the boy in the story) get their room clean. Their room gets really messy. We even found broken glass in there buried under toys and clothes. They wait a few hours longer for dinner but they get their chores done.

    BTW, it`s scary that schools have so many rights over our children. We basically hand them over to state custody for 7 hours a day and we have almost no say as to what happens to them. This is one reason I will b

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    Some-Guy Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:32 pm
    Abusive hardly common now we wonder why our children are growing up to be lazy useless priced freaks, its because of society`s over babying. I am with the mom 100% and if I had that kind of reaction from the school I would send my child without lunch all the time. Would even go as far as getting other parents to ask for lunch to be supplied to their children.
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    LemonTarte Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:37 pm
    I still don`t have to prepare my lunch...I`m 17.

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    SomeShoes Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:44 pm
    so what? no lunch. who cares. i only have two pairs of jeans that i wear every day (cleaned every day i may add). really, i don`t think the mom had it wrong, but i do think it`s being over blown
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    The_Frogg Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 2:45 pm
    Jesus thats not that bad.

    And if that were true, how comei can`t charge for lunch wheni dont have money? :(

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    Venis Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 3:06 pm
    I hope you all read the follow up from the mother where she states that her son the year prior THREW OUT his lunch EVERY DAY for six months and did not eat.

    "Punishment and discipline are very different from natural consequence. Have you ever driven to the grocery store to realize you had forgotten your wallet and had to drive home and back to the store? Or have you forgotten your wallet and thought all the other patrons and employees should chip in to pay for your cheese and onions? I bet you only forget your wallet a few times in life. I was NOT disciplining nor punishing him when I emailed the school to DO NOTHING. My son did nothing wrong. He forgot. He forgot to put four containers in his lunch box and put the lunch box in his backpack. He thought he was done with his responsibilities that morning and went on to his FREE TIME for which he played his video game for five minutes before we left for the bus stop. In my thoughts about the decision I made, I considered that my

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    Venis Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 3:08 pm
    Rest of quote from mom:

    "In my thoughts about the decision I made, I considered that my son had gone almost six MONTHS without lunch last school year when he was throwing it out! He had a full healthy breakfast and food awaiting him when he returned. Using situations such as this as a teachable moment is not only good parenting but necessary to train children for becoming responsible adults. I DID NOT INTENTIONALLY SEND MY SON TO SCHOOL WITHOUT LUNCH! I thought the lunch was packed and on its way to Seawind and saw it only after he had gone. It was his responsibility to pack his lunch as it has been and will continue to be ---not too much to ask from a fourth grader. I reminded him twice. How much do I do?? How do you teach responsibility at your house? "

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    kiriluv Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 3:13 pm
    Wow...honestly I`m totally on the school`s side with this one...
    "It taught him how people don`t tell the truth sometimes..." BULL$H!7 lady!!!! Not once in that entire situation did ANYONE lie. You fail as a mom. I would have driven to my child`s school and handed them their lunch myself.
  65. Profile photo of bumbleBB
    bumbleBB Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 3:38 pm
    " I was NOT disciplining nor punishing him when I emailed the school to DO NOTHING. My son did nothing wrong. "

    For all of her justification, this is an odd choice. So she told them not to feed him because...? Not to mention, the throwing the lunch out thing was another issue apparently.

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    lockedup Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 3:45 pm
    Where`s the follow-up story?
  67. Profile photo of alice_x
    alice_x Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 4:00 pm
    I think it`s fine to punish a child by not feeding them if they are refusing to eat what they are given, i don`t think its ok to punish them for being forgetful, thats just cruel, and everyone foregets things sometimes he shouldnt be punished for it :(
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    madest Male 40-49
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    February 24, 2010 at 4:07 pm
    BTW, it`s scary that schools have so many rights over our children. We basically hand them over to state custody for 7 hours a day and we have almost no say as to what happens to them.
    ----------------
    It`s scary that crazy parents brainwash their craziness into their children. Please do homeschool your kid. I`m certain they`ll grow up to be well adjusted loners with a history of spelling bee losses.
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    southernboy Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 4:30 pm
    Starving your own child? That`s the problem with these [email protected] neatfreaks in America, one thing`s outta place, and they go ape$h!t on the punsihment with their child
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    ElSombrero Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 4:43 pm
    Control Freak.

    It`s not that big of a deal woman. Your child got lunch for pete sakes! Just lunch.

    Principle or not... if she`s going to the -news- with this... she`s just overboard.

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    BigWaFuu Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 5:20 pm
    I agree with the woman. It`s not like the school didn`t know about the mother`s wishes. If they hadn`t, it`s understandable. A kid is hungry and they decide to feed him. But they went against the parenting practices and teachings of this mother.

    Shes rightfully upset. If anyone bothered to read the damn article, she was going to feed the boy as soon as he got home and he was fed a healthy breakfast before school.

    I never got breakfast when I was growing up and sometimes I didn`t eat lunch just because I didnt feel like it. (Did well in school despite the statistics)

    So this kid, having a breakfast, I think, could have drating survived a lunch period with no food. Not like one of his damn lil friends wouldnt have given him anything.

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    simim23 Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 5:21 pm
    "Starving your own child? That`s the problem with these [email protected] neatfreaks in America, one thing`s outta place, and they go ape$h!t on the punsihment with their child"

    She`s not "starving" him.

    He ate a big breakfast, probably went to school around 7 or 8, and got out at 2:30.

    That`s 6-7 hours. So he had to wait an hour or two extra to get lunch. Whoopty-doo.

    It`s not starving the kid at all.

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    RdDan Male 30-39
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    February 24, 2010 at 5:22 pm
    There was a young child of 9,
    who forgot his lunch one time,
    so his school gave him food
    (which put his mum in a mood)
    I think he should call Childline

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    Qtee_mo Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 5:45 pm
    fudgec that stupid perra she should`nt have kids if she doesnt know how to take care of them properly.
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    WHOISIT12345 Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 5:48 pm
    what a go-hard..
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    Kadinsky Male 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 6:00 pm
    BigWaFuu: Are you serious? How in god`s name is it fair to deprive your own god damn child of food, which is a basic right to ALL human beings; just to teach him a lesson? He`s a kid for crying out loud! I`ve done worse things when I was his age and still do now; that doesn`t mean my parents have to starve me to keep me in check.

    Seriously, in my opinion, people who have those kind of ideas should be institutionalized.

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    punkipenguin Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 6:25 pm
    if it didn`t show the names and state where this happened, i`d swear it was my uncle`s wife. at my age i still forget to take lunch to work occasionally. not very often, but that`s not the point. the kid is 9 or 10 years old, she should still be making his lunch and making sure he takes it with him. the dumb bitch didn`t check? it`s one thing to teach responsibility, it`s another to expect your CHILD to behave like an adult and pull off adult tasks. if you had your kid at home with you, didn`t feed it all day and someone reported it, you`d be in a lot of poo. this is no different. you don`t make anyone go hungry, especially a child. that bitch needs a smack in the teeth. this sounds like something my uncle`s fat wife would do. her kids are skin and bones, not allowed any candy, chips, soda, she goes ape poo if anyone sneaks them one drating cookie, yet she weighs well over 250 lbs. i wonder if his mom is a huge cow too...
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    SurfBabe900 Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 6:33 pm
    Poor kid has to live with a psycho mom.
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    Retrokid Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 6:59 pm
    Still doesn`t explain why he was punished. Seriously WTF?
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    skipidydooda Male 13-17
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    February 24, 2010 at 7:10 pm
    wutta bitch
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    Eraina Female 18-29
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    February 24, 2010 at 7:35 pm
    My immediate thought was in fact that she`d just not given him lunch, but the way some people here were carrying on, I thought she`d done something far worse before I read the story. Not giving a kid lunch for a day is not starving them. Ever hear of the classic "being sent to bed without any supper?" That happened to me a couple of times, and it neither starved me nor made me unable to learn. Going seven hours without food isn`t going to harm a kid of that age.

    The consequences sound very logical to me. As long as this isn`t a regular occurrence, I think it`s fine.

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    Andiex Female 13-17
    82 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 7:45 pm
    I seriously don`t think that the school should have done that. Yes, the Mom might have been kind of... pshyco, but we need more RESPONSIBLE people in this world. He ate breakfast, and will eat again at 2:30, get over it.
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    rdco49 Female 18-29
    101 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 8:08 pm
    She was by no means "starving" him by not letting him eat lunch. Especially considering she was going to feed him when he got home. However, I still don`t agree with what she did at all. I see some of you are saying, "it`s about time parents start teaching their children values/responsibility"... Since when does having a flawless memory fall under the category of high values or responsible living? forgetfulness is simply forgetfulness. Not to mention, if this happens to be an on going problem with this kid.. deal with it when he gets home. Don`t bring the school into it, not over petty shtuff like this. They have their own responsibilities to take care of.
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    Wassup287 Male 13-17
    45 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 8:12 pm
    This isn`t even an interesting story, the mom isn`t even close to being a psycho or a bitch. IAB has been reduced to boring 6 oclock small town local news stories?
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    Nif Female 18-29
    86 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 8:38 pm
    Well, I`m willing to bet that if SHE forgot HER lunch one day, she would go out and buy something. I know that when I`m at work, I need lunch.
    Kids are busy and active (yes, even at school) and need food and drinks every few hours.
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    PhantomX9 Male 13-17
    78 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 10:14 pm
    OMFG SOME KID DIDINT EAT LUNCH!?!? OMG THIS IS BREAKING NEWS! WHY THE HELL WASINT THIS ON ALL THE NEWS NETWORKS? THIS SHOULD BE WORLD NEWS!
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    SwyvedLegacy Female 18-29
    160 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 10:25 pm
    Makes sense to me. You get really hungry for a day, you`ll remember to bring your lunch. Sure the kid would be uncomfortable, but he wouldn`t starve. And they made it sound like missing lunch one day would cause the kid to fail school, not get into college and end up washing windows for change. People overreact way too much!
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    TCullen23 Female 18-29
    330 posts
    February 24, 2010 at 10:58 pm
    i agree with the mom, kid needs to learn to bring his lunch, or he doesn`t eat. Thats how i was raised, and i turned out just fine.
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    VikingGuy Male 18-29
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    February 25, 2010 at 2:42 am
    everyone can forget something and in this case it was harmless, punishment for something small and harmless like that plus scheduling every little event in their lives borders on neurotic or insane.
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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 3:31 am
    Its no wonder children are as badly behaved and ill disciplined as they are these days, reading through some of these comments I fear for the future kids of people like `Poor kid has to live with a psycho mom` or `fudgec that stupid perra she should`nt have kids if she doesnt know how to take care of them properly`.
    Its idiotic thinking like that that takes away any control a parent has over unruly children and then blames them when their children descend into criminal behaviour.
    The mother was quite rightly instilling some values in the child, he was clearly not neglected nor starved nor abused and she is clearly a caring parent.
    Most children thrive in a disciplined and ordered environment as long as they are loved and cared for at the same time.
    People need to put this in perspective and stop being so hysterical the child wasnt starved for a day it would have missed 1 lunch and would have learned a valuable lesson that might just one day keep it or someone else safe.
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    seeks_love Female 18-29
    428 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 5:52 am
    If I ever forgot my lunch my mom or grandma would either bring me something or the school would provide a lunch. Forgetting your lunch doesn`t strike me as something that you need to be punished for. And she did go out of her way to try and punish him. Why else would she call the school and tell them what was going on, then request that they make sure he didn`t eat? They may have never known and he would have gone without, anyway.
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    Evological Male 18-29
    11 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 6:49 am
    this is news?
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    K3vin Male 18-29
    487 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 7:45 am
    oh wow. How many of you that think this woman is a bitch/psycho actually have kids? I`m going to wager a guess that near none of you do. Please keep it that way.

    You either didn`t bother or don`t care that the mother continued on to say that earlier her son would throw out his lunches and not eat..This was not new to him. Him not having a lunch wasn`t a punitive measure, it was a lesson... If you don`t bring a lunch, you don`t have anything to eat. That`s what we call being responsible for yourself.

    Those saying that "when i forget my lunch at work i go out and buy one". What would you do if your boss said you`re not allowed to leave? Before you say that`s stupid, realize that there`s plenty of people that aren`t allowed to leave the job-site and i`m one of them. If i forget my lunch it`s too bad, my wife doesn`t make and pack it for me.

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    panth753 Female 18-29
    9237 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 7:48 am
    I was (and still am) prone to forgetting almost anything and everything. In school, it was either the money or the lunchbox (believe me when I say my mom spent a lot of money buying new lunchboxes.). Yes, my mom would be mad, but not that mad.
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    cman7721 Male 18-29
    618 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 9:23 am
    i agree with mom
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    Hansbo Male 18-29
    901 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 9:58 am
    Aw come on, of course the mother wasn`t a psych case and of course the school has every right to give a free lunch to a child. Why is this even an issue? If you want to raise your child you can do it at home (or ask the school and accept a refusal). Where I`m from we get free lunch in school. That is nice!
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 10:36 am
    Those saying that "when i forget my lunch at work i go out and buy one". What would you do if your boss said you`re not allowed to leave? Before you say that`s stupid, realize that there`s plenty of people that aren`t allowed to leave the job-site and i`m one of them. If i forget my lunch it`s too bad, my wife doesn`t make and pack it for me.

    First you chose whatever profession you have that has this rule. Most people have jobs with designated breaks where they are allowed to leave.

    Second, you are an adult. You are responsible for your own life. as a 4th grader, the mother is responsible for him.

    Thirdly, again, you are an adult. You are not growing anymore this child is. The school would have no way to verify that just because this woman said she would feed him that she actually would.

    Fourth, she`s not a psycho because she is a control freak, with difficulty understanding what an important lesson is when dealing with defiance, and that positive reinforcement wor

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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 10:39 am
    positive reinforcement works better and has better long terms success than punishment. No, she is a psycho because she thought the school, who cared enough to ensure her child had the one meal they are required to ensure he receives, had violated her rights so much that she had to approach the news about it.
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    DJDoubleb Male 30-39
    382 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 11:30 am
    Yaa to the Mom wanting to teach life lessons to her son.

    Booo to the Mom for her methods.Withhold a video game, fun activity, or make him pack the lunches for all four kids the next day, but feed him.

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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 12:33 pm
    She did feed him he had breakfast and he was having food when he got back from school.
    Why would she make him suffer some sort of unrelated punishment when she was trying to teach him the value of cause and effect!? taking something away from him completely unrelated would teach him nothing.
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 12:41 pm
    Punishment usually doesn`t work in the long run. This is especially true when the behaviour being corrected is unintentional as in forgetting. The extremes of the lesson aren`t really the issue here. It`s the extremes of the attitudes and lack of understanding. Was the school wrong. No. Was the child in danger, probably not, but like I said, the school has no way to confirm that he would have been fed.

    Let`s suppose for a minute that this mother is lieing (for arguments sake). Let`s say she is really punishing the kid for wetting his bed. She decided that he shouldn`t eat for an entire day. She calls the school and makes a story about forgetting his lunch and teaching responsibility, because the school would never agree to starve a child for a whole day, but might withhold a lunch. So later on a child abuse investigation comes up and it`s discovered that this woman regularly starves her child as punishment, and the school is implicated as an accessory to abuse. totally possible.

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    Oystah Female 40-49
    4032 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 12:52 pm
    Stupid mom with her stupid control freak lunch rules. WTF?
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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 1:15 pm
    `Was the mum wrong` hell no, clearly cares about her child enough to try to instill values and principles more parents should take note!
    `Was the school wrong` yes they were, according to the information provided by the mother for which we have no reason to doubt the child was ditching lunches for a long period of time 6 months I believe the previous year where the hell was this caring school then!? they clearly dont sit the kids down and watch them like hawks so how can they tell if all the kids are getting lunch!?
    The mother was quite clearly trying to teach the child a lesson and the very least she should be able to expect is for the school to support her care it clearly wasnt an abuse and just so people are aware abusers dont tend to e-mail school to tell the school not to feed their child for one lunchtime and anyone that thinks that has absolutely no idea about neglect and abuse.
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 1:41 pm
    McDuff Shut the hell up already. No idea about abuse and neglect and the incredible things some parents do to their kids!?!?! Talk to me after you have looked after kids who have been through the foster system. Talk to me after your employed in an environment that sees the worst of manipulators and abusers. I`ve heard of parents doing all sorts of bizarre things. Not all abusers are lazy and stupid. Those are the least threatening. The smart, attention seeking, motivated, hateful abusers are the really scary ones. SHUT UP!!! you clearly don`t understand liability and should go have a ho-down with this mom all over the 6 o`clock news while the rest of us laugh at your ignorance.
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    malinschen Female 18-29
    444 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:06 pm
    The boy would have been hungry for a few hours, one single day. He woulnt have starved, theres no harm to his health....

    Of course you should provide your kids food, but she is. She`d planned to give him food when he came home. There`s no reason for getting upset over this.

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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:13 pm
    The reason to get upset is when you start accusing the school of doing something wrong. Every child welfare organization in Canada, the US, and the UK agree that withholding basic needs is not an effective form of teaching. Denying that child abusers can be cunning and do surprising things is something to be upset over, because it contributes to ignorance that let`s kids slip through the cracks. You`re right this is a silly issue in this case, but this mother is wrong, and anyone arguing that school did something wrong is too. Whatever, I can`t teach stupid and certainly can`t do it over the internet so Mcduff can sit on his throne.
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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:14 pm
    Actually I have been a senior residential care worker for the last 12 years working with children in the care system that have been exposed to the worst abuses or neglect so try again Bumbler.
    The Liability of the school has no bearing on how a parent raises their child except that the ambulance chasing lawyers have made it near impossible to be a proper parent because external carers are more concerned with being sued than caring for and raising a child.
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:20 pm
    Like I said, withholding basic needs is not an effective form of teaching, so she was wrong from the get go. Liability has everything to do with it. This in no way shows that the school is more concerned with not being sued. If it`s ineffective to withhold a meal, illegal to do so extensively, and the school has no way to verify the extent, then they did everything right.
    As a senior residential care worker you must live in paradise, because I have seen some incredibily dumbfounding and horrifying behaviours from abusers both in assisting my sister with foster care, and working in hospitals. Beyond my own experiences I`ve heard even more shocking and incredible thing from my dad and grandparents in their police work. The worst thing is that these people aren`t as rare as you seem to believe. Surely there are good parents who get hurt by the suspicion, but I would gladly hurt the occasional parents feelings for the greater good of many children.
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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:53 pm
    All you need to know about my work is that I work with the most damaged children in the care system in the UK and have done so for more than a decade thats all I need to say we dont need to discuss further my `qualifications` to be able to discuss this matter.
    Next the mother did not withold food from the child the child forgot his lunch and the mum decided to use that as is common and an effective tool to teach the child a valuable lesson he wasnt starved or neglected. I might add as far as I know in my reading of the childrens act over here its not illegal to withold a meal, neglect or abuse is defined as `actions by a person leading to serious harm of a child` including not giving enough food which is subjective, the kid had had breakfast and would have been fed on return from school there is no reason so far to doubt that.
    So nothing the mother has done has been illegal or wrong so far....
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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 2:58 pm
    The fact the kid ditched his lunches for 6 months the previous year I assume without the school knowing or taking action then getting all het up when the mum asks for support for her attempt to teach the child values is clearly an indication that they dont really give a flying monkeys chunkeys about the kid and are indeed ONLY worried about being sued.
    That said I dont think it was the best idea in the world to rely on the school to assist in this and it certainly want a good idea to go to the press about it either.
    Believe me I know abusers arent rare I`ve had to be nice to the bastards for the sake of the child in my care when all I wanted to do was inflict violence on them.
    And no its not acceptable that innocents get caught up in a general trolling each case should be individually assessed on its own merits.
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    dragonshadoz Female 18-29
    4031 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 3:02 pm
    F-cking Florida...
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    SherbertFizz Female 18-29
    277 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 3:24 pm
    I don`t see what the big deal is, the child was NOT going to starve, he had a good breakfast and would be eating as soon as he got home from school. This is what`s wrong with kids today, their parents can`t say boo, then when the kid is all grown up and has no respect, everyone blames the parents. For the record I`m 17 so I`m hardly old and for the `older` ways of `teaching` a child. But learning from people my age, being soft with your kid is getting you no where and in the long run you are doing WAAYYYY more damage!
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    dontcare91 Male 13-17
    65 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 4:37 pm
    Kid deserves that. That happens to me sometimes so its not a big deal. People are too defensive over problems that aren`t there`s.
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    bumbleBB Female 18-29
    1113 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 4:41 pm
    Sherbertfizz, I have to agree that this generations parents are far to easy on them , but more in the "you`re so perfect, you are so great, you really don`t have to try at anything" sort of way. That`s why our lazy spoiled asses are having jobs snatched out from under us by foreign workers. However, most people are missing my point. It was not that this particular child was in danger, but rather that the school acted responsibly. The mother is nut.

    Mcduff, I`m sorry for the rude things I said earlier. I don`t think you`re uneducated or naive, we just have a difference of opinion about the logistics of this situation. I respect that you do tough work, and that you have to be nice to these awful people. Luckily for most people they don`t see what we do everyday.

    So again I apologize.

    OH, and Sherbertfizz, your arguments are hereby negated by your lying. 18-29....tsk tsk. The youth these days.

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    NanGoneBanan Female 18-29
    130 posts
    February 25, 2010 at 8:51 pm
    I think Nikki in the comments section said it perfectly.

    "This mother clearly has an issue with control. Her son made a mistake. Withholding food as punishment is abuse. I absolutely do not agree with her at all. I believe it is the schools responsibility to take care of a child while they are in school. I also think, if she wants to control her child as much as this she best pull him out of public school. Can you imagine how he felt? He is in 4th grade? How can a 4th grader be expected to be perfect all of the time? How can anyone be expected to be perfect all of the time? Why not praise him for the other 256 days he REMEMBERED his lunch as opposed to punishing him for the 1 day he forgot"

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    McDuff73 Male 30-39
    870 posts
    February 27, 2010 at 3:30 pm
    Hey bumbleBB thanks for the apology yes we clearly differ on some aspects of what constitutes care.
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    alchemist18 Female 13-17
    356 posts
    March 2, 2010 at 3:44 pm
    stupid mom. She needs a smack.

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