The Complete Man Code to Picking Up the Check

Submitted by: gnazzah 7 years ago in
http://www.asylum.com/2009/11/10/the-man-code-to-picking-up-the-check/

Guys, chances are you don"t know what they hell you"re doing when you"re at a restaurant or bar. Here"s how it"s done...
There are 52 comments:
Female 1,963
Love this phrase "when-the-relationship-gets-real-monotonous-and they-are-not-even-dates-anymore-because-she-is-wearing-sweatpants-and-has-no-makeup-on dates". Not true for most relationships though, once you are actually in a relationship, most of the time you split the bill. At least every relationship that I know of.
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Female 523
not true, my boyfriend and i pay for things pretty equally.
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Female 24
We call it a cheque in the UK.
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Female 124
This isnt the case well not in my world anyways...
My ex bf was a total BUM for the first few years we were dating and I paid for EVERYTHING!!!
Eventually when he got a job the odds evened a little...

Now I`m with a new guy who isnt a total loser and we do it 50/50 even though we`re BOTH out of work at the minute. Cant get anymore fair than that.

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Female 427
I pay when I have money. Then for a while I will not be paying and it will go back to square one <.<
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Female 4
If he doesn`t pay for you, it`s not a date. If she doesn`t let you pay for her, it`s not a date.
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Female 8
Lol @ baileyabb....
GothicQueen...Um, yes it does. We have vaginas and boobies!!! Actually, when I first start dating someone he will pay the first 2 or 3 times then I start treating him. If it`s my idea to go out, or I pick the restaurant then I am definitely paying. I also ALWAYS pay for my parents, my nephew and his prego wife spend enough of my mom`s money.
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Male 490
I think if you ask someone out for a date, or just out in general, you should pay for the person.

If it`s just something both want to go to, then each should pay themselves.

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Female 135
I always used to pay for my ex... cuz he was a broke ass. but my current boyfriend used to always buy when we FIRST started dating but now we usually take turns buying... cuz i DON`T like him paying ALL the time.
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Female 895
I have always paid for my (ex)boyfriends....`cause I date losers,evidently.
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Female 535
Well, that`s just complete bs. Offer to pay, but then I`ll refuse & we`ll split it. That`s usually how it goes down in my world.
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Female 4,376
I think it`s ridiculous men should have to pay for everything. Just because you`re a girl doesn`t entitle you to a free meal.
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Female 136
my boyfriend and i always just pay for ourselves.
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Male 1,265
Thanks (Y)
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Male 2,034
KMeTG: It`s actually "hand and hand". You did say to correct you if you were wrong.

And I think that if a dude asks a girl out on a date, she shouldn`t have to pay, because the dude asked her to be there in the first place.

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Male 1,265
"Mano y mano is what you would expect: to each his own."

Correct me if I`m wrong, but doesn`t `mano y mano` mean `hand to hand`?

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Female 1,427
There`s only been one time chivalry`s ever pissed me off: this guy thought he was being smooth and actually threw his jacket down over a puddle for me.

Except his jacket wasn`t thick enough to do poo in the 4-inch mini pool and all it did was make him look stupid and me wonder WTF?

And then he flat out said because I was a woman I shouldn`t be getting my feet dirty.

Well drat yourself. Buy something outside of Hot Topic next time.

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Female 1,427
"See its people like you that make it hard for men like me.
You go out with one girl and she`s like "Pfft im i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t I don`t need no man opening my doors"

then you meet another girl who is like "What a bastard you won`t even attempt to do a nice thing for me?"

WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING US."

As long as I get to open doors too for guys, and I buy meals for them back, we`re good.

It`s not a matter of chivalry or lack thereof. I have a job. I make money. I`m not desperately broke. Therefore I should be able to use my income to buy meals for my boyfriend as well, or cover the concert, or movies, or drinks, etc.

Chivalry/buying meals etc for women used to make sense. Women were supposed to be in the house, they didn`t have paying jobs, etc.

But if you`re a woman, and you have a job, and you`re making a steady income, it`s just drated up to expect the guy to pay for everything.

There`s only been one time chivalry`s ever pissed me off: t

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Female 73
Hmmm, I guess I`m thinking about this whole paying thing wrong... I dunno, if I was going steady with a guy, I`d assume we`d flip flop who pays for it seems more even. And if the girl asked the guy out, wouldn`t the person who did the asking pay, regardless of gender?

"WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING US."

No, because it`s too amusing. =P XD

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Female 3,828
didnt tell me anything i didnt already know.
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Male 1,129
so true lol
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Male 7,933
"I would rather be equal to everyone, pay my own check, and be respected for who I am as a person than had doors held for me merely because I am a woman."

See its people like you that make it hard for men like me.
You go out with one girl and she`s like "Pfft im i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t I don`t need no man opening my doors"

then you meet another girl who is like "What a bastard you won`t even attempt to do a nice thing for me?"

WOMEN, STOP CONFUSING US.

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Male 1,406
Good thing I don`t have to worry about this stuff since I don`t go on dates, or eat food with people! No money problems! Yay...!
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Male 404
Meh. I hold the door open for anyone, not just girls. And girls will hold doors open for me. It`s just being polite.
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Male 3,756
There were some heavy boxes at work the other day, so a female co-worker asked me and another guy to handle them. I asked why and she said it was because we were guys. I then told her I could not work in such a sexist environment and refused to do it. Next time anything needs to be organized I`ll call her over and ask her to do it up becuase she`s a woman and they`re better at those kind of things.

Note: I was only joking and took it as a compliment that she needed my strong, manly muscles to help out. Of course, she should take it as a compliment when I need her superior organizational skills.

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Male 504
I don`t pay for every meal I will pay for half or pay if the girl is short on cash.
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Male 156
"It`s because I`m a broke-ass college student."
So am I! What are we gonna do, then? :P
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Male 975
samsquatch if u werent kidding id be pissed haha
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Female 15,763
I would really like it if people paid for my check at a restaurant... but that has nothing to do with chivalry. It`s because I`m a broke-ass college student.
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Male 101
Sexism is a cop-out. It`s called dating. If i were dating a guy, guess what I would do? I would pick up the tab, open the door, and treat that person nicely. The way you treat someone you are dating in order to show favor and affection. If he tried to do the same thing for me, we would have a chuckle, and then bone.
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Female 1,677
I think everybody is misunderstanding cagel. She didn`t say she didn`t want people opening doors for her, she said she didn`t want people opening doors for her.. just because she`s a woman. There`s a difference.

"It`s simply showing respect to women by treating them with respect. This isn`t a bad thing. It`s not that we think you can`t hold the door for yourself. It`s that we want to show you a level of respect you deserve."

I don`t know what you`re talking about. If you open the door open for everybody, then go nuts. But I don`t see why you need to `show respect` for women by opening doors for them, because they `deserve respect`. Everybody deserves respect. When you make it about gender, it gets weird.

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Female 226
Cagel: Seriously? Many people (myself included) always open doors for people as a common courtesy, provided they`re nearby. I really don`t get why you would want to be given less respect than everyone else, especially as a defense for feminism.
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Female 318
How about ASK the chick who she thinks should pay on the FIRST date. If her philosophy and yours don`t match, find a different girl.
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Female 1,077
stupid feminists. someone holds the door for you, a kind gesture, and you complain because you feel like you have to one-up the man. real classy.
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Male 4,746
cagel, men are raised to open doors for women (although, if I`m first through a door, I hold it open for who ever is behind me). Men are taught to respect women. Men are taught to pay the bill. etc. etc.

It`s not a sign of disrespect. It really isn`t. It`s simply showing respect to women by treating them with respect. This isn`t a bad thing. It`s not that we think you can`t hold the door for yourself. It`s that we want to show you a level of respect you deserve. If a woman holds a door open for me, I thank her. I don`t feel patronized or belittled.

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Male 2,229
What load of poo, the author should be the one "man up" on "manliness" and exercise common sense

and those that don`t use or have common sense should be relegated to shallow end of the gene pool

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Male 1,550
"SEXIST.

And you may complain that I am killing chivalry and you`d be damn right. Chivalry is a display, not an actuality of respect. I would rather be equal to everyone, pay my own check, and be respected for who I am as a person than had doors held for me merely because I am a woman.

"I never expect a man to pay my way. I am an adult and can fund my own fun. That being said, I treat people to meals all the time, and sometimes receive them myself. You know why? Because that`s what friends who respect and enjoy each other do; regardless of gender."

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Oh, hello there Feminazi.

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Male 10,440
If you look at other articles written by the same fool they`re all along the lines of "The Complete Man Code to _____"
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Male 788
must be cagels time of the month
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Female 275
SEXIST.

And you may complain that I am killing chivalry and you`d be damn right. Chivalry is a display, not an actuality of respect. I would rather be equal to everyone, pay my own check, and be respected for who I am as a person than had doors held for me merely because I am a woman.

I never expect a man to pay my way. I am an adult and can fund my own fun. That being said, I treat people to meals all the time, and sometimes receive them myself. You know why? Because that`s what friends who respect and enjoy each other do; regardless of gender.

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Male 1,002
This has been out-dated for at least 20 years. I`m pretty sure even the most conservative opinion is that the guy pays for the first few dates and after that it`s either alternating or 50/50. Again, that`s still pretty conservative.
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Male 792
[i]if you both have jobs y not spend some money on our dates instead of ur $150 Uggs[/i]

Obviously you haven`t heard man`s favourite word...fellatio.

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Male 10,440
Boooooo!! This is old fashioned. All of the dates I`ve been on, the girl has always at least offered to pay her share.
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Male 1,929
A restaurant has never checked me for anything after a meal, ever. I have no idea what this article is talking about.
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Male 975
thank god my girl and me go 50-50...it has nothing to do with cheapness, its a very stupid idea that the male has to pay every time. if you both have jobs y not spend some money on our dates instead of ur $150 Uggs
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Male 2,703
my high school girlfriend paid for both of us almost 75% of the time if not more, my current wife while we were dating did the same.

I know its common courtesy for the man to pick up the tab, but all the girls I dated and I paid the bill, not ostentatiously either mind you, ended in a failed relationship. the 2 girls who took the bill were my longest relationships.

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Male 2,332
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it"

-Dave Chapelle-

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Female 917
I always insist on paying for what I buy. Guys always paying is stupid
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Male 25,416
aww, my post got removed on this!
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Female 275
haahaa i treat my boyfriend to lunch/dinner like a third of the time :q
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Male 25,416
Allot of that is pre programmed into us anyway!
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Male 203
Link: The Complete Man Code to Picking Up the Check [Rate Link] - Guys, chances are you don`t know what they hell you`re doing when you`re at a restaurant or bar. Here`s how it`s done...
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