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They`re people, just like every other person on the planet. Who cares if they like members of the same sex? I mean, honestly. It`s not that big of a deal. You`ve gotta respect other people`s lives. And if they happen to like the gender opposite of yours, well, deal with it. That`s part of their lives. If a roommate was making advances on you, even after you told him that you didn`t "swing that way", or however else you wanna say it, then you have every right to be angry, and must confront him about it. But if they`ve never made advances toward you, and you find out their gay after knowing them for a while, well, nothing happened originally, why would things be any different?
My point is, gay people are people too. Treat them like regular people. And don`t make fun of them; it`s not nice, and you have no right to do so.
All this to say that I`m 100% straight, but that`s not blinding me from simple facts. Anyway, sorry about the double post, guys.
I don`t know why it`s such a big deal. Honestly, I don`t. If I knew a friend who I had *thought* was straight, but turned out to be gay, I`d be surprised, of course, but I wouldn`t look at them any differently. It`s still the same person. And besides, some gay people are actually really fun to talk to. Not that the conversations revolve around their orientation, they just happen to add something to the conversation with their opinions. And I`m not grouping all gays into one group, I`d never do that. Are straight people all grouped into one (I mean the subgroups, in retrospect)? (I have too many characters :L I`ll have to make a double post.
"WHAARDMSAFKG?!? DUUNNHNGSBK SNSDKA WZAAA!!! I`M NOT GAY!! WZSAHAHANA GNNNN BDAH!"
I think he might also have a speech impediment.
Really, really stupid.
If that`s how people interpret my Scottish accent elkingo, I`m going mute from now on.
I second that motion
Though my issue is that if a friendship had already developed before coming out, then there really is no rational reason for suddenly having a fear. If the gay roommate hasn`t hit on the straight guy he probably won`t. Just like if the neo-nazi hasn`t already spouted his propaganda on the first day he won`t do it after you find out. Besides, for gays, we won`t make a move on anyone until he`s got hints that the other party is capable of having an interest (either that or they like to get punched in the face). if the other party isn`t interested we`ll go for the next one, like straight people do. As long as the neo-nazi isn`t out to torture me I`d happily live along, just like I expect my straight roomate not to have a fear of me bum-raping him.
Now if you were talking about being out all the way, putting up posters of naked men and bringing in guys for sex, yes, that`s a serious concern.
But they don`t!!! honestly! All straight men don`t wanna bone me lol They don`t wanna bone my grandmother...they don`t wanna bone my friend jenn. Really it`s true. But sometimes it seems like straight guys want to sex up every girl they see but really they don`t even if they just give the illusion
Link itself: Kinda funny, but in a really stupid way. The guys accent sounded more like he had Downs then he was gay.
Man do YOU have some learning to do... LOL :-)
And there you have the problem in a nutshell (no pun intended). I can`t express my opinion or point out what should be plain common sense without being homophobic, panicky, or accusing you of wanting to have sex with me? Put aside preconceptions of bias for a moment and look rationally - it DOES matter whether your roommate is straight or gay because you have a right to have a roommate who is not going to make sexual advances on you. I am NOT saying that every gay man automatically will do so, but how would you feel if you were roomed with one of those neo-nazi supremicist nuts? There is no guarantee that he will bash you, but it still wouldn`t be appropriate... same thing. Its not about gaybashing, its about common sense and equal rights for ALL.
so if you find out one of your friends is gay room mate or not i don`t see why it`s a big deal. if you didn`t know before then obviously they weren`t making it obvious because they didn`t want to upset you. Really most people gay or straight don`t want to f*ck their friends and the ones that wish they could already know it isn`t gonan happen so they don`t pressure you.
Really why do guys get panicky over gay men? Some women do too and I just don`t get it. If i know you`re straight i aint gonna hit on ya. I actually respect peoples sexuality.
Heck, in fact that`s probably what would happen if my roomates came in on me while I watch gay porn... :-D (crossing my fingers they won`t).
And really, Lionhart, I really really don`t get why straight guys get so panicky if they discover someone close to them is gay. If I wanted to have sex with you I`d be flirting with you already.
That part TOTALLY lost me.
Oh of course not, these days we all have to be so politically correct that we couldn`t possibly make a big deal of it!!! IT *IS* A BIG DEAL, all the political correctness in the world doesn`t change that. If you expect to room with a bloke and then find out that bloke wants to bum you, its exactly the same as if a woman was boarded with another woman for a year and then finds out the second woman is a guy in disguise. Of course it would be wrong! This PC is BS, it DOES make a difference and no-one should be ashamed to say so.