Why we Lie

Submitted by: buddy 11 years ago in Science
http://www.livescience.com/humanbiology/060515_why_lie.html

Everyone lies, except for me, of course.
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Male 2,605
The article seems to be referring primarily to self-concept. We each hold an image of the person we would like to be - called the ideal self - and an image of the person we really are - the actual self. The greater the discrepancy between the ideal and actual selves, the greater levels of anxiety we experience, and therefore the more likely we are to lie to reduce the anxiety levels and preserve our self-esteem. Lying, therefore, can also be a defensive mechanism for preserving self-esteem, which is vitally important to social humans.

This article also seems to tie in cognitive dissonance.

For those of you interested in this article, I suggest you read up on both the terms I have mentioned, or take a Psychology class. Fascinating stuff, it is.

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Female 272
Everyone lies, and we buy it but deep in the subconcious portion of our brains we know that its all bull sh.it
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Female 706
"Why would someone claim be to someone (s)he`s not? That`s stupid... just be yourself!"

Telling a few white lies here and there isn`t "not being yourself"
If you tell someone you`re an all star baseball player when you`re a scrawny pasty guy, then that`s not being yourself. But at least if the girl is nearsighted, you`ll get laid. So it`s better.

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Female 117
Wait. Was was that so interesting? I thought it was kind of obivous..
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Female 1,262
I lie all the time. Except there. And that. And that.
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Male 114
everything I say to you is a lie. HA! WRAP YOUR BRAIN AROUND THAT!
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Male 161
Everybody lies...Unless that was a lie...
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Male 451
i lie too
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Male 1,407
^ You either

a. are lying or

b. have no social tact.

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Female 1,984
The below statement is true.
The above statement is false.


... anyway, that article gave a generalization - not everyone lies. Last time I lied was about 10 years ago - about hiding candy.
- I don`t tell white lies either. I will bluntly tell someone the truth. If they can`t take it, tough.
- If I don`t want to tell the truth - I don`t say anything.
- If I don`t like someone, I`ll say so. If your cooking is bad, your haircut is bad... whatever. I`ll tell you as nicely as possible. But I WILL tell you to save you further embarrassment from other people later on.
- Why would someone claim be to someone (s)he`s not? That`s stupid... just be yourself!

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Female 37
I am lyk George Washington, but I did tell my classmates that I had a metal plate in my head when the magnet stuck to my forehead..
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Male 50
hey lying is part of life we all have masks we have to wear in our work social personal and private lives if we didn`t we would go insane i`m almost sure i would not have been happily married for the last ten years or even got married if when we first dated my wife knew the full truth about everything i had done in life she knows know but sometimes you can be to honest to start with as long as you don`t tell REAL lies i don`t see what the harm is in telling someone a half truth untill you really get to know them
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Male 143
But metter, if it`s not false (ie true) that means that it must be false... which means that it can`t be false...
Think about that for a while.
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Male 1,016
^^SO IT MEANS ITS NOT FALSE??
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Male 1,407
This statement is false.
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Male 555
Very interesting... Sometimes I`ve wondered if there has ever been an individual who lived their entire life from birth into old age, without ever telling a single lie.... implausible but not impossible... Impossible to prove however.
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Female 61
I thought this was all pretty obvious. How depressing that we seem to need these guys to tell us why we lie. We know, thank you very much. Go patronise some toddlers.
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Female 1,120
I lie and i know why. Because i don`t want to tell people the fuc*ing truth thats why.
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Male 15
too many big words for my 9th grade education :p haha
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Male 1,115
Yay for philosophical disscusions! Reminds me of my last college course. But of course no one lies. I never lie. Nope. Never. What? Oh... so my nose grew 10 feet, that doesnt mean anything.
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Male 664
I lie.
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Male 916
I was right in being suspicious of people saying they hate lying.
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Male 1,521
We lie because it help us explain stuff! If we would say the truth right the way it would be hard for others to take it! It is a way of easy things! Well at least some sort of lies! I guess! Oh what the hell! We are just inperfect evil creatures!
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Male 84
I dont lie , im Vulcan.
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Female 296
That really was fascinating. It`s a shame we`re all so self concsious, isn`t it?
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Female 1,033
that was insanely interesting..i liked this the best and thought it made the most sence-

"We`re trying not so much to impress other people but to maintain a view of ourselves that is consistent with the way they would like us to be," Feldman said. We want to be agreeable, to make the social situation smoother or easier, and to avoid insulting others through disagreement or discord.

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Male 10,115
Link: Why we Lie [Rate Link] - Everyone lies, except for me, of course.
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